Quietly Exits

I only lurk now, sorry

[boxofhearts]

Not Active Anymore, Just Lurkin’ Around and Followin’ Ma Faves, Sorry, Social Media Just Ain’t Really My Jam Anymore

[rabbit-bf]

Me: “I hate marriage. I will never get married.”

Also me: *wears fancy ring on my left ring finger to pretend I’m married to my f/os*

[boxofhearts]

What do you mean pretend

[deanportmans]

Imagine your f/o sat behind you, their head resting on your shoulder or head, while you paint your nails. They’ll hold the bottle for you, or help with your other hand. If you ask nicely, maybe even pull out the puppy dog eyes, they might just let you paint their nails to. What colors would they want? Would they suggest colors for yourself?

[boxofhearts]

I don’t talk too much about my own FOs but....

I’m really sittin hear thinking about how Barney (HL2) is so upset about Kleiner keeping a head crab as a pet...

But then there’s me, befriending and raising antlions and relocating barnacles around my “lair” as traps for intruders.

Barney: “You know, I love you, and I think you’re brilliant. But... why?”

Me: “They’re beautiful and I love them.” Kleiner, under his breath: “I approve of this development.”

[wired-heartbeats]

Thinkin’ about being half asleep on like, the couch or just somewhere you’re not really supposed to sleep in general and being way too tired to move only for your F/O to come by and —thinking you’re fully asleep— very very carefully picking you up to take you to your bed

[fictional-crush-imagines]

Imagine your f/o holding you close. You’re asleep in their arms, and they don’t move to make sure they don’t wake you. They kiss you gently on the forehead, and let you lie there for as long as you stay asleep.

[selchwife]

sometimes i don’t think there’s enough trans selfship positivity that goes beyond the obvious/basic, so for my fellow trans people:

if you met your f/o after transitioning, whether socially or medically or simply having come out, they’re very proud of you for all the changes you went through and for all the work you’ve done to be secure in your identity - regardless of whether you feel like you’ve done anything to merit that pride or whether you feel like you’ve barely changed. they’re proud even if you just said the words “i’m trans.” that’s all you need to do.

for those of you who met your f/o before transition (once again of any kind) and have stayed with them all this time, they’re really honored they could be there during such an important time for you. their understanding of your gender having to change could never preclude them from loving you, and they’re surely proud you’re coming into yourself no matter how many roadblocks you face. the “old you” may very well already be an unfamiliar face to them by now.

for those of you with trans f/os, they’re of course really glad to be with another trans person who understands them! there’s something very special about the connections trans people forge with each other and they’re glad they can forge that kind of connection with you.

for those of you with cis f/os, they love that you’re trans. they would never judge you against other cis people - your transness isn’t a deficit and doesn’t make you lesser, and they’re happy to celebrate that part of you with love and respect.

being trans is great and amazing and your f/os are all happy you are who you are. their feelings go beyond the simple question of them seeing you correctly and not misgendering you - they are actively proud and overjoyed about your transness.

[the-metal-president]

It’s okay to enjoy villians:

* Because they provide a safe outlet to explore what motivates people to behave badly.

* Because a powerful, angry character can be cathartic to someone who is traumatized.

* Because they often have traits that neurodivergent and LGBTQ people can relate to because those traits have been used as shorthand for evil in media for years.

* Because they add stakes, depth and excitement to a story.

* Because they’re not real.

* Because they’re fun.

[mentalhealth-selfshipping]

For Autistic Selfshippers!

Imagine your f/os thinking your happy stims are just the cutest thing. When you flap your hands or rock back and forth out of joy or excitement they just want to scoop you up and kiss you right there.

Imagine that they begin to take you into their lap and rock you back and forth when you’re upset because they know you stim as a comfort.

Imagine them trying to discourage negative stims like hair pulling, skin picking etc and trying to replace it with something different. Whenever you get nervous of frustrated, they’d grab your hands and take them in theirs.

“Here, squeeze my hand instead okay?”

this is purely based on my experiences having autism so this might not apply to all but i tried my best ;;

[boxofhearts]

Specific, but...

There’s something about tired old men with hearts of gold and mysterious/dark pasts, that really just makes me go full heart eyes y’know.

He’s a little gruff, but sweet too in his own way; and we’re all well aware he could take us all out in five seconds flat if he wanted to.

Just that duality of watching him gently and lovingly handle an animal; and fully understanding that he’s technically a trained killer.

Like, yeah ow, my heart.

[fictional-crush-imagines]

MLM selfshippers, you’re really cool and all of your f/o’s love you so much!!!!! They think you’re so handsome, and they really appreciate the love you have for them. It’s unique, it’s special, and it’s yours.

[theladwithsomeselfship]

Male self shippers with female F/OS are spectacular and deserve more content. You're not weird or creepy. You're not gross or "crazy."

Your F/Os love you! especially if you're fat, ND, have to/choose to live with your family, have executive dysfunction, or any of those things commonly associated with "ew neckbeard" stuff.

[anoddopal]

Imagine your villain F/O flashing you a smile. Perhaps it’s a smug, subtle flash of teeth, or perhaps it’s an unhinged grin stretched ear to ear. The way they deliberately pull up the corners of their mouth... the way their eyes glint fervently... something about it makes your heart race.

The look reminds you that they’re bad. They’re devious. They’re dangerous. They’re evil.

But despite this, you know you have nothing to fear from them. They want to protect you, they love you dearly- if you asked for the world on a platter they’d reign hell to give it to you.

There’s something about that look. For all the trouble it can cause, their expression holds worlds of affections for you.

You can’t help but give a little smile back.

[fo-apocalypse]

trans self shippers !!

your f/o will ALWAYS support you, no matter what. you’re having a rough time with dysphoria?

-they will make sure you have clean comfort clothes

-they’ll gush about you using euphoric terms

-they’ll call you nicknames that make you feel better

-they’ll ALWAYS correct people when they slip up on pronouns

they will always be there to reassure you.

[boxofhearts]

Also, as like a side note, to that ask I just reblogged, as an Autistic person who also does the whole Maladaptive Daydreaming thing, my F/Os, no matter how intangible, are always going to feel real to me. I genuinely have very real and intense emotional responses to the things they say and do in my daydreams, and our time together feels like an ever evolving life, not just a story. And I can feel the phantom sensation of their warmth and touch when I think about cuddling with them.

So you add all that on top of the fact that I’m polyamorous and honestly, if somebody walked into my life, and did not respect the fact that, psychologically  speaking, I have preexisting relationships?

They could go ahead and getty-the mcfreakity-outty . My F/Os don’t vanish because some random irl person finally finds me and is brave enough to love me. Like hello??? Who would ask someone to divorce their husband because they’re the new datemate??? Like no, you can’t replace the spot deep in my soul that belongs to Megatron, he lives there, and he’s been here longer, and proven himself worthy. You can find a seat for yourself or you can leave, thank you very much.

If my mum can acknowledge and respect the fact that I genuinely love Megatron without me even realizing that she knew, then a new partner in my life can do the same.

[selfshippingmailbox]

I know I always can change my mind but: I am thinking about staying with my f/o forever and treating it as a real relationship but I am not sure if I should do so. It’s a really important desicion for me currently even it’s „fantasy/imagination“. I am not sure if I can keep this relationship up forever and I wonder what would happen if I fell in love with a real person. But because nobody else has ever fallen in love with me I think it won’t ever happen and I am too afraid to put afford and time in a real person and I am afraid of forgetting f/o. For what should I decide under these circumstances?

Anybody any advise for me? Thx!

Hmmm that’s a tough question anon! Anybody got advice? Reblog or reply to this post in some way to help anon out!

[boxofhearts]

I think, first of all, that it’s important for you to do whatever is best for you at any given moment. So if right now in your life, focusing your relationship energy 100% on you and your F/O is what’s bringing you the most peace and happiness, then that is absolutely what you should do.

But on the flip side I think it’s important to remember that the universe and your state of being, is neither stagnant nor predetermined. Life is change, and you can’t predict your future. If somewhere along the line you fall in love and they love you back, then you’ll be in love, and your concerns about the situation will be different. If you never meet the right irl person, or realize irl relationships just aren’t for you, but you’re still happy and at peace with your F/O, then you’ll be happy and at peace with your F/O.

I think the state of mind you take is just as important as the choice. I know you’re aware you can change your mind, because you said so, but It might seem like less of an intense decision if instead of saying “i’m doing this because I don’t think anyone will ever love me, and I don’t want to abandon my F/O.” You say this to yourself, “I’m choosing to be with my F/O right now, because they’re here right now, and they love me.” It changes it from a ‘i have no options’ decision to a ‘this is my choice’ decision.

This is something I’ve thought about too, so I hope my point of view helps you, sincerely. And, as a parting note, something I wrote in my poetry journal a while back on this subject:

“If I only ever share my love with the people in my dreams

Then that is because they are the only ones to have earned it.”

[neonselfships]

Headcanons for an f/o dating an s/i with ADHD!

(idea courtesy of @bitweird1, hope you like! I’ll also go into a few seperate aspects of it bc it’s so different for everyone)

- accidentally repeat a conversation? f/o doesn’t mind at all and listens like it’s the first time!

- f/o won’t hesitate to gently remind s/i of things s/i forgot about, and they’ll insist (truthfully!) they aren’t annoyed by it. Because that’s just how s/i is and they love s/i for all they are!

- f/o will notice if there’s any stim toys that catch s/i’s eye, and get them for s/i as little surprises

- hyperfixation time for s/i? There’s nothing f/o likes more than to listen to them infodump! Even if it’s something they’ve talked about before! F/o will get really into the conversation, asking all sorts of questions.

- they’ll probably get into the same thing too!

- got rsd? F/o will always talk about how much they love you, especially if they notice s/i’s been getting hit by it lately

- got executive dysfunction? F/o will find ways to encourage s/i to start or continue tasks

- if s/i likes weighted blankets, f/o will sometimes lay on top of them to act as a blanket. Cuddles? Yes. Pressure stim/grounding? Yes.

- if s/i doesn’t want physical contact, f/o is more than happy to just chill next to them!

- if s/i gets overstimulated in public, f/o will do their best to get them somewhere quieter or back home as quickly as possible, they won’t ask any questions and just try to get s/i either calmed down or safely away