❀ THE MUSLIM WOMAN AND HER LORD ❀
She worships Allaah alone
She regularly prays 5 x a day
She prays sunnah and nafl prayers
She performs her prayers properly
She pays Zakah on her wealth
She fasts during the day and prays during the night in Ramadan
She performs Hajj and Umrah
She is obedient to the commands of Allaah
She does not sit alone with, freely mix with or shake the hands of strange men
She does not travel except with a mahram
She accepts the will and decree of Allaah
She turns to Allaah in repentance often
Her main concern is seeking the pleasure of Allaah
She understands the true meaning of being a servant to Allaah
She works to support the religion of Allaah (Islaam)
Her loyalty is to Allaah alone
She enjoins what is good and forbids what is evil
She reads the Qur-aan and ponders over its meaning often
❀ THE MUSLIM WOMAN AND HER OWN SELF ❀
She eats and drinks in moderation
Her body and clothes are always clean
She takes good care of her skin, teeth and hair
She does not go to extremes of beautification or make a wanton display of herself
She takes care of her mind by actively pursuing knowledge
She is aware and learns from women’s achievements in the field of knowledge
She never stops reading and studying
She uses her time wisely and does not fill her mind with soap operas and things that do not benefit
She performs acts of worship regularly to purify her soul
She keeps company with righteous people and attends religious gatherings
She frequently repeats du’aa described in the Qur-aan and Sunnah
❀ THE MUSLIM WOMAN AND HER PARENTS ❀
She treats them with kindness and respect
She recognizes their status and knows her duties towards them
She is kind and respectful towards her parents even if they are not Muslim
She is extremely reluctant to disobey them
Her mother comes first, then her father
❀ THE MUSLIM WOMAN AND HER HUSBAND ❀
She chooses a good husband
She is obedient to him and shows respect
She treats his mother and family with kindness and respect
She endears herself to him and is keen to please him
She does not disclose his secrets
She stands by him always and offers her advice
She encourages her husband to spend for the sake of Allaah
She supports him to call others to the religion of Islaam
She helps him to obey Allaah and makes it easy when she can
She fills his heart with joy
She beautifies herself for him
She is cheerful and grateful when she meets him
She shares his joys and sorrows
She does not look at, sit with, freely converse with or shake the hands of other men
She does not describe other women to him
She tries to create an atmosphere of peace and tranquility for him
She is tolerant and forgiving
She is strong in character and wise
❀ THE MUSLIM WOMAN AND HER CHILDREN ❀
She understands the great responsibility that she has towards her children
She uses the best methods in bringing them up
She raises them upon tawheed and teaches them to obey Allaah and be conscious of Him from a young age
She demonstrates her love and affection for them
She treats her sons and daughters equally and does not discriminate in her love, affection and care
She does not invoke against her children
She is alert and aware of everything that may influence them
She instills good behavior, manners and attitude in them
❀ THE MUSLIM WOMAN AND HER SONS/DAUGHTERS-IN-LAW ❀
She knows how to make a good choice in selecting a daughter-in-law
She gives advice but does not interfere in their private life
She respects her and treats her well and makes herself approachable
She knows how to make a good choice in selecting a son-in-law
She respects and honours him
She helps her daughter to be a good wife to him
She is fair and never biased in favour of her daughter
She deals with the problems wisely
❀ THE MUSLIM WOMAN AND HER RELATIVES ❀
She upholds the ties of kinship according to the teachings of Islaam
She maintains the ties even with non-Muslim relatives
She maintains the ties even if her relatives fail to do so and understands the broad meaning of upholding ties of kinship
❀ THE MUSLIM WOMAN AND HER NEIGHBOURS ❀
She is kind and friendly towards her neighbours
She adheres to the Islamic teachings regarding the good treatment of neighbours
She likes for her neighbours what she likes for herself
She treats her neighbours well even if they are not Muslim
She puts up with her neighbours mistakes and bad treatments and understands that a bad neighbour is a person who is deprived of the blessing of faith
❀ THE MUSLIM WOMAN AND HER FRIENDS/SISTERS IN ISLAAM ❀
She loves them as sisters for the sake of Allaah
She knows the status of the two who love each other for His sake
She does not forsake or abandon her sisters
She is tolerant and forgiving towards them
She meets them with a smiling face
She is sincere, kind and faithful towards them
She does not gossip with or about them
She avoids arguing, hurtful jokes and breaking promises
She prays for her sisters in their absence
She is generous and honours them
❀ THE MUSLIM WOMAN AND HER COMMUNITY/SOCIETY ❀
She has a good attitude and treats others well
She is truthful and avoids giving false statements
She guides others to do righteous deeds
She does not cheat, deceive or stab in the back
She is characterized by shyness
She does not interfere in that which does not concern her
She refrains from slandering the honour of others and seeking their faults
She does not show off or boast
She is fair in her judgements, even to those whom she does not like
She avoids suspicion, backbiting and the spread of malicious gossip
She avoids cursing and foul language
She is gentle and kind, compassionate and merciful - she does not make fun of anybody
She strives for people’s benefit and seeks to protect them from harm
She helps to alleviate the burden of the debtor
She does not remind beneficiaries of her charity
She is patient, easy going and does not bear grudges
She avoids boasting and seeking fame
She is friendly and likeable, light hearted and has a sense of humour
She tries to make people happy
She is not arrogant or proud - rather she is humble and modest
She is moderate with regard to her clothing and appearance
She loves noble things and strives to aim high
She prefers others over herself
She frequently checks that her habits and customs are in accordance to Islamic guidelines
She follows Islamic manners in the way she eats and drinks
She spreads the greeting of salaam (assalaamu alaykum)
She does not enter a house other than her own without permission
She does not converse privately with another woman when a third is present
She avoids yawning in a gathering as much as she can
She follows Islamic etiquette when she sneezes
She chooses the work that suits her feminine nature
She calls people to the truth, and enjoins good and forbids evil
She is wise and eloquent when giving da’wah
She strives to reconcile between Muslim woman
She mixes with other woman and is tolerant with their shortcomings
She repays favours and shows gratitude
I highly, highly recommend the book “The Ideal Muslimah” by Muhammad Ali Al-Hashimi to all my Muslim sisters. May Allaah subhaanahu wa ta’aala make us from amongst the best of women, ever.
