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QPoC Mental Health Therapist SoJustly Queering All Things

[homo-sex-shoe-whale]

Long but important post. Please share!

I know Tumblr tends to be very US-centric, but there is something happening in my country that I absolutely have to share.

Soon, Brazil will host presidential elections. These are the first elections since the impeachment of our last president Dilma Rouseff.

The leading candidate is currently Jair Bolsonaro. Bolsonaro is a man who has made racist, sexist, and homophobic claims such as, “I would rather my son die in a car accident than be gay,” and, “my sons would not date black women as they were well educated.” He even said to a woman that she was, “so ugly” that she, “didn’t even deserve to get raped.”

A few decades ago, when Brazil was under a military dictatorship, the government tortured many people for speaking out against the regime. Bolsonaro has said that, “their only mistake was not killing those people.”

However, something incredible has been happening.

A movement called Mulheres Unidas Contra Bolsonaro (Women United Against Bolsonaro) has been surfacing. The hashtag #EleNão (#NotHim) has been getting popular and gaining international attention.

Yesterday, women all over Brazil (and the world!) protested against Bolsonaro.

Here are some pictures.

São Paulo, Brazil:

Rio de Janeiro, Brazil:

Ilhéus, Brazil:

Cuiabá, Brazil:

Porto Alegre, Brazil:

Brazilians living abroad also joined the protests!

Zurich, Switzerland:

Madrid, Spain:

Melbourne, Australia:

New York City, US:

Protests occurred in over 62 cities around the world.

Even if you’re not Brazilian, please share this post! Show your support and raise awareness of the movement!

[star-anise]

Today’s therapist thought:

Diagnosing someone doesn’t have to be like fitting them into a box.  It can be like drawing a map of them. There are thousands of types of maps. Topographical maps; road maps. Water table maps. Population density maps. They are all very different ways of understanding a space. None of them tells the complete story of it, and none of them are the same as the space itself.

A correct diagnosis, like a good map, should serve to orient and clarify; to make the relationships and distances between things easily apparent.  The map of depression can draw together anger and poor memory and stomach pain into a coherent space, letting you see the lightless void where grief is hiding like a deep aquifer. The map of autism can link a hundred days alone on the playground and the small pinpricks of light that were understanding and acceptance into a constellation of stars, something with hope for the future. 

Bad diagnoses obfuscate, confuse, lead astray; they end in ROAD CLOSED signs of failed therapy or plateaus of stalled progress. The worst diagnoses come from hardly glancing at the ground; they’re a single session, “That looks like a river i saw once.” The best diagnoses are drawn by hand, using the best grids and measures available, with frequent reference to the land itself.

And the land is never, never the map. It is always so much more.

[thistherapylife]

Oh this I like

[borienlaluna]

Words to live by.

[thistherapylife]

Finding out what the Trump administration has done while I've been in session all day

[thistherapylife]

still accurate.

[borienlaluna]

Every.damn.day.

[polyadvice]

My fiance and his girlfriend had been having issues recently and it causes me a lot of anxiety. They have worked on things but I panic when they hang out because I was abused and I noticed red flags. But also I have a lot of issues and feel like I can’t ask for help if they are hanging out. I end up feeling like I messed up everything if I do ask for help and she held me asking him for help against him. But also feel bad because I now feel like I need help so often that they dont have time to help

Anxiety and panic from past trauma can be big, hairy, and challenging. It is good that you are reaching out for help, but it is also okay for other people to recognize that they cannot be your 24/7 crisis management team. I am sorry to hear that your partner’s partner is “holding it against him” - that is not a healthy way for her to set that boundary. But it sounds like there are unmet needs all over the place here.

You have done the work of recognizing that you need help, and reaching out for it, which is awesome. But you may need to start expanding your network of resources. When your partner is with his girlfriend, it is okay for him to want some uninterrupted time without also needing to be present to your struggles. If you aren’t already working with a therapist on this, please consider doing that. Check out online support forums or chats, self-help workbooks and activities as well. Reach out to other friends who may be able to sit with you or talk with you when your partner isn’t available. Work on developing independent self-soothing techniques.

This can help you take some of the weight off your relationship with your fiance, so he has more “emotional bandwidth” for the times when you really need him, and so you two can enjoy each other in a relational context that isn’t always centered on helping you. I am not saying that it’s not okay to ask for help, or to need help, but since you’ve recognized that you have more needs than your fiance can meet and the level of that need is causing strain, the solution is to find some more hands to help carry that load and work to lighten the load overall.

[borienlaluna]

Definitely this, coming from a non-monog person who is also a mental health therapist.

[betterthankanyebitch]

[unconventional-dominiqueer]

To all you White culture vultures:

[voodart]

My Lastest collaboration as Photographer for Natacha Baco.

You can shop the collection here : by-natachabaco.com

My Instagram : Here

The Model : Tiphaine and Jeannie.

Location : Paris. 

[nerdrampage]

💗

[fuckyeahhardfemme]

(sorry this isn’t really “Hard Femme” but I really love the collection and the pictures xx)  Mod - hauteproportions 

[nevver]

Seizure of indigenous land, 1776-1887

[jussericmatthew]

Never forget.

[bambina-theenative]

Why I am angry.

[blakc123-deactivated20150323]

whoa

[sandandglass]

Common and John Legendaccept the Best Original Song award for ‘Glory’ from Selma.

[bikesbabesandbooze-deactivated2]

Truth seen at MCAD. By Jonathan Herrera: http://www.phabiocrafty.com

[isthequestiontheanswer-deactiva]

What’s not to handle? It’s emotion, not fucking plutonium for God’s sake!

You can quote me (via isthequestiontheanswer)

Can I get an amen!

[jesuisdivanna-deactivated201512]

My neck, My back, My Netflix and my snacks.

[skoltinctures-deactivated201506]

Great map showing where most enslaved Africans ended up in the Americas. As you can see, Blackness doesn’t end in the United States.

From Black and Latino.

[latinegrasexologist]

a reminder

[afrodominican-deactivated201308]

Decided to reblog this post AGAIN. So, remind me, how am I not black again? Oh ok.

[famousblackcelebs]

Friendly Reminder Brazil alone has a bigger population of Black Descendents than The US. :)

[borienlaluna]

This.

[citythatistocome]

Please don’t expect me to always be good and kind and loving. There are times when I will be cold and thoughtless and hard to understand.

Sylvia Plath (via blackandlatina)

[gayward-vagabond]

Shout out to femme nonbinary folks who have their identities questioned because they don’t live up to a patriarchal definition of androgyny

[bisexual-community]

Does your partner blame it on your bisexuality? It could be partner abuse.

Does your partner:

get jealous of people in your life regardless of their gender?

make fun of you for being bisexual?

try to control how you dress or act?

force you to choose between being straight or being gay/lesbian?

accuse you of cheating or flirting with others?

use money or gifts to make you feel like you owe them something?

prevent you from being out as bisexual?

not respect your safeword?

pressure you to have sex in ways that you don’t want to?

keep you from going to LGBTQ events?

Abusers may say:

"I know I can’t trust you alone with your friends because you’ll sleep with anyone."

"You aren’t really part of the LGBTQ community."

"If you leave me, I’ll tell your boss that you are bi."

"I know that all you bisexuals are just sluts."

"You are just confused about your sexuality."

“If you want to be with me, you have to be a lesbian/gay.” OR "If you want to be with me, you have to be straight."

"Don’t tell anyone that you’ve been with men before, that’s disgusting." OR "Don’t tell anyone that you’ve been with women before, that’s disgusting."

“I know you are going to leave me for a woman.” OR “I know you are going to leave me for a man.”

Click HERE for pdf document to download

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

I began to realize how important it was to be an enthusiast in life. If you are interested in something, no matter what it is, go at it full speed ahead. Embrace it with both arms, hug it, love it and above all become passionate about it. Lukewarm is no good.

Roald Dahl (via isawtoday)

[umistakeme-forstraight-deactiva]

Don’t shame the girls who sent pictures of themselves half-naked to their significant others as a way to express eroticism which is healthy and natural… give the people hell who think it’s okay to destroy someone’s trust and distribute those images simply for entertainment purposes. 

[nappytreee-deactivated20180702]

Say it again. I don’t think they got it the first time. Too much truth.

[knightlynate]

Just one more time?

[borienlaluna]

Exactly this