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let me. innnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

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JEN D'QUEER??? IS ANYONE HERE JEN D'QUEER???

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Day 202/365 of listing something good I saw today:

A small kid at the gocery store was clearly sick of being in the stroller and also Fucking Done with being in the grocery store, and was about to throw a fit at the cashier line before spotting me. One of the small perks of having multiple facial piercings and wearing a funky hat is that every once in a while small children will stop whatever they were doing and stare at you like the man-made horror beyond their comprehension that you righteously are.

So taking the opportunity to turn the situation around, I smiled to the kid, who smiled back, and started waving to me, so I had to wave back. The parents, not saying a word, just smiled as well, evidently also glad that this situation turned into "kid saw a funny-looking stranger and is quietly having fun" kind, instead of the "kid is shrieking because fuck being in the grocery store, ensuing that everyone is having a bad time" kind of situation.

Sometimes all you gotta do is to be a friendly freak in the grocery store.

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Love bein' the local grocery freak.

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the average red state is closer to Sharia Law than Zohran’s NYC

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..... The Fuck™️

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Please don't ask me for relationship advice unless you are prepared to receive some truly upsetting information because some people are ready for the "He's exhibiting the literal textbook signs of a psychological abuser and you need to get away from him before he successfully cuts you off from your support network" talk and some people aren't

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FOR WHOEVER NEEDS A REMINDER:

There is never any justification for someone putting their hands on you in any way without your consent short of immediate risk of harm or death.

If someone tells you that "the way I'm acting is your fault because you know that doing X thing would make me do it and you chose to do it anyway" is just fancy bullshit talk for, "I know my behaviour is wrong, but I don't want to be held responsible for it so I'm pushing it on you"

Nothing good ever, ever comes from someone who tells you, "I don't want you talking about our relationship with anyone". This person cannot handle accepting responsibility and processing criticism so they need you to never, ever question them. That's easier if they control the narrative and your friends aren't there to cut in.

Nothing constructive comes from screaming.

"It's not like that all the time" is optimistic and sweet, but the truth is, it shouldn't be like that at all. Sweet words and gifts and gestures don't erase being frightened for yourself or for your loved ones. That is not normal. Don't minimize it.

It is not healthy or normal to be genuinely afraid of saying "no" to someone, for any reason at all. Violence, outbursts, retaliation, anything. You should not have to be afraid of someone's reaction to your boundaries.

You are not responsible for saving anyone. Even if you love them. Even if they have nobody else. At the end of the day, if they want to hurt themselves in any way, they will, and you can't stop them forever. People need to want to improve before they can actually improve, and if they're threatening to harm themselves to keep you around, they're using your love to hold themselves hostage. You do not decide their choices for them, and they don't get to shunt that off on you.

There will always be other people who can love you better. You will not be alone forever. This will not be the last time you care for someone like this and it will not be the last time someone cares for you

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This applies to ALL relationships btw

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Still think We shoulda risked prison instead.