Platonic side daddies
They do exist and they aren’t there to pay an allowance but they will pay for hella expensive dinners ($250+), traffic tickets or airfare for a job interview in their city.
How to get one:
1. While freestyling, meet a guy older than you that is not interested in being a sugar daddy but does have generous qualities. This initial assessment is really important!!! If you meet at a bar and he doesn’t pay for your bill or offer you something after you closed your tab prior to meeting, don’t bother. You don’t need another fuck boy, especially one that is past his prime, crusty and dusty.
2. Do not act too flirty!!! Be subtle here because you want this to stay platonic: he should be able to tell you’re single but doesn’t think you want to sleep with him. Make it clear you enjoy his companionship and literally do not say anything about sugaring.
3. Stay in touch. This may be easy for me because I don’t mind talking on the phone for half an hour just to catch up with someone. If you can’t, you will need to work on this skill because it’s essential. Text conversations don’t bring people across a generation gap closer. It probably won’t make him feel a connection or bond to you so it will waste your time more than a quick phone conversation every once in a while like once a month.
Keep the convo about things he’s interested in so you learn more about him and his personality. What does he get excited about? Where does he like to spend his money on? If you listen, you will learn this faster and easier than if you talk about how much you love the latest foundation at Sephora when he’s interested in athletic hobbies. Yes I know it’s dumb because a woman can be an athlete Monday to Friday and wear makeup on the weekend but some guys cannot comprehend that. However, it’s not your job to teach them that.
When you assess what he likes, you’ll have a better understanding of what he would be more than happy to get you in the future.
4. You should not have to ASK him what you want. If you describe the situation, he should OFFER to pay for it. The benefit in spending “time” talking with him without asking upfront for compensation or gifts is that he sees you as a genuine person without entitlement. (This time shouldn’t eat up your life! The time you might spend mindlessly scrolling on Instagram can be used for a quick chat instead.)
Obviously if he doesn’t feel comfortable paying for something like a plane ticket despite all this means he’s not worth any more of your time and you should block him.
Do not rely on them for bailing you out of desperate situations like coming up hundreds of dollars short on rent. It might work, but it might not because that could make him feel like he’s being used! You don’t want him to feel like that when you aren’t sleeping together.
Bonus tip: this method works even better when you don’t live in the same city. The distance keeps it from progressing into something sexual and allows you to form a strong connection NOT based on your looks. He will love getting to know your personality and, when things come up, will be more inclined to help you out.
Obviously, I’m not including every nuanced thing I do, and there are women out here who finesse cars out of these guys but I thought this could help out someone.
