Dearly Queerly

This is a multi fandom/ not-really-personal blog, and I sincerely apologize if you stumble into it

[eatingabagelbeingacunt]

Everyone remember to reblog lots of untagged gay porn so your mutual’s family member sitting on the couch next to them can enjoy it too

[little-grey-dowitcher]

So many people never learned to live with harmless discomfort at any point in their lives and holy fuck does it show

[little-grey-dowitcher]

“But I wanna know!” You’re gonna have to learn to be ok with not knowing some things, especially when those things involve personal details about strangers that they’re not comfortable sharing.

“But it’s confusing!” If you take the time to educate yourself it’ll no longer be confusing. Otherwise you’re just gonna have to learn to be ok with being confused.

“But it’s weird!” You probably do weird things all the time. Everyone does weird things sometimes. Life goes on.

“But it scares me!” Is it hurting you? No? You’ll be fine. Being scared and being harmed are not always the same thing. Learn to tell the difference and then act accordingly.

“But I want it!” And I want a million dollars. You can’t always get what you want.

[little-grey-dowitcher]

A lot of people were also never told “no” as children and the consequences of that manifest in similar ways. Learn to be ok with being told “no.” You’re not gonna die if you don’t get your way in every single situation ever.

[meowllorydesigns]

THE ORIGIN OF THIS IMAGE:

So in my etsy I sell a pin of some isopods having at a bag of doritos based on this photo. Today I was contacted by the person who took it.

I asked to share this info and he gave permission!

Here’s the picture of him working with isopods and here’s a link to their published research!

[valtsv]

was playing "fetch" with the ocean today by tossing stones into it and watching them wash back up with the tide a few meters away, and it got me thinking about grief and the things we carry with us even after we lose them

[valtsv]

[chaotixxxdoorframe]

Foreshadowing

[catnoli]

nostalgia web-core tiger sharks 💾 get it as a postcard and sticker here!

[inside-my-gay-mind]

[ex]

[oceanlandworld]

people talking about how hard it is to not watch disney/marvel movies in 2024 live in different worlds than me. it's like if your favorite food ever was banquet microwave pot pies

[buzzcutssn]

[bred-by-insanity]

[phantomrose96]

A master to his action-hero trainee says, "Your movements are sloppy. You lack awareness of your body when you fight. Your hands move and yet you do not hold them in your mind's eye. Come. We will remedy this."

And then the master paints his trainee's fingernails and orders the trainee to complete a series of complicated tasks without smudging the nail polish.

[phantomrose96]

Trainee grumbles that this is stupid when the first set of tasks is just cleaning the dojo. Within two minutes he reaches for the dustpan and knocks the edge of his pinky nail against it in a way he's never noticed before. He's staring at the baby blue smudge and suddenly he understands things differently.

[phantomrose96]

There's a montage of days passing as he fetches water, chops wood, hoes crops, washes clothes. His nails are a different color during each cut. He's sprinting up the mountain with a fresh wet pedicure and the master is nodding in approval. The master's nails are flawless tech art.

[phantomrose96]

He's reached his final assessment and it's a sparing match against his master. The air smells of acetone. His and the master's nails are all freshly painted. He must land a blow on the master with his mani and pedi fully intact.

Suns and moons pass. Streak in the ring finger. Smudge on the pinky. A full-handed block at the cost of three nails of paint. A hit on his master, and he hoots in delight until the master points out the unguarded toe whose polish is now streaked across the master's robe.

Days pass in frustration and exhaustion. By day 40, he has every digit of his acutely in his mind's eye. He senses the master's attack, ducks, dodges, all fingers all toes all himself, aware, and he strikes with his wooden sword.

It connects with the master. The master pauses. The trainee raises his left hand into view--5 digits of flawless sunflower yellow. His left foot. His right foot. And finally his right hand, raised in triumph.

The master smiles. "You have passed. I have just one more technique to teach you."

The technique is how to draw little flowers into the nail art. So really this one is optional.

[dynastyscans-deactivated2024100]

saw someone say "an 11-year-old isn't even supposed to know what sex is and if you do something horrible must be happening to you and you need to get out of there" like can we be for real for a moment. have some people honest to god never heard 11-year-olds making sex jokes in their life

[dynastyscans-deactivated2024100]

and let's be honest. if something bad was happening, good sex ed would help them recognize that. trying to shelter children from even knowing what sex is doesn't help or even work, it actually enables abuse. teach them about consent

[goshihateusernamessofcknmuch]

Hot take: let's not discuss sexual stuff around CHILDREN.

Let's not sexualize children or even think of children & sexual stuff

Don't discuss sexual stuff with CHILDREN.

They cannot consent.

Children cannot consent and I dont know how many times we have to tell you this.

CHILDREN. CANNOT. CONSENT.

[dynastyscans-deactivated2024100]

people like you are the reason so many kids can't speak up about being sexually abused. go back to the catholic church or whatever. we need proper sex education and this is dire

[dynastyscans-deactivated2024100]

oh they're literally catholic. that explains a lot.

[madlori]

Talking about sex with kids and sexualizing them ARE NOT THE SAME FUCKING THING. You HAVE to discuss sexual stuff with kids. You do it in many stages and phases, in age-appropriate fashion, but they NEED THIS INFORMATION both because, as pointed out, they need to know what's ok and what's not, and because this shit is going to happen to them and with them and for them and learning about sex is no different than learning how to ride a bike or basic hygiene practices, it's HUMAN LIFE STUFF KIDS NEED TO KNOW.

And consent? To learn about sex? Do you think they're consenting to learn math? I'm sure if asked they'd say no thank you and yet, the horrors persist.

(psst consent is for the having of the sex, not the learning about it)

[queerism1969]

[official-boob-posts]

official boob post

[the-merry-otter]

Tunic embroidered with old Norse runes around the bottom that read “I joined the SCA and all I got was this stupid t-tunic”

[the-merry-otter]

The sleeve cuffs are also embroidered with runes, one side reading “women want me” and the other side “the britons fear me”

[the-merry-otter]

My friend has suggested that the neckline read “Briton women feel conflicted on the matter”

[the-merry-otter]

Everyone reblogging this with some variation of “if you don’t do it, I will”, consider: we can all do this. There are not a finite number of silly embroidered tunics in this world. I only ask that you send me pics if you do :P

[aptronyms]

stop… making… her… a… MOM FIGURE !!! *my psychic powers throw everything across the room*

[aptronyms]

everyone who has said "yeah! she's not a mom figure, she's an OLDER SISTER FIGURE!" on this post owes me $200. WHY DOES SHE HAVE TO BE ANY OF THESE STUPID FAMILIAL FIGURES!! WHY CAN'T SHE JUST BE FRIENDS WITH HER FRIENDS!!!

[heywriters]

No, Google Docs, there is a distinct difference between "cussing" and "cursing."

[strawberrykapricorn]

Calling google ‘googie’ is such a power move imo

[heywriters]

Tis indeed! Thank you for this addition. Here are some photo examples of the Googie style.

[tribeofthedrunkenweasles]

IT HAS A PROPER NAME?!

[geardrops]

posts that provide surprise knowledge, balancing out posts that provide net zero knowledge gained, what a rich ecosystem we live in

[jellogram]

I think the first step towards the life you want is often to just say yes to more things. Accept that coffee invitation from your coworker even if it seems awkward. Sign up for that free class at the library that you're not sure you'll like. Join that club. Book that tour. Say yes to as many things as you can and kill the part of your brain that gut-reacts with a no.

[gaybichon]

community notes are so brutal. tumblr needs to add that feature to escalate our pvp capabilities