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Saw another idiotic post

about how a relationship between “someone in college and someone in their 30s” is inappropriate.  Because “you’re in totally different life stages, different levels of maturity!” <-- that argument doesn’t hold once a person is well out of the teen years (~21+).  Also, it’s crap.  Why is being at different like points always a bad thing?  My man is settled into a long-term career, I’m just starting mine... where’s the problem?  We’ve never run into one. 

Also if “maturity,” just means life experience & lessons learned, I’ll let y’all in on a little secret... it doesn’t have everything to do with age. I’m the younger one and, tbh, I’m the more worldly one in my age gap relationship.  

And it makes me laugh how many people IN THEIR 20S consider 30 to be “older.”  How embarrassing.  If you’re so off track to adulthood at age 23 or 24 that you have nothing in common with a 30 y/o, you might need to reevaluate your life.  

Stop spitting back what you’ve heard all your life about age gap relationships and actually use your brain.  If you think about it and still don’t agree, COOL, DON’T BE IN ONE!  But don’t presume to understand the reasons behind a relationship between two proper adults.  

Anyway, I know I’m preaching to the choir here.  Love ya.

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What's your opinion??

18 year old, dating, 29 year old?

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My first inclination is to say it’s fine, but then I remember what it was like to be 18.  18 sounds more mature than it usually is... meanwhile, a 29-year-old is a fully grown adult.  I just think that USUALLY a grown person is into a teenager because they’re somehow stunted themselves.  But TBH it depends on the people, and as long as no one is getting hurt, I guess it’s fine. 

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4 days!

Until miyamor is here :)  Luckily this nasty cold is taking a break this weekend, and highs will be in the 60s and 70s.  Our luck has finally turned- this summer we kept getting rainy and/or muggy weekends.  I still haven’t decided what we’ll do, but honestly, I’d rather snuggle in bed and hang on the porch, rather than go out adventuring the whole weekend.  

I’m not looking forward to all the cleaning I have to do before he gets here... I deep-cleaned the kitchen this weekend, but I still have to tidy my room and the bathroom.  I want everything to look and be awesome because this is the first time I’ve had a life/place of my own that I’m actually proud of.  Can’t wait to share!

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How bad is bad? Age gap problems...

Hey guys! So I wanted to ask all of you beautiful tumblr people what do you think about age differences. You see, I’m 18, and my boyfriend is 23, and his friends seem to be very worried about the 5 year gap. He says he doesn’t care, but I can see how much this whole thing worries him. I want your opinion on the subject so pleaaaaase help me figure this out! Is it really thaaat bad?

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I don’t think it would matter if you were both older, but there’s a huge difference between 18 and 23... a lot happens in that time of aging.  I’m 24 and I would feel so weird bringing a 19-year-old partner around my friends and family.  I would actually never date a teen.  

But I mean if it works, then who cares?  My fiancé is 17 years older... BUT we met as adults.  

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shameless plug

for a blog I co-write with my friend about our adventures in the South as Northern ladies.  I work in Western NC, and she goes to graduate school in New Orleans, LA.  

http://damn-yankees.tumblr.com  

I just wrote a post about my first time trying creasy greens!  I would appreciate your support <3

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This isn’t a DDlg blog byeee! :)

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Need more blogs to follow

So if you post anything related to these topics like my post and I’ll follow you:

Teleiophilia/age gap relationships Hannibal/Mads Mikkelsen Pokemon Skyrim/Elder Scrolls Fitness/healthy eating/thinspo Pretty ladies Flowers/pastels/patterns/backgrounds in general Writing/authors/poetry

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my blog is about my fiancee who is 17 years older

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TMI

**Please don’t reblog personal posts**

Feeling FRUSTRATED because I’ve never gone this long without sex since becoming active as a teen!!  It annoys me that it doesn’t seem to bother G very much, but I guess he’s used to it because he had years of his life where he wasn’t with anyone and only slept with one or two women during that time.  Also I guess he really is getting older, and his drive isn’t as strong.

It’s crazy how much he’s aged since we met.  When we were first introduced, he was 38, but he didn’t look like he could be over 30.  Last night on FaceTime I was noticing how gray he’s become, mostly around the temples and recent along two stripes on his beard.  I think the gray makes him more handsome.  

Anyway, it’s only 12 days until I see him :)  I didn’t realize how close it is until I counted just now.  

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Could you post a list of your favourite age gap films? :)

I don’t seek out age gap films, but I like Lost in Translation and Ghost World.

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Thanks <3

Looks like I got 7 new followers in the past three days, which brings me to 110 total.  I never imagined this blog would have any kind of following because I just talk about my boring personal shit.  I would have deemed it a success if I helped just one person.  My ask box is always open if you need advice, or just want to chat about your beau.  You’re all awesome!

As usual when I get a new crop of followers, I want to make it clear that I don’t AT ALL support the sexualization of little girls.  This is not a DDlg or TC blog.  My partner and I are two adults who met and fell and love- no fetishes, nothing illegal, nothing morally questionable.  Be safe, everyone.

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Countdown

18.5 days until my love arrives for his first visit to my new home in NC!  I have to admit, the long distance thing has been much harder than we thought.  It’s really only been a month since we’ve seen each other, but it feels like ages.  Lately we’ve been trying to do creative things with FaceTime.  Yesterday, we both went to our respective favorite coffee shops and had a vidchat date.  It was nice to drink our lattes together, like we used to every weekend.  

I’m hoping to do something Halloween-related when he visits... carve pumpkins, watch Young Frankenstein, and do our costume makeup.  I think we’re going to be werewolves :K  Anyway, I can’t wait.  I’m perfectly capable of being on my own, but life is so much better shared with my partner.

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Me and my boo went to Pittsburgh for a week!

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Finally watched Lost in Translation

...After it’s been out for 10+ years.  Not my favorite movie, I prefer something a little smarter, but it was artfully done.  And the chemistry between ScarJo and Bill Murray was amazing... both great actors.  It was heartbreaking when he had to leave Japan, brought back memories of when G and I briefly decided we couldn’t be together because of the age difference.

My favorite age gap movie is still Ghost World because I adored seeing Steve Buscemi in a sensitive role, and I loved his quirky character.

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R and I had a wonderful time at the statefair! I’ll have to upload pics of me to make up for this horror lol

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Hope you don’t mind the reblog.  Love having other cute couples on my blog :)

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I received a digital bouquet of daisies today :)  I miss him so much

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We’re an LDR now

I apologize for my hiatus- I recently moved 800 miles away from my hometown, and I’ve spent the past two weeks serving as a new AmeriCorps member.  Now that I have a place to live and I’m getting more comfortable in my new role, I’ll make an effort to blog weekly.

Being so far away from G is very difficult.  11 months seems like a short time in the grand scheme of life, but it hasn’t even been two weeks that we’ve apart, and we already feel the strain on our relationship.  I’m also experiencing the emotional growing pains of growing and changing very quickly in a new environment, while my love stays in the same place doing the same things.  I hope that my new experiences will eventually bolster our relationship, but right now it’s uncomfortable not to be on the same page.  

He spent a few days here to see me off, and he liked it a lot.  He even talked about moving here... and I would love that, because I hate that we’ve both contributed to pigeonholing me into this idea of serving until July, and then returning immediately.  What if I want to renew my term?  What if I love it here?  I would be more open to going home if he really loved it there, but he doesn’t.  He talks about leaving all the time.. he just never goes through with it.  Maybe this is our chance to make a new life together. 

Anyway, all those are minor complaints.  We FaceTime almost every day, and we’re planning a visit in late October or early November, which will be here soon enough.