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My friends engagement is off and there are trade offs

Pro: she’s a catch and deserves Someone who wants her

Con: they were going to do Halloween wedding that was going to be renaissance faire themed and now that isn’t happening and I HATE IT.

So there’s this girl…

I started talking to from threads because of a picture I posted on a dating thread asking for liberal dudes that legit got like 5000 likes and boosted my ego. She lives in tampa, where I’m visiting now and moving in a month

We’ve had some GREAT conversations. Like what we want, how we want to be as partners, on top of other compatible stuff. She’s a nurse, two kids, been through some SHIT but she’s strong af and I like it.

I’m in tampa now but I had asked if she wanted to go on our date this weekend or when I moved, and she said when I move which I’m good with. She works this weekend anyway, and also didn’t want to wait a month between seeing each other again which I was on the fence about and brought up when I asked.

I’m… over thinking talking to her. I’m not trying to purposefully wait days to talk, but sometimes she doesn’t respond and I don’t want to text too much. Because frankly I HAVE BEEN OVERBEARING in the past and her and I haven’t even met.

And I don’t think she’s ignoring the texts I just don’t think she needed to respond always because … she’s a busy nurse with two careers and two kids and we haven’t even met. Like, what do I expect? There are priorities and “guy from threads” isn’t one yet, it just isn’t.

But the last thing I sent was three days again and was about Nightmare before Christmas because it’s one of her favorites… and it was a movie I hadn’t seen? It just somehow slipped through the cracks?

So I watched it and told her and she never responded and NOW I’m overthinking “oh god she thinks it’s too much to watch her favorite movie when we haven’t even Met, no matter how good the conversations were” and like I should wait for her to text next?

But now it feels like I’m strategizing how get her to like me more or talk when I really just want to keep talking to her which feels like I’m being overbearing and …

I did avoid messaging her when her insta note said she had a cold. I was gonna be like “damn shame. I make great soup” or something dumb and flirty and then was like no that’s too much, she didn’t respond to the Movie thing.

I think too much.

I’m not good at subtle or not rushing in. I like effort and romance and I need to just chill and not over think. Save that shit for after an actual date??

I’ve never been good at pacing this stuff.

I just needed to type this out so I stop bottling it and over thinning it. She’s going to want to go out still when I move down

I just… I don’t get tons of dates and times it haven’t had many second dates lately. And it’s always Chemistry that’s the reason which means either A) it’s chemistry or B) they are being polite. Both are fine. I just feel like I’m doing something wrong and don’t know what.

UGHHHHHHHHHH dating is hard

#dating #journal

blikethings

So I’ve had a fetlife for a bit but I bit the exhibitionist streak and posted actual 🌶️ on there now and wow, instant likes.

Apparently that was the key to Fetlife

blikethings

Also, feels kinda freeing in away? Like it’s definitely something I like I think I was just nervous for various reasons and I feel almost like… free? Free is the right word

blikethings

One thing is yet again true: while life would not be easier, I would get laid way more if I were in to men.

#thanks for the compliments guys #lol

dungeonmastersconsortium

I know everyone makes a big deal out of the emotional moments in the "Chidi and Elanor Love Each Other" montage in the season 3 finale, but honestly, that's not the part that's the best. It's something that is very funny and VERY touching.

It's this moment. This one right here is how you know they love each other. See, Chidi teaches Elanor in every timeline... But here we see Elanor reaching out. She doesn't have a lot to offer Chidi, but she's TRYING. She's TRYING to teach him something that he doesn't know, and SHE IS IMITATING HIM not because it's a joke, but because she's using him as a model for love. This kind of imitation is a CLASSIC way for someone like Elanor to dip a toe into the pool of emotional vulnerability, into reciprocating effort and feelings.

AND HE'S TAKING HER SERIOUSLY. He's CLEARLY trying really hard to follow along, even though there's NO WAY this matters... Except it matters to her, so it matters to him.

butchscientist

you will never catch me complaining about an actress on a tv show having an imperfectly concealed pregnancy or a character going on a sudden trip somewhere while her actress is on maternity leave. so many actresses (and women working in any other field) are fired, punished and pressured into making reproductive decisions for their employers' convenience & if i have to try a bit harder to suspend my disbelief then that's absolutely what i'm going to do if it means people are getting to exercise reproductive & bodily autonomy without punishment

blikethings

So I’ve had a fetlife for a bit but I bit the exhibitionist streak and posted actual 🌶️ on there now and wow, instant likes.

Apparently that was the key to Fetlife

blikethings

Also, feels kinda freeing in away? Like it’s definitely something I like I think I was just nervous for various reasons and I feel almost like… free? Free is the right word

So I’ve had a fetlife for a bit but I bit the exhibitionist streak and posted actual 🌶️ on there now and wow, instant likes.

Apparently that was the key to Fetlife

Moving to Florida for a year it looks like.

Practically it works well while I do nursing school till I have clinicals, but it also lets me spend time with dad. I don’t know how long he’s got and he will be best this year and the one after so it gives us some good time

Not terribly excited for all of this and this Jo th and a half is going to go fast

blikethings

So my Dads dying. MSA-C.

That’s what the second opinion stated and they have a meeting next week. It’s possible it’s not but all others have been ruled out. The average life span is 5-10 years, but It’s diagnosed so late that most people -dad included, are diagnosed theee years in. So it’s actually 2-7 and Oh guess what????

The last half he’s a fucking vegetable.

I hate this I don’t know what to do. I went over to Karina’s and just fucking cried.

blikethings

That meeting confirmed it today. They want him in a trial, but can’t give him a good idea how far along he is or how long he has left.

He asked me if it was a good time to call and didn’t answer when I did, so he texted me, I mentioned the call and he moved past it so I don’t think he wants to talk talk right now. I don’t think I do either to be honest.

So my Dads dying. MSA-C.

That’s what the second opinion stated and they have a meeting next week. It’s possible it’s not but all others have been ruled out. The average life span is 5-10 years, but It’s diagnosed so late that most people -dad included, are diagnosed theee years in. So it’s actually 2-7 and Oh guess what????

The last half he’s a fucking vegetable.

I hate this I don’t know what to do. I went over to Karina’s and just fucking cried.

jennydolfen

"It won't be like that for me," Kaladin said. "You told me it would get worse." "It will," Wit said, "but then it will get better. Then it will get worse again. Then better. This is life, and I will not lie by saying every day will be sunshine. But there will be sunshine again, and that is a different thing to say. That is truth. I promise you, Kaladin: You will be warm again."

Brandon Sanderson, The Rhythm of War

In a book series that is a veritable cornucopia of inspirational quotes when you struggle with mental health, this chapter takes the cake, and the cherry on top, and the tablecloths while we're at it.

Poor Kal needs a hug. Or a story. And Horneater stew.

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Do I want a relationship because love is cool and all or do I just want cute memories that don’t Involve the women married to the guy she told me not to worry about?

#dating #sad #relationships

loumandliker

one thing about americans is that they know how to make a fucking milkshake

loumandliker

i hate the stupid milk consistency shit you get here like if you give me a milkshake it better be rock fucking solid. i want that thang thick like concrete. it should piss me off trying to drink it through a straw. i should have to wait for it to thaw

caltracat

behindnightmaresanddreams

Americans are so good at making Beverage. One of our Foundational Moments was actually a party involving Making Beverage. Google "Boston Tea Party" for more