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hello am clover. aged bisexual. she/they or they/them. three cats in a trenchcoat. 18+over only.

[rukafais]

Some jerk

[st-dionysus]

OK, but will you love the insane woman who stabs people in the back and does toxic yuri to cope, when he transitions to a man? Hmm? Will you?

[st-dionysus]

Will you celebrate and defend transmasculine anger the way you have put up female rage on a pedestal prior to his transition, or will the righteousness of his anger be invalidated when it can no longer be made pretty with a dress?

[st-dionysus]

Or will you demand that he make himself smaller upon transition? Will you revoke his right to revenge when he grows facial hair? Will you see his body as the shape of an enemy when he comes to you bleeding and begs for rest before he goes back out to the battle? Will you deem him unsafe in his sleep, now that you know his name is Jenson and not Jennifer, Mark and not Miriam, Noel instead of Noelle? And when you push him into the grave and burry him alive to make yourself feel better, will you call that righteous too?

[attackdestroy-deactivated202509]

y'know there might be some kind of precedent for this one maybe. like some long-standing and incredibly dangerous pattern of men being allowed to get away with failing to regulate their emotions in ways that become extremely harmful to those around them, most often the women in their life. like there are some extant realities of the world we live in that make male rage really difficult to glorify because as it stands all it nets us is spousal murder and child abuse or something. and maybe the attempts by women to reclaim the alternative could be some kind of pushback against the framing that women are just rashly emotional and should be disparaged for it. like reclaiming and romanticizing the negative and antiquated framing that women are just inherently emotionally driven helps people recognize positive aspects of themselves in the ways cultures can often demonize them while trying to do the same for men just plays directly into the have-their-cake-and-eat-it-too mentality through which men are touted as having nothing of an internal life and quietly excused when that harmful concept reaches its boiling point. and maybe just maybe if you transition and what you feel the need to identify with and reclaim is "male rage" and people raise eyebrows and question their safety around you, your response should not be that they're failing you as friends or allies, but to think critically about why that's the case and how flagrantly and willfully replicating the conditions under which people are made seriously unsafe by their loved ones can exacerbate that. just some thoughts

[st-dionysus]

Nope.

I'm allowed to be angry about the abuse I have experienced under the patriarchy and are transphobic/homophobic/racist society and I am allowed to be angry about the fact that spaces where I was previously allowed to express this anger and spaces that celebrated that anger now think it's OK to throw me back to the system that originally abused me because I have facial hair now so I'm too scary to be in these #rightious-girl-rage spaces. And I'm very much allowed to be angry about the fact that people have decided me being angry about being abused by both cishet-patriarchal society and also queer feminist circles is the same as white cishet men being celebrated for their violence.

So go fuck yourself.

This is a post about how trans men prior to our transitions build communities through constructive anger and then once we transitioned are forcibly removed from those spaces and pushed back into spaces where will be comtiunted to be abused by the cishet normative society and patriarchy.

This is a post about how we're not allowed to express our emotions once cis women can no longer view us as "special-afab-person" and are forced to actually view us as men then decide we are disgusting and threatening for existing post-transition.

So go fuck yourself.

Cis male anger in media might be celebrated, but transmasculine anger is punished by everyone and everything from the healthcare system to feminist circles, from the patriarchy to the pride parade. It's made clear by everyone the ideal trans man is completely silent at all times and certainly never voices complaint when he is abused.

It's made clear that the trans man will be punished if he is angry about being sexually assulated, he will be punished of he is angry about facing domestic abuse, he will be punished if he is angry about dealing with medical abuse, he will be punished if he is angry about the circles he will have to jump through to get the same privileges that were handed to him when he presented as a cis woman, he will be punished if he is angry about the spaces he helped build kicking him about after he starts testoerone, he will be punished if he is angry about the stigmatizion surrounding his HRT or GRS/SRS, and by God, he will be punished if he is angry about being punished for his compeltley reasonable emotional reaction to him being angry about being abused. In all situations, any expression of emotion will be used to punish him.

So go fuck yourself.

[screamininthemirror]

i have to agree with OP. i may be transfemme but god he has a point.

transfemme people also face backlash for feminine rage if they don’t pass. trans people in general face major backlash when they do anything not seen to fit in their fucking gender because god forbid they be people or feel emotions and lash out. we at least have reason to lash out because no matter what we do we’re spit on by society. we’re treated like a sick joke. and mocked and locked out of spaces even amongst ourselves because god some one not fucking perfect be trans or else that’s how everyone will perceive. the scapegoat.

there’s no room for trans rage because god forbid we be upset.

[st-dionysus]

Thank you 💕 and thank you for sharing your experiences as well. Lord knows, we all have to be in this together.

Every trans person who has had to shave their face and soften their voice when speaking, so they're not seen as a "threat" (therefore making us easy to dismiss or ignore) deserves the right to scream about the fact that we are forced to become smaller and subservient around cisgender women in "activist spaces" and "community spaces".

Whether we're transmasc, transneutral, or transfem/me, "afab" or "amab", trans woman or trans man or genderqueer or nonbinary or any combination in the complex realm of gender outside the cis-binary. We all deserve respect and we all deserve the right to express our anger at both the kyriarchy as well as the queer-feminist circles that have coutninted to fail in including and protecting us.

We are human and we have the right to feel emotions, both positive and negative and express those emotions without being attacked or ridiculed for them.

[bittykbitty]

help him.

[bittykbitty]

now is the time to come to your senses (x)

[bittykbitty]

how to train your dragon, fabula ultima edition

[bittykbitty]

very normal party dynamic actually.

[bittykbitty]

did I mention there's a sizekink ship?

[bittykbitty]

I have included a handy reference vs previous characters.

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everyone strap in for the obligatory sizekink ship.

[bittykbitty]

so over the last month I fell in love with a tabletop character again and I'm dusting this off to make her all your problem.

[bittykbitty]

When your wife is also a gigantic prehistoric superpredator....

I'd forgotten I'd drawn something I can actually post to tumblr, oops.

[bittykbitty]

why has everyone suddenly discovered my giant bird lady from two years ago???

[bittykbitty]

the man is dead, your honor.

[bittykbitty]

Well this is just about the stupidest thing I've ever drawn.

[bittykbitty]

I wish I could pretend I didn't need you (x)

[bittykbitty]

the man is dead, your honor.

[bittykbitty]

LO, IT IS FINISHED

Start from the beginning here.

The first time I've written fic in 15 years...thank you all for having come along with me. There will be more, trust.

[bittykbitty]

really trying to figure out why my posts suddenly get none notes. I wonder if it's just tumblr giving up the ghost out here but it is a bit disheartening, ahaha.