The absolute heartbreak of your first love blowing up in your face causing you to pursue partner after partner to erase that, while simultaneously ALSO wanting a new intimate relationship, is so deeply relatable. Like as much as the casual hookups was about getting back at Harry, it was also about undoing the stain of Jake, while also learning what HER wants and needs were
YES! and there is so much AGENCY and freedom in 1989, whereas with red we talked a lot about how these are things that she perceived as happening to her. the problem is that the agency also felt Bad, just in a completely different way.












