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♡ Welcome to bpd posi ♡

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Here you will find:

Positivity aimed towards those with BPD

A safe space to vent about your feelings

Advice on how to cope

Informational posts about the disorder

Please do not interact if you:

Are a transmedicalist, Terf, swerf, or radfem

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Ask us questions about bpd

Vent about your experiences

Ask for advice*

Request specific kinds of positivity, or ask for validation

Talk to us any time you need!

*please understand we are one system and should not be treated like the utmost authority on bpd. Everything we say should be taken with a grain of salt and we cannot (and will not) diagnose you

About us:

Body is 22

Traumagenic OSDD-1b system

Trans + queer

diagnosed with bpd in 2018

Pronouns vary from member to member. Catch all is they/them.

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All forms of discourse will be deleted without response

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is it possible for two people with BPD to be eachother's "favorite person"??

Yes, Absolutely! some people with BPD even prefer to date others with BPD due to this, and the fact their partner will understand their emotions and feelings better regarding their BPD and being their FP

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"BPD Inner Parts" is not a thing. It's not real terminology. There's no clinical basis for it. From what I can tell, it appears to have been just made up for this post.

Unstable sense of identity with BPD is very real, as is feeling out of control with your own emotions. If this is what it feels like for you and this is how you want to describe it, that's great! Sharing personal experiences can help people feel connected! But sharing this as an educational infographic, presenting it as something that just Is Part Of BPD, is dishonest at best and actively harmful at worst. Even the disclaimer at the end about gathering this information from personal/friend experience is still presenting it as if there's just "not enough research" on this Thing That Is Definitely Part Of BPD, rather than what it actually is: shared anecdotal experiences.

There's nothing wrong with shared anecdotal experience. There's nothing wrong with saying "My BPD feels like this, and it relates to my OSDD like this". Just don't present it as scientific fact.

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You are… completely fucking incorrect and as an OSDD-1B system diagnosed with BPD we would appreciate if you wouldn’t throw other people’s experiences out the window. This isn’t discourse, this is a known and well documented medical phenomenon and OSDD and BPD do have a fair amount of overlap and similarities that are well known. Just because you don’t know what you’re talking about doesn’t mean the thing doesn’t exist.

Since you couldn’t be bothered to do a simple Google search, I did one for you. Have some links.

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“Inner parts” is a community made term to encompass a range of BPD symptoms including identity disturbances, emotional irregularity, unstable self image, and identity compartmentalizations. There is nothing wrong or bad about community made terms, it doesn’t make it any less real it just makes knowledge about how to handle it more accessible.

Pease stop spreading misinformation, thanks.

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Hi, My girlfriend has BPD. How do I help her with Episodes..I don't know how to exactly comfort people at all, I never been good at it. But I feel bad when I have to leave her be without comforting her, I try but I feel like it's not exactly good enough.

Well, unfortunately I can’t exactly tell you what your girlfriend needs as each persons needs vary from individual to individual. I recommend you talk to her, and have her tell you what she needs. One thing I can tell you though is most people with BPD deeply appreciate when someone actually wants to put the time in to learn about what we’re going through and help comfort us when we’re struggling. So I’m sure she’ll appreciate your willingness to learn and help immensely. I wish you luck and I hope you are able to find what works best for you and your girlfriend.

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hi, first- ty for having this blog.

i'm in my early-mid teens and i've been relating more and more to bpd things, but i've got other diagnosises and plus like hormones? maybe? anyway, do any of you or anyone you know remember being a teenager or "developing" bpd and is it something the develops? from what i've read, i can't tell if its commonly diagnosed in late teens- young adulthood bc it's more noticible but people have had bpd there whole life?

this is actually a fantastic question. keep in mind before I answer this that we are just a system with BPD and are not professionals, this comes from our own personal experience.

BPD is a personality disorder, therefore yes. you have BPD your whole life. it is something that develops, and i definitely believe symptoms may manifest differently in teens / adolescents than adults. We do actually remember being a teen with BPD and what thats like.

I would honestly say that a lot of teens with BPD also exhibit the very stereotypical signs of BPD. The issue with being in that age range, is doctors believe it to be hormone imbalances that cause the mood swings, splitting, etc, instead of a disorder. That's why most teens who suspect BPD are diagnosed as adults when Dr's believe their hormones have "settled" enough for these outbursts to be "abnormal". This is obviously fucked up but that's a whole different can of worms.

The major differences I think I noticed growing up is that the younger I was the less I was likely to split on people. Splitting is definitely something that developed over time, and the intensity of it all was alarming even in my teens. I also at some point switched from splitting on friends, to primarily splitting on romantic interests but that may vary from person to person. I knew what hormones looked like due to watching my peers drama, and the intense feelings I felt when splitting were definitely not #relatable at the slumber party. Which is another thing. The instability in relationships was very prominant to us in our teens because thats when we were interacting with peers every single day and attempting to consistently create and curate friendships. and we sucked at it. We caused a lot of fights, had a lot of friend drama. All things that normal teens do, but again- the intensity of everything was extremely abnormal. Teens may squabble among themselves, but if you find yourself spiralling out of control and wanting to do serious damage to yourself or do very wreckless out of character behaviour because your friend is talking to someone else.... definitely not normal.

The main issues teens with BPD face in our experience is Dr's not willing to take them seriously when they try to stress the abnormality in their mood swings. If you suspect you have BPD please do proper research into it. But if your gut is telling you that the feelings you're experiencing are not normal then regardless of if it's actually BPD or not you deserve to get help and treatment to no longer feel that way. So please do talk to someone if you're safe to.

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Question, is there any alternative words for BPD splitting? We are a plural sys and personally uncomfortable to refer to our own BPD shifts as splits as well as with being plural and calling when members get split off the same thing.

Thanks

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Not that we know of. We are also a system and it can get confusing when I’m referring to splitting with my BPD and not splitting within the system, but as far as we are aware there is no alternative term, other than perhaps just ‘black and white thinking’ or ‘mood swing’, though those aren’t quite the same as splitting.

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Can you tell me more about quiet bpd. I have recently figured out that I have it and wanted to ask about it.

totally! I can make an informational post on it ^^ it'll be posted tonight or tomorrow!

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Cw // sui attempt & hospital mentions, VERY vent-y

Hey, I need some comfort and advice. Its been really hard and I can't really keep quiet about this anymore

My FP just broke up with me a month ago, and now Im just starting to go through the motions of processing what has happened, what had possibly went wrong, etc but the pain that they left me with everytime I see their names/anything they liked is unbearable and I cant manage this by myself.

Soon after the breakup, I realized how ableist they where. They also never took the chance to research more into BPD or ask me questions about my expiriences with it to see how they could help me so apparently my splitting and emotional outbursts where shocking (even after saying that it might fuck with the relationship or cause some sort of instability, so just incase I gave them some of y'alls posts), and on top of that, they had left me because of my most recent attempt because of really bad paranoia after an argument that I has caused them trauma/hurt them for showing any sort of irritability and being scary.

I realized soon after, through the nurse that was typing down the reason I was hospitalized, they had gaslit me into feeling bad and I had every right to be pissed, so now I'm still pissed lol

I still cannot get over how they just... left my most vulnerable period. Didn't even console me, didn't even check in, just... didn't respond. And broke off because I hurt them. And even fully acknowledged I might attempt again after the breakup and didn't want to he there with me for that. Thankfully a close friend was there for me, or else I would've been in the hospital longer or went back.

In short its scary, I feel like shit, I just need things that would make me forget about them, and get my mind off the crippling paranoia of them shit talking about me to their friends and how bad of a partner I was.

Thank you for reading :"D

I can definitely understand this. my ex FP left me well over a year ago and I still can't see anything relating to them without spiralling out of control emotionally. I'm sorry you've gone through that and first and foremost: you don't deserve that. You are allowed to feel hurt by their lack of willingness to understand a disorder that you openly communicated you had and the possible ways it could effect the relationship. Especially doing so when you are in a very vulnerable position is horrific.

I hope you're able to get through this, and that the hurt lessens. I don't unfortunately have any quick fix, but please allow yourself to ride the waves of your emotions. The best way to get over somebody is to allow yourself to feel the hurt you need to feel, and work towards surrounding yourself with people who care about you and will care to research what you go through. You got this!

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I'm worried that I may have BPD, bipolar disorder or both. I display symptoms of both of them. I've already been diagnosed with OCD, anxiety and depression. Should I try to get diagnosed with BPD and bipolar disorder to see if I have them?

if you are experiencing symptoms of BPD then yes, i'd always encourage you to speak to a professional if available to you. a doctor can help you figure out if you have borderline or bipolar. I personally do not have bipolar so I cannot fully speak on this, but from my personal understanding one major difference is BPD tends to be very short lasting but very intense mood swings (lasting a few hours to a day or so) while bipolar is more long, drawn out mood swings (that include mania/hypomania(?)).

I know Manic episodes are not something experienced with BPD so if you believe you experience episodic mania i'd look into that bipolar hunch you have.

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Can you feel constantly blunt/empty from constant trauma? I used to be a very emotional person but after so much trauma I became blunt/empty feeling. Like I'll laugh and stuff but after the fun is over, I just become a empty shell.

yes, definitely. That could be dissociative symptoms, which are a part of BPD and a common response to trauma.

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Is paranoia a symptom of bpd?

Yes!

That’s how it’s listed ^^

Hope this helps!

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hello! would you be able to educate people about inner parts? It's a cery important but yet v often unspoken trait that exists within and Only with bpd! it's similar to osdd1a, if you want links i can send them to you!

Yeah, as a system we know a lot about the inner parts!

I’ll be making a full infograph post like the “what is splitting”, “what is bpd” and “what is a fp” posts.

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