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bisa • she/her • 20 • hello, i am here to spread love and positivity! i hope that my blog makes you smile and feel appreciated!

[assiraphales]

don’t hate urself, hate the system that made u feel insecure about every single aspect of ur life

[assiraphales]

to name just a few that I’ve personally dealt with

-it’s ok to be living with your family over the age of 18

-it’s ok if you’ve never had a relationship, and if you still haven’t had your first kiss

-it’s ok to have cellulite. it’s ok to not to work out

-it’s ok not to have a huge friend group, or a big social media presence

-it’s ok if you’re not “conventionally” attractive bc that concept is made up!!!!

-it’s ok if you aren’t good at make up, and don’t want to be. it is not lazy for a women to go bare face.

-it’s ok if you didn’t go to parties and drink excessive amounts during high school, high school is so glamorized in tv and it’s not a true depiction. high school is NOT the best four years of your life. neither is college. you did not miss out.

-it’s ok to not know what you want to do, or change your ideas 1000 times. if you want to go back to school @ 28, do it. there is no age limit on education

-it’s ok to have body positivity for others but not yourself. you are growing.

-most importantly, you have time. you have time

[flowerais-deactivated20211031]

a soft reminder: even though you might be disappointed in how you did this year, you still made a lot of progress. you tried and tried again, so many times. every little thing you achieved. every breakdown you got up from. every moment of happiness you encountered. every little act of self care and kindness you did. it all matters. they all helped you grow. they are all small victories to be proud of. it's not always clear to see, because day to day everything feels the same, but I promise you've come a long way since the beginning of the year. so please be extra gentle with yourself when looking back. be proud of yourself too, if you can. you did well.

[flowerais-deactivated20211031]

I hope you find a cozy home in yourself instead of wishing you were more this or less that. I hope you see something in yourself worth loving and protecting. I hope you find something that brings you comfort and lessens the loneliness. I hope you go on long walks and drink your favourite tea. I hope you have books, daydreams, paintbrushes, music and other escapes to hold on to when you have nothing else. I hope you continue to try even when you’re tired and can’t see the end. I hope unexpected good things come to surprise you. I hope you meet someone who lights up your life and makes up for all the goodbyes and endings that came before. I hope you’re going through your day and feel a sense of lightness all over and wonder to yourself, maybe it’s all going to be alright. I hope you make yourself proud. I hope you make new memories full of warmth and peace to replace the bad ones. I hope your heart will be surrounded with flowers, trees and stars. I hope everything gets better for you.

[justseveralowls]

No matter what you have been told, what you have told yourself on your worst nights, or even who you have been. There is good in you, there is hope, there is potential

[warm-suggestions]

Things you don’t need to feel guilty about: eating, how you look, standing up for yourself, relaxing, sleeping in, taking a mental health day, saying “no.”

[recoverr-a-deactivated20210530]

the holidays are a very hard time for a lot of us for many reasons and i hope you know it's okay if you don't feel like celebrating it, especially if it is triggering to you. i hope you find better and brighter times ahead, where you can celebrate your own identity and existence.

[styrke-deactivated20240722]

if you are in a situation where you don’t enjoy being around your family, i want you to know that that’s okay. whether it’s because of the holidays or the pandemic or any other reason that you’re stuck with them.. i want you to know that it’s okay if you don’t enjoy their company, if you feel triggered by their presence or if you would honestly rather just go be alone. you are valid, your feelings are valid. hold on. it’s gonna get better even if it might seem suffocating and never-ending right now. your family’s opinions of you and your life does not determine your worth or purpose in this world. you are strong. do whatever you must to take good care of yourself.

[recoverr-a-deactivated20210530]

just in case you haven’t heard it today:

i’m glad you exist.

someone is rooting for you, even far away.

relax your shoulders! unclench your jaw!

i love you.

[wholesome-suggestion]

online school is tough, it’s a new challenge for a lot of us but it being a challenge doesn’t mean you are incapable of it. you may not do as well as you have in past semesters and that’s okay. you are going through something. we all are, collectively. you are just as smart as you have ever been, you’ve just been tossed into new waters without any paddles. you’ll make it through.

[wholesome-suggestion]

online school is tough, it’s a new challenge for a lot of us but it being a challenge doesn’t mean you are incapable of it. you may not do as well as you have in past semesters and that’s okay. you are going through something. we all are, collectively. you are just as smart as you have ever been, you’ve just been tossed into new waters without any paddles. you’ll make it through.

[thinfatfit]

instagram.com/leslieannmadeit

[caringforourselves]

soft reminder: having a bad day is ok. you’re not overreacting. your feelings are real and valid.

[thoradvice]

romanticize your life. i cannot stress this enough. use scented shower gel and shampoo, so you look forward to showers. go on walks and see how pretty the sky looks. notice the wildflowers on the roadside as you drive. light a candle when you get home to make your room smell good. notice & appreciate the little things in life. it won't cure your mental illness, but it'll make it easier to exist in this world.

[serotoninsuggestion]

an author i love just tweeted about how “big joy and small joy are the same” and how she was just as content the other night eating chocolate and cuddling her dog as she was on her Big Trip to new york and honestly. i think that’s it. this morning i was listening to an audiobook while baking shortbread in my joggers and i realised i really didn’t care what Big Things happened in my future as long as i could keep baking and reading at the weekend and maybe that is the kind of bar we have to set to guard ourselves against disappointment. just appreciate and cherish the mundane stuff and see everything else as a bonus.

[odinsblog]

PSA: less diet culture, more dietitians like this

[thoradvice]

if years of your life have been lost to abuse or mental illness, you're gonna be okay. it can be so easy to feel that you're so far behind you'll never catch up with others, especially if that time was your childhood. but there's no catching up to do. you can go at your own pace, and that's okay. you may never have the life you thought you would, but that's okay. there are new dreams to chase and a whole new life to build. there is so much for you out there other than your past and your present, i promise. you're going to be okay.

[traumasurvivors]

This is so important.

You’re not “far behind”. That’s how I felt for the longest time. I feel older than most of my fellow classmates in university. But there are students decades older than me! It’s all at your own pace. Live your life. You’ve got time.

[sunny-side-vertical]

sending love to all those who are going through a difficult time right now:

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