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Lele | sort of not on hiatus | I still have strong opinions and I don’t mind if yours are different

[bookofmirth]

Hello

Here is some info about my blog to know about before you scroll through trying to find something in particular.

My meta list - this is primarily acosf and hosab-based posts. Eventually, I will make new lists as acotar continues.

Here is my hofas-related meta. I took a two-year break after that shitshow of a book, so I can’t reliably remember a lot of what I’ve said. :)

I tag frequently and consistently but I've been in sjm fandoms since 2016 so... good luck.

My writing can be found on AO3

I sometimes use my side blog for general bookish stuff @mirthofbooks

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I love to see your thoughts and questions! I am okay with disagreeing opinions and don't ship shame.

I generally delete asks that contribute negatively to the fandom atmosphere, at my discretion. Please don't send me messages that malign specific shippers or fans of specific characters. If your ask is about real people, not about fictional characters, I either won't respond or will black out part of it.

I also don't respond to links to other people's content if the intent is to make fun of them or otherwise be rude about their content.

I still take book recommendation requests, but you can check my Goodreads out! Send them to @mirthofbooks if you have any requests in the future 🥰

[lucenorthstar]

anyone I see posting about the fucking Harry Potter show I'm blocking.

it's 2026 you can't pretend not to know what she uses the money for.

and yes, even if you are pirating it, if you sre talking about it online it doesn't mean shit. every bit of cultural relevance you give her is still money in her pockets. I'm sorry she's not a corpse decomposing in the ground yet, you cannot claim "oh but I'm making with it things that would make her angry!" while you are also helping keeping her rich by keeping her relevant.

grow a spine.

[going2hell4everythingbutbeingbi]

yes conservatism is on the rise yes tradwife content is as popular as ever yes pink jobs and blue jobs are fucking stupid BUT there is still such a big change in how straight women are talking about relationships online.

they're talking about how they're no longer interested in dating because their female friends treat them better than boyfriends do. they're realizing that being single is always better than being in a bad relationship. it's becoming a lot more normal and fun and hot for women to be single at any age. the women who have settled down with truly good men in truly happy relationships are encouraging other women to not take any shit because the right man won't need to be "trained". they're talking about how their mothers and grandmothers warned them to get a job and not get married, and they followed the advice.

tradwife content is performance. it's propaganda. there are so few women actually living that life. but we know for a fact that more women than ever are educated, working, and single. and all I see (admittedly in my woke ass algorithm) is women talking about how they're done settling for mediocre relationships. and I love it.

[longing-for-rain]

The rise in tradwife propaganda isn't a sign we're losing. It's a sign we're winning. They need to push this propaganda because women are increasingly waking up and being open about the consequences of trad dynamics. And that terrifies conservatives because their control over women and the family unit is how they exercise control over society.

[bookofmirth]

I finished my first cross stitch based on a pattern (not printed on) since I was a kid and I’m enjoying looking at it so much!

[bookofmirth]

I think a few years ago (maybe 2021 or 2022) I send you an ask, talking about the whole math of Gwyn‘s Birthday cause of that live when Sjm said she‘s gonna use Steph‘s Birthday for Azriel‘s Li.

Looking back at it, sometimes I can‘t believe the mental gymnastics I did for a Series that isn‘t even taken seriously by the author 😭 She made that decision for Azriel’s LI AFTER acosf was already published, meaning all that math meant absolutely nothing and it was pure coincidance that the math made sense lol.

Although that theory was complete bonkers, It‘s still sad that Sjm doesn‘t care about her own fanbase and what they create for her. I would‘ve loved to have a fanbase that would come up with theories like this, even if it’s nonsensical

Didn’t she say that she had come up with that birthday during acosf events? I honestly can’t remember, but given that we only know a couple of characters’ birthdays, it would be super easy for her to have decided that after acosf and then later on say that it’s Gwyn’s birthday, or Elain’s, or heck, Eris’s birthday.

I think that she *does* take a lot of things about the series seriously, namely the emotional impact. There’s a reason we all found ourselves in the fandom, and it’s not because of the color of a dress or a pool of starlight that might mean something else. It’s because we connected emotionally with the characters, and even though I think she did come across incredibly arrogant about some things in that podcast, one thing I really appreciated was her ability to articulate what she feels when writing.

IMO where people get tripped up is confusing what’s a small throwaway detail, and what’s actually something being emphasized, something where care is taken. Like the way that she talks about mating bonds is pretty consistent. The colors she uses to describe clothes or whatever is pretty vibes-based.

I think a lot of our arguments are based on Group A deciding that this one thing over here is super important to her, and Group B deciding that actually, it’s this other thing over there that’s meaningful and will come up again. Doing control + F for specific words isn’t how we’re going to make those distinctions, though. And ultimately, yeah, a lot of this is a waste of time, especially if it causes fights. There are about a thousand things I’d rather do these days than fight over whether we should be betting on “sparked” or “skittered”.

[bookofmirth]

I can say that the couples are perhaps the only thing Sarah is truly certain about in the entire ACOTAR plot, because you can't trust that the backstory doesn't change.

And, in fact, most of the couples Sarah puts in at the end of ACOTAR are unanimously considered perfect for each other, but often she focuses too much on some and too little on others.

I feel that Elucien has a lot to do with this, because Sarah forgot about Elain and has the incredible habit of keeping the couple apart, creating so much mystery that it wasn't good for Elucien at all.

But I think half of them just wanted to take a bland, almost forgotten character from the story and mold her into the perfect partner for someone many are really fans of.

Because many seem to be more about Az having a perfect partner than about Elain.

I totally agree, I think that in acotar especially, she is most interested in the couples she knows will get together, and the rest of the pieces will fall into place as they need to. Even if it requires inconsistency or retconning.

I wonder if we just read the books we have now, back to back, it would feel like elucien had been neglected. Because from the end of acomaf to the end of hofas, how much time has passed? A couple of years? In the grand scheme of things, that isn’t much time. Not for characters who will live for hundreds of years.

I can see that timeline being much more aligned with Elain’s character than either Feyre or Nesta’s. From the beginning, Feyre has been a problem-solver. She was only back in the human lands for like a week before she went back to Prythian, and she went straight UtM to save Tamlin. Nesta can’t let things fester too long because she explodes in somewhat harmful ways. But Elain… I think that Elain is much better and putting on a fake smile and pretending that things are fine, for much longer. So in that sense, the time that it is taking her to actually figure out what she wants and feel comfortable enough to express herself, it all makes sense.

The number of headcanons and fan arts that I have seen that essentially turn Elain into a person she is NOT, that she has repudiated wanting to be, in order to fit her into a mould that would work better with the third bat… oof. Headcanons are fine, I just wish that, like you said, Elain’s character hadn’t been left to the side for so long in book release terms! It’s been ELEVEN YEARS. And we are not immortal lol.

[bookofmirth]

Are we not gonna talk about how so many in this fandom complained about sjm taking her sweet time not releasing, not revealing couples, only for us to learn the multiple things shes been going through since 2018? This fandom sucks.

I think that sjm set a precedent for herself when she had SO many releases 2016 - 2018 and then going radio silent - for good reason! - left us all wondering what the heck was going on. It’s a good reminder that authors don’t actually owe us anything except for the book that we purchase, though!

[bookofmirth]

Have you watched hotd or a knight of the seven kingdoms?

I have not! I was never into GoT but maybe these newer shows I would be into? What do you think

[seashellronan]

guys i’m so sorry to say this but exercising and indulging in hobbies rather than scrolling on your phone for 200 hours actually does improve your mood and overall mental health, this has deeply upset me more than anyone

[skyrigel]

[justwithlu]

Elain does not lose her seer abilities if she chooses to be with Lucien. Elain does not lose her family if she chooses to be with Lucien. Elain does not lose her connections to the night court if she chooses to be with Lucien. Elain does not lose her ability to be kind and gentle and caring if she chooses to be with Lucien. Elain does not lose her friends if she chooses to be with Lucien. Elain does not have to stop baking or gardening if she chooses to be with Lucien. Elain does not lose the ability to become a spy or a warrior or a diplomat or any other path she may choose in the future if she chooses to be with Lucien.

Elain does not lose her agency if she chooses to be with Lucien. Elain does not lose her autonomy if she chooses to be with Lucien.

Elain does not lose any choice if she chooses to be with Lucien.

[bookofmirth]

Id be sad if we dont have Gwyn pov

I won’t be at all surprised if we do get her pov because sjm is writing third person close now, so we can get into a lot more characters’ thoughts now than before! There is a point in acosf where we actually do get Gwyn’s thoughts. I am too sleepy to find it now but there is a moment where the narrative tells us what she’s thinking

[bookofmirth]

I saw a theory on IG that Kaltain is Bryaxis!

Idk if something this wild would be true but at the same time, I would love for Kaltain to be terrorizing Cassian in the library on occasion

[stannisbaratheon]

[stannisbaratheon]

i posted this old as balls gifset ten years ago today

[soaringsearingphoenix]

Happy anniversary old as balls gifset

[maeglinthebold]

@meme-conservation

[meme-conservation]

We are pleased to note the continued survival of this meme to the point that it, too, is Old As Balls

[brawlite]

spotted in virginia right outside of dc—happy ides of march, y'all!

[sncrlynwtms]

fandom etiquette as a whole died when people who didn’t grow up on fandoms became stans during lockdown, yes, but why am i seeing people openly mocking fics on twitter. why am i seeing screenshots of fics with captions like “bro what is this 😭.” why am i seeing people mock fic writers for not knowing how sports or theater or college or any other organization operates in the real world.

“college is absolutely nothing like this” “why are we writing four people on the team scoring a hat trick in one game” “so tech work is nothing like this, hope that helps!”

if you don’t like a fic, and if you can’t suspend your belief enough to enjoy a fic that exaggerates or ignores real-world orgs, you don’t have to read it. you don’t have to screenshot it and put it on blast for twitter. you don’t have to post a link to it in the replies. the back button is literally there on your phone. it’s not giving baby’s first fandom anymore, it’s giving entitled asshole and it isn’t as cute as you think it is.

[little-pondhead]

[little-pondhead]

[number1wifemisser]

@wheezecheese

[hasufin]

This has gone beyond "I cannot explain this to my spouse" and is firmly in "Archaeologists of the future will decide this is the point at which a group of people diverged from mainstream humanity and developed a new, indecipherable form of communication."