So thereās this girlā¦
I started talking to from threads because of a picture I posted on a dating thread asking for liberal dudes that legit got like 5000 likes and boosted my ego. She lives in tampa, where Iām visiting now and moving in a month
Weāve had some GREAT conversations. Like what we want, how we want to be as partners, on top of other compatible stuff. Sheās a nurse, two kids, been through some SHIT but sheās strong af and I like it.
Iām in tampa now but I had asked if she wanted to go on our date this weekend or when I moved, and she said when I move which Iām good with. She works this weekend anyway, and also didnāt want to wait a month between seeing each other again which I was on the fence about and brought up when I asked.
Iām⦠over thinking talking to her. Iām not trying to purposefully wait days to talk, but sometimes she doesnāt respond and I donāt want to text too much. Because frankly I HAVE BEEN OVERBEARING in the past and her and I havenāt even met.
And I donāt think sheās ignoring the texts I just donāt think she needed to respond always because ⦠sheās a busy nurse with two careers and two kids and we havenāt even met. Like, what do I expect? There are priorities and āguy from threadsā isnāt one yet, it just isnāt.
But the last thing I sent was three days again and was about Nightmare before Christmas because itās one of her favorites⦠and it was a movie I hadnāt seen? It just somehow slipped through the cracks?
So I watched it and told her and she never responded and NOW Iām overthinking āoh god she thinks itās too much to watch her favorite movie when we havenāt even Met, no matter how good the conversations wereā and like I should wait for her to text next?
But now it feels like Iām strategizing how get her to like me more or talk when I really just want to keep talking to her which feels like Iām being overbearing and ā¦
I did avoid messaging her when her insta note said she had a cold. I was gonna be like ādamn shame. I make great soupā or something dumb and flirty and then was like no thatās too much, she didnāt respond to the Movie thing.
Iām not good at subtle or not rushing in. I like effort and romance and I need to just chill and not over think. Save that shit for after an actual date??
Iāve never been good at pacing this stuff.
I just needed to type this out so I stop bottling it and over thinning it. Sheās going to want to go out still when I move down
I just⦠I donāt get tons of dates and times it havenāt had many second dates lately. And itās always Chemistry thatās the reason which means either A) itās chemistry or B) they are being polite. Both are fine. I just feel like Iām doing something wrong and donāt know what.
UGHHHHHHHHHH dating is hard