A Safe Space To Talk About Being Queer

Bisexual | Genderfluid | She/They

[bi-the-wave]

the tea is hot! 🍵

i wish more people knew what sapphic 💕💕💕 is because people don’t understand how i’m bisexual and not interested in men. 🙄

like... for me... i am biSEXual but i could never love a man. idgaf what your gender is, we can definitely fuck. Sure. BUT... my soulmate is a womxn or nonbinary (includes genderfluid, etc.) person.

you know what? maybe i should just start using sapphic. it’s not like people understand bisexuality or the bi+ umbrella in general... even people within the LGBTQIA+ community...

[bi-the-wave]

Family: *says and does a plethora of homophobic, biphobic, and transphobic shit*

Also family: we love you

Me: *is*

Family: you know we love you right?

Me: lol do you really now? k.

[queerplatonicpositivity]

[ ID: The QP flag with a translucent overlay and a stencil-like icon of a person actively using a wheelchair, with the words “Disabled” at the top and “and queer af” at the bottom. ]

I’ll be making more of these with different flags. If you’ve got a flag you’d like to see me use, let me know in the notes, please!

[bi-the-wave]

“how do you know you’re *insert gender*”

bitch, how do you know you’re whatever you are... 🙄

[bi-the-wave]

this is so annoying

everytime i look for something to watch i can never find the representation i’m looking for because i’m AFAB, Black, bi, and genderfluid... LMFFFAO. i’m laughing because it might sound like a lot but it really isn’t... i’m also laughing because i decided to create my own story to share. hehehe. writing gives me so much power. i’m gonna use it very fucking well... representation for everyone!!! 💜

[bi-the-wave]

there is nothing wrong or false about your gender and/or sexuality 🌈✨

warning: idk who is gonna respond to this post so to prevent hate comments coming to you directly please don’t reblog if you aren’t in a good place right now 💖

Tumblr is often a safe space for many of us with access to internet but there are still hateful ass people in the all queer tags especially ones regarding gender so...

I am throwing this post into the mix to tell any phobes to leave us TF alone! Our identities are and always have been valid and real. 🖕🏾

and most importantly to tell all y’all queers to laugh at those hateful words because not a single one of them is true. I know how much they can hurt, but you know what... Warriors get hurt all the time but they never lose that fighting spirit. And neither will we because honestly, FUCK that. 😇 You are soooo awesome and beautiful. Nothing of true beauty is sinful, disgusting, or unnatural. HATE IS UNNATURAL!

if you find yourself feeling down here are a few things that might help:

say something like “I am valid”, “I am real”, “I’m the shit”, “I am proud to be *insert gender/sexuality*”, “I am beautiful” out loud OR write it down over and over again

reach out to someone that supports you

scroll down your favorite blog/a blog that you know is safe (this really helps when i do it)

sending the queerest positive energy

✨🌈🦄💕😇🥰🙌🏾😅🤪👑🌸⭐️

[bi-the-wave]

hello lovelies ✨✨✨

i just want to let all my fellow queers know that you can still be happy and enjoy your life even if your family/“friends” don’t support you... trust me, i know it sucks. my entire family is homophobic, biphobic, transphobic in addition to being toxic af in a variety of other ways.

but you know what? you will be so much happier once you free yourself from anyone toxic to you... we all have our different situations but at some point you will be able to move out, build a chosen family, relax or do whatever it is you need to do.

i say this to you and to myself: please, keep fighting... you got this. you’re beautiful. :)

in the mean time, here are some things that could help and only require yourself:

find a book to escape in every now and then

journal about your feelings and don’t hold back... or about scenarios that make you smile! write poems, songs, short stories...

when you are in a good mood, make a list or a few lists of positive and motivational stuff and read one whenever you are feeling down... you could do notes instead... if you aren’t a word person, try a collage!

set reminders on your phone so you will get notifications like: “you can do this”, “i believe in you”, “keep going!”, “good morning”, “drink water”...

find a hobby!!! drawing, painting, writing, running, hiking, keeping animals, photography, filmmaking, baking, cooking, reading, fashion, singing, dancing, yoga, exercising, volunteering, cosplaying, gaming, streaming...

and the most important thing is... PLEASE STAY SAFE to the best of your ability. ✨

[bi-the-wave]

*gasps in bisexual*

So I used to be on this team in HS and we made handmade crafts or whatever. One of my team members was very pretty. I kind of had a thing for her. Anyways, I knew I was bisexual but I was still in that denial and self-acceptance phase.

Me: *says something flirty because I’m a huge f****** flirt especially when it comes to girls*

Teammate: *smiles* Are you flirting with me? 

Me, a disaster bi: *bi panic* Wh-What? Huh. N-No. *blushes in awkward silence*

And this is the moment I was like holy shit I’m soooo soooo bi. I wonder how many times I’ve flirted with girls and didn’t realize it was playful AND romantic. Huuummm... I wonder if someone has caught me checking a girl out in class. Damn.  

[allthesebees-deactivated2019070]

sometimes I really want a boyfriend then other times I want a girlfriend and then sometimes I’ll see a cute girl and be like damn and other times I’ll see a cute boy and be like daMN and anyway being bisexual is exhausting

[bisexualgorgeous]

this is a bisexuals only post

[coolmakeupgoals-blog]

[bi-the-wave]

...

It’s crazy how people say they love you but things change when you come out to them... So many people have a fragile love for you. 

Things changed in a negative way when I came out to my family. It’s weird because I don’t regret it because I feel a little better about myself BUT I still don’t feel like I can be myself. I’m so uncomfortable in what’s supposed to be my home. I feel uncomfortable around my own family. I don’t have any support.

Then I feel uncomfortable about going to church. I’m not religious how you might think. I believe in the universe and stuff. Anyways, I just feel like a fraud. A pretender. I don’t know... It justs hurts to know that they only love part of me. One tiny little detail could change everything if they somehow found out. My heart starts beating at the thought of it. 

My family doesn’t even notice what I’m going through. They never noticed my depression and anxiety before this. They never pay that much attention to me. It doesn’t matter anyway. They wouldn’t understand. They’d only make it worse.

[bi-the-wave]

I really need queer friends...

My mother doesn’t like the terms “straights” or “cishets”. My brother can be homophobic but she has the nerve to say something to me about these terms. WOW. 

[bi-the-wave]

What the actual f***...?

Me: I'm bisexual.

Mom: So do you identify as a lesbian?

[bi-the-wave]

I really like my best friend (she’s bi also) as more than a friend and I’m trying to ignore it because there’s so many things that wouldn’t work out, but she’s confusing me SO MUCH by like acting cuddly and stuff. WHAT DO I DO

I would talk to her about how she’s confusing you before you tell her you like her. That way you two can have a conversation and hopefully clear everything up.

Also, keep in mind how you said there are many things that wouldn’t work out. If you two do want to have a relationship make sure it’s healthy!!! 

[bi-the-wave]

So last night I was watching a show with my family. I was looking forward to it because I heard there was LGBT rep. As we were watching the show I could feel the tension when the queer character was shown or talked about. Then my mom was like “there’s your LGBT rep” in such a yucky tone. I felt so out of place and uncomfortable. Then the sex scene. I ALWAYS skip past sex scenes when I’m watching with family. My mom is usually like lol don’t skip and tries to be funny. This was a queer sex scene and my mom had the opposite reaction. It was just so much. I can feel my family thinking “is that what she does/wants to do ew...” 

Anyways, I was feeling so down all last night. I went to bed sad and woke up sad. People don’t understand how this impacts my mental health. I’m already depressed... My head... I just feel so foggy and exhausted. I feel so numb. And I can’t even cry because I ran out of tears a while ago. I’m just thankful I was able to get myself out of bed. I’ve let myself spiral too far before and that was a mess. I have to be my own defender. I am my only defender. I have to defend me for me. Huh... 

[bi-the-wave]

how do i tell my friend that i like her? god she's the most radiant girl ive ever met, and she's perfect. WHAT DO I DO? -lovestruck lulu

(sorry for any typos)

I would start by dropping little hints in your actions and words to simmer down the possible shock. Then, after a little time has passed I would recommend asking her if you two can talk. I wouldn’t tell her in front of people and stuff... Also, make sure you tell her in person. Try to keep what you have to say short, simple, and clear. Make sure you include a few reasons why you like her. It is totally okay to be nervous but try to have a relaxed voice. 

An alternative would be to write her a letter. I don’t know if she’s the type of person who would prefer talking in person but this is a great option if you don’t want to do the whole talking thing. I don’t know... Maybe she likes handwritten things... 

You got this!!! If things don’t go the way you may have imagined, make sure you assure her that you two can still be friends. 

I wish you the best! I hope everything goes well!!! Feel free to let me know how it went... :) <3