Quotes on Borderline Personality Disorder

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[asking-jude]

[bpdquotes]

Alice Miller says: hold up / wait a minute / let me put some boom in it. Needs are NOT foolish or too much. They do not need to be suppressed or apologized for. WE ARE NOT MADE OF STEEL. We have needs! Okay?! And parents and lovers and friends are supposed to listen and respond appropriately. If they can't - Alice Miller says WHEN they can't - the CHILD WIFE LOVER loses a piece of her humanity. We chip each others' fragile edges and step away from the mess as if we are not responsible. Deal or no deal. Pact or no pact. [...] The psychiatrist Lawrence Kayton published an article [...] on vampires and the phenomenology of schizophrenia. Both respond to real or perceived deprivation with oral sadism. Biting is the shadow side of sucking. Intimacy hurts. The caped embrace cloaks the attack. THE HEART EXISTS TO BE STOLEN, DRAlNED, SPIT-ROASTED, AND DEVOURED. Kayton says non-vampires need to cut vampires a break. Look at the dilemma they face! How about some sympathy for the undead? Imagine opening your mouth and finding attachment hunger so vast the virgin objects of affection run screaming or shrivel in your arms like dried fruit. Borderlines - whose rage marks a dramatic pit stop on the schizoaffective spectrum - know LOVE BITES. Our rage is perverse. Like a strange child, the rage walks backwards. Sarcasm takes scattered steps in a zigzag toward the beloved. In the most disorganized moments, the borderline throws her whole body sideways in the leap and spin of a parasuicidal gesture, emptying a bottle of Klonopin into her mouth and chewing the chalky yellow pills while her spouse scrapes the paste from her tongue with desperate tooth-nicked fingers. High-pitched shrieks followed by the sound of air entering a slit throat is borderline for PLEASE STAY. The noise distracts me from the feeling underneath the rage. The tantrum is a form of panic attack. The borderline buries the prohibited feelings of rage and sorrow in shallow graves. The decomposing body of half-eaten grief rises up before my waking eyes.

Girl in Need of a Tourniquet

[purplebuddhaproject]

“Love can come when you’re already who you are, when you’re filled with you. Not when you look to someone else to fill the empty space.”

—

Deb Caletti

(via purplebuddhaquotes)

[chasingperfection25]

Therapist: *tries teaching me DBT skills*

Me:  Okay….but how about I just radically ACCEPT that I’ll be fucked up for the rest of my life???

[yesbpdbabe-deactivated20210115]

[yesbpdbabe-deactivated20210115]

bpd is literally just a cycle of asking people if they’re mad at you until they eventually get mad at you for asking

[yesbpdbabe-deactivated20210115]

Relationship Effectivness: Keeping the Relationship

[beingdreeyore]

Oh, and if you’re really only here for the DBT stuff, this morning waking up felt like misery, so I did a short intense workout at home. Grabbed a decent coffee. Now am listening to a lecture while reflecting on my mind maps for this year, five years, and ten years.

Always DBT. Even when the vulnerability and abandonment hits like a tsunami. Actually, especially when it does.

I refuse to let my mind convince me that I’m nothing more than fat and unloveable. Even though right now it’s got those exact words playing on repeat.

[beabaseball]

I think the distinction that maybe is lost in self care is this:

self care is handling a problem in the future. You are taking care of your future self. If you see a deadline incoming, self care is writing a sentence, or an outline, or gathering research materials. You don’t have to do it all at once, but you can get your foot in the door–or you can do it, and have it out of the way! Both are self care.

It is also self care if you have that deadline, but you have been working hard all day, and you are exhausted, and people have been talking to you, and you just need alone time. You could force yourself to work on the deadline, but if you can feel yourself starting to fray and fall apart, self care is taking a deep breath and giving yourself a moment of quiet playing a game or watching a movie and relaxing or sleeping.

Both are self care but have different ways to be applied. I see people saying that a lot, but remember: it’s the situation that changes the care method. Opposite action is important. If you have done nothing, do one small thing. If you have done too much, take a moment to yourself.

This is opposite action.

Take care of your future self.

[counseledcounselor]

~advanced~ interpersonal skills.

[pdsquirl]

We can do it, BPD folks!

[textsfromtheborderline]

“One of the hardest parts of recovery is learning that being sick is not the only thing important about you, that you do not have to stay sick to show you are suffering, that suffering was never meant to define you.”

— (via aplacecalledsilence)

[basicallyhorny]

realize it was fun while it lasted and get the fuck on with your life

[stay-smoothh]

Yo

[allwereallyneedisweed]

👌

[purplebuddhaproject]

“I lied and said I was busy; but not in a way most people understand. I was busy taking deeper breaths. I was busy silencing irrational thoughts. I was busy calming a racing heart. I was busy telling myself I am OK.”

— (via purplebuddhaquotes)

[thegoodvybe]

my personality varies from unbearably clingy to disturbingly distant and there is no in between

[animeblgging-deactivated2021110]

[roseyjones]

lost forever // lost together 👻