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Hi, I’m Julia Morris.

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Me introducing myself

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“I’m not legally allowed to talk about who I am”

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Not long ago somebody asked me my opinion on casual sex and I said that some ppl aren’t built for it on an emotional level but do it anyway and feel used.

I’d like to add that casual sex is just plain dangerous for women. Morally, who cares? I’m not into purity, saving yourself for marriage, or any of that. I firmly believe people should have sex when they feel like having sex in a consensual situation.

However, I would feel like I’m doing a disservice to any young women considering casual sex if I didn’t say that shit is potentially dangerous.

Out of all the men in the world, a lot of them are manipulators if not actual rapists. You have the violent rapists who are the minority but then you have the ones who will coyly try to make you wasted to lower your defenses, you have the ones where you consent to one thing and they take your defenseless during the act to force you into something you did not sign up for. Whether that is removing a condom, letting another man or men into the room, doing a sex act you’re not comfortable with, recording it and later disseminating it. This stuff is sooooo common!

And I’m not even gonna get into the ones who will say what you want to hear to get you to have sex. And then rescind it immediately afterwards.

Casual sex is physically and it is emotionally dangerous for women. Period. Any woman who has lived on a college campus knows this either firsthand or thru the experiences of their friends.

You don’t know what kind of man you’re dealing with if you know little about him, if you haven’t spent time with him. Even if you feel you do know him, you’re still at risk because some men are great actors. But when you don’t know him you really have zero idea what you’re getting yourself into.

Am I saying don’t have casual sex? No. I am saying know the risks. Really understand the risks. Because it is a very dangerous world for women and sexual exploitation is as serious as it is common. Don’t think it won’t happen to you.

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“sex positivity” that blindly encourages/pushes women into casual sex is not sex positivity. “sex positive feminism” rhetoric pushed me to do some shit in my life that has really damaged me. be aware of yourself and what you want from the world. its okay if sex IS a big deal for you. its okay for sex to never be casual. its okay for sex to be deeply meaningful to you.

its hard to walk the line between christian-conservative style misogynistic moral purity and liberal feminist (misogynistic) faux sex-positivity. your body and sex can be sacred to you without being shameful. you can be liberated sexually without forcing yourself into uncomfortable situations.

there are ways of existing as a sexual being beyond the limits of misogyny, both conservative and liberal.

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this is kinda bordering on misogynist lol

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me: i totally feel like watching something but i dont really have anything to watch :/

also me: *remembers the 32042 shows i started but never made it past episode 2*

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friend: wyd

me: studying

friend: let’s gossip

me:

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My cousin is always watching Everybody Loves Raymond in the other room while I’m on the computer. I always hear Raymond’s voice. His deep, throaty voice, like a hungover toad. It’s very unique. Sometimes I continue to hear the thick grog of Ray Romano long after the television is off. Ray tells me things. Ray tells me horrible, horrible things. And I listen.