Knife Play for Beginners-Tops/Doms
Knife play is NOT something you can do on the spot. You need to plan. Knives are dangerous, and while that’s part of the appeal, being safe is the most important rule of knife play.
Everyone has different expectations during bdsm. You can’t just trial and error this kind of thing. You need to set clear, concise boundaries, especially when it comes to something that could hurt you. Some like blood, some don’t like the pain, everybody’s different! Make sure to ask exactly what they want, and let them know your boundaries too!
Safe words exist for a reason. It’s important to have a clear stopping point, whether it be a harsh NO or a physical signal, like the hand tap during breath play. Pick something you both agree on.
A good example would be the stoplight system. It’s easier to use and clear to understand. If you feel like your partner is uncomfortable, or you feel uncomfortable, ask or tell your partner one of the stoplight colors:
Green-this is something I enjoy and want to continue doing it
Yellow-I don’t enjoy this specific thing, but would like to continue with sex or ___
Red-I am uncomfortable and want to stop immediately
You can easily set different criteria for each color, yet that basic system is easy to use and understand for most people. But whatever you use, clarify and agree.
You never want to engage in any kind of bdsm play under the influence of anything. Something this dangerous can easily go wrong, and alcohol or drugs can easily increase that chance. As always, make sure both you and your partner are clearly sober and can provide obvious and enthusiastic consent. Remember-you can both repeal consent at any time!
-choose a safe environment
Please, do not engage in dangerous sex if you’re somewhere that could be potentially dangerous or difficult to manipulate. Make sure you can leave easily if need be, are in a comfortable space, and have first aid supplies nearby. You don’t want to expect the worst, but you do want to be prepared for it. Knife play can go wrong a lot easier than vanilla sex, so be somewhere that you can get help if you need it.
-chose your knife carefully
Maybe don’t start with a really sharp knife. You can practice with a fake knife if you feel like you need to, or you can even use a dull one. Either way, practicing with something that can’t do severe damage is a good idea. You also want to clean your blade-sterilize it well! You can clean it with some alcohol and run it under hot water easily, and it’s worth the hassle.
-hold your knife correctly
At first, you don’t want to put the edge down. You want to eventually work up to that (if your partner wants that), but it’s a good idea to start with the side that can do less damage. Use the blunt end down the first few times so you can get the hang of it before you go in with the edge.
If you need to, practice on something similar to skin. An orange, fabric, or anything that’s soft enough to cut through, just so you can get the feel for how hard to press.
-listen to what your partner wants
It’s hard to explain exactly what you want sometimes, so make sure to clearly ask what they want. If they say ‘just tease me’, maybe run the tip of the blade down their spine or over their chest. Tip their chin up with it. Move their face with the flat side of the knife. If they want to be threatened, maybe press it into their skin lightly or touch them with it each time they misbehave. Remember-anticipation is as good as action.
If they like blood drawing, do NOT do so near any major arteries, especially the neck. The least sexy thing you could possibly do is slice their carotid (no matter how into it they are). The point of this play is not to do serious, long term damage, so maybe don’t. For those with breasts, the space above them is good. Sides of the thighs, shoulder caps, and sides are good for very light lacerations. Do NOT go too deep.
If something goes wrong, don’t be afraid to get help. Sure, it’s embarrassing, but better safe than sorry. If you cut too deep or they moved too suddenly, apply pressure and call 911. If they aren’t bleeding horrendously but still feel they need stitches, drive your partner to the nearest Emergency Room. Again, it’s better to have to explain than risk the worst.
Whether they’re bleeding or not, make sure to pay attention to aftercare. If they are, clean up those wounds and bandage them accordingly. Assure your partner and let them know they’re safe. If they need space, give it to them, yet stay close by. Aftercare is vital after engaging in something so taxing and dangerous. Make sure your partner is hydrated!
i hope this helps, and use protection!!
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