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@brit-moss-frog
getting back into art and realising I don't like to line when I know the colours so tried a new (for me) method today
Struggling not to dox myself to explain how my work is apparently environmental conscious (like so many loopholes to do things to make sure they're sending the least amount possible to landfills) and yet is using AI and just allowing it because they're "using it for good"??????? To the point of literally getting the AI to explain how they're using it for good to employees who were complaining about the climate change issue of data centers???
Get me out of here expeditiously
Just trying to count my local councillors and finding a 'discrepancy' that one i know was a reform candidate is listed as Independant and going down a rabbit hole of "how is this man still a councillor after 3 elections"
- ran as conservative in 2018 - was suspended almost immediately after exposed that he was fired from his job for "offensive remarks"
- managed to stay and get re-elected in 2022 as conservative
- defects to reform in November 2025
- gets re-elected as reform and then immediately suspended for emails harassing an Asian member of the party
If this man gets re-elected in 2030 as independent or back in a party I might have to kill somebody
One consistent aspect of anti-transmasculinity I've noticed (particularly when it comes from other trans people) is the implication or outright statement that they want their own oppression.
In this post, for example, transmasculine people are described as wanting to be viewed as different kind of men, to whom different rules apply.
When really, this is simply trans men describing their lived reality. Trans men are, objectively, viewed and treated as a different kind of man, and experience different rules and standards then cis men do. This is assuming that they're even seen as a type of man in the first place, which is not true for many trans men.
Which is interesting, because these same people have no issues when trans women described being degendered or other-sexed. Furthermore, they understand intuitively that trans women are treated with different rules and standards than pericis women.
But when trans men explain similar concepts, that they're overall affected by different systems of oppression than pericis men, suddenly they "want" to be seen as a different kind of man.
They believe that trans men are asking for it.
i haven't fully put this into words, but i do think there is something fundamentally transphobic about this argument.
there's a lot of talk about "basic transphobia" and "just transphobia" and whatnot. but like. it feels like in the desperation to be accepted into cisfeminism, we often cede the ground that transness in itself — not merely when validated by a binary, cis-accessible gender identity — is bad theory, because it blurs the lines too much.
like. what is being critiqued here? trans men correctly identify that, in our material lived experiences, we are not the same as cis men, and that understanding our material political-social circumstances requires starting from that understanding.
this is not incompatible with insisting on trans men's manhood. if this woman actually spoke to a large number of these trans men, she'd find there's a large amount of diversity — including people who aren't even actually trans men, they are just transmasculinized and thus need these conversations as well. there are trans men who feel strongly their gender is just "man" and that they are a man in the same way a cis man is a man, and yet, also must make sense of his lived experiences of being treated as a woman and a dyke and a tranny far more than he is treated as a cis man. analyzing your experiences as a man does not require sacrificing analysis of your experience as trans.
is he supposed to ignore his material position... for what? for the ideological purity? he needs to prove to... who, exactly, that he's a Real Man by insisting he's the positionaly same as cis men? should he just roleplay as a cis man for your comfort?
and again, why must we downplay trans people's transness? why is this not allowed to be central in our analysis, even moreso than the specific (almost always binary) gender identity? why do we treat transness as a just modifier for a binary, cis-centric idea of gender? this idea of a transfeminism that is only for women who happen to be trans, with transness pushed as far to the periphery as possible but excused because the people doing the pushing are trans, so that makes it trans + feminism, right?
just like. as a nonbinary person, it is so incredibly obvious how exorsexism / misandrogyny / transphobia warps our idea of transfeminism. people who consider themselves "transfeminist" get mad at trans men for centering their transness. why the fuck even bother calling it transfeminism if you are gonna get mad when other trans people go any deeper than "cisfeminism but with diy E" !! this is the same kind of person who insist that there is no material analysis to be done of nonbinary experiences, that nonbinary gender identity is all counterrevolutionary bourgeoisie idealism.
it's dressed up in Marxism, but fundamentally, i truly believe this attitude comes from deep and unanalyzed internalized transphobia that people like her can justify to themselves, because it's the kind of internalized transphobia that hurts other kinds of trans people first.
I'm just going to touch on the "different kind of [gender] to whom different rules apply and who is only a [gender] in some situations" as being fundamental to beings trans.
We wouldn't need cis/trans descriptors if being trans was exactly the same, everywhere and all the time, as being cis. The experience is different; there is a *transition,* or the internal realization of the need/want for transition. There is dissonance between internal gender identity & the perceived gender you're treated as, with a need to *change* which gender you're seen as. This doesn't have to be simple/reductive; "a different kind of man," distinct from the pericisheterotoxic norm of manhood, can be a different gender. (It can also not be a distinct gender, but just a different type of say...the umbrella of all manhood that includes pericisheterotoxic masculinity and non-toxic masculinity. The person labeling himself gets to speak for himself.) (Funnily, expanding what "man" or "woman" or "nonbinary person" means opens up opportunities for trans, intersex, and pericis gender expression as well! Liberating the oppressed among us ALSO liberates the ones who benefit from our current oppression.)
So that's different kind. Different rules? As @razortouched and @genderzkoolaid already explained, it's not about wanting different rules, it's that different rules already exist. Adding to that at another angle: some new and different rules do need to be applied for the health and safety of all trans people! If you pass as cis, you need clinic staff to be chill about you asking for the "wrong" gender's physical exam. You need to be able to ask your doctor for a cervical/prostate exam without fearing transphobic violence. You need to be able to disclose surgical transition with regard to how it affects the care you need. You need to be able to buy menstrual products, condoms, sex toys/aids, etm without being interrogated or harrassed because of your gender. If you don't pass (pre-transition) you can stealth, which is harmful in itself—having to hide that part of yourself to get medical care is horrible! If you don't pass (mid-transition), you really, really, really need clinic staff to be super fucking chill about everything gender related.
On to "who is a [gender] in only some situations." There's so much to unpack here. So much tied up in who is determining the gender—the person who is that gender vs an outside observer. Some trans people are genuinely multiple genders at different times; many/most trans people are at risk of having their trans identity inadvertently revealed, which can lead to outside observers flipping what gender they see that trans person as and opening them up to malgendering as well as misgendering. To binary trans people, acknowledging outside observer's wrong perception of their gender can be or feel invalidating/insulting. Genderfluid people may take more issue with outside observers' perception of them being static, even if the observer is currently correctly identifying their gender. Malgendering & misgendering! Where you get treated as whichever gender will hurt you the worst at every step in some institution's process—be it the educational system, prison-industrial complex/"justice" system, medical practice, DMV, etm.
saw this on pinterest but i think it belongs here too
Cate. Cate I understand why you're asking this of your dad specifically but you're a lesbian from San Francisco, surely you have encountered polyamory before
Couldn't imagine loving an english person. "Blimey that's a wedding ring, 'innit" - like come on, get it together
I find the American's idea of the British accent still being in the 1920s funny because, maybe I just haven't been out of the North in years, I have never heard someone say 'blimey' and definitely not in the accent their imagining with "'innit"
Not my dad going for the 'communist' example of a surveillance state as an example of what Labour wants the UK to be and not the fascist example... I feel like the go to examples of a surveillance state is either China or Nazi Germany and my dad pulled out Soviet Russia which like sure but kind of telling because in no way shape or form is Labour communist but all the right wingers seem to think they are because they do the bare minimum of not rolling back the Human Right Act and DEI
Don't you love it when your mother with heart problems goes uncontactable after promising to pick up her 2 children to the point you have to call your dad with heart problems to ask where his wife is because she's not picking up or reading messages. So he's stressed and getting up to pick you up and your sister's getting a taxi just to find out that she lost track of time at her friend's house and left her phone in the car... and then she gets mad that a taxi's coming instead and your dad woke up early to be stressed for 10 minutes that his wife had disappeared
not the update I expected to make to this meme
My parents say something about British politics that is sounds insane, search it and can't find a single news source only a single Facebook post: "it's going to be a satire/parody account isn't it?:
Looks inside:
Signs of a heart attack are different for each gender yet we only really teach the male warning signs. Make sure you’re aware of both and spread it to as many other women as possible!
EVERY SINGLE TIME I HAVE TAKEN A CPR CLASS I have had to be that person who points out that the training videos ALWAYS frame the “male” symptoms as the default universal heart attack experience, while the “female” symptoms are framed as though they’re a deviation from the norm, rather than the primary symptom set that cis women experience.
ALSO: I just showed this post to my roommate, who is an MD at a clinic that specializes in care for the LGBT community in the Baltimore area. I asked her whether hormones were responsible for the difference in the “male/female” symptom arrays. I asked how that would apply to her trans patients (which, she treats a LOT of trans patients). She said, basically, that the longer you’ve taken testosterone the more likely you are to get the intense chest pressure and the arm pain, versus the upper back pressure and shortness of breath.
Obviously I am not a doctor myself, consult your own health care provider, etc.
Reblogging this comment because this is the FIRST TIME I’ve ever seen someone address what XYZ medical condition would look like in trans patients. Also this is partly why my great-grandma died: the (male) doctor dismissed her heart attack as basically indigestion, because she didn’t have the typical male symptoms.
My mum had a heart attack that she origianlly thought was indigestion and I almost joked about it being a heart attack because I knew it displayed differently in women (I didn't know she was also feeling chest/back/arm pain otherwise I would have been more serious and it was late so she wouldn't have believed me anyway) and only the next day after work I found out it actually was a heart attack. Hearing the whole story was wild like both me and my dad knew of different symptoms she felt but didn't tell my mum it sounded like a heart attack.
Non-fatal heart attacks seem to run in the family (grandad, mum and like 3 of her cousins on grandad's side) so it's also good to know how T (if i get on it anytime soon) might change my symptoms
Just experienced this IRL when my dad explained a car colour as 'blueish-green' and my mum said 'teal'
"Only women know of colours like that, teal..."
Like what do you mean in your 60 years of life you've never heard of teal??
i love you black trans people. i love you asian trans people from all over asia (not just east asia). i love you hispanic trans people. i love you indigenous trans people. i love you poc trans people. you're doing great, i promise you, and i'm so fucking sorry the community erases you as much as it does.
Riri and Wendy
Now that it's been renewed for season 2 I wsnt to write down my thoughts about Riri and Wendy. (This might be a jumbled mess so sorry in adavnce)
Riri and Wendy are played by the same actress - Anwen O'Driscoll.
I love Riri. My forced assassin, father's favourite daughter, gay loser for Mary, close with her sister even though parents keep trying to pit them against each other. I want to know everything about her. Why the mask? Riri's the favourite daughter but her mother isn't at the retreat despite Arkadi's divorce with Kira's, she can't be privy to the truth of their money situation/part of the board?
Wendy (according to Wiki) is meant to be Sayaka but she never interacts with Kira, or any of the student council. She's clearly a special house pet since she gets the job of annoucements and is maybe why she's not using her information to get herself out of status?
I would say Wendy knows information quicker than she should like where Yumeko was running from Dori to save her or about the house pet hunt returning but it seems the time between scenes is incredibly skewed. The council have a meeting about bringing back the hunt while Rex takes Yuemko to laundry duty, Yumeko is told by Wendy when she gets to the dorms for said duty - had it already been announced as she was walking between the places? When she gets to the library to give the map to Michael, the hunts starting in 30 minutes - is this the same day?
This could go one of three ways.
They ignore it. They just couldn't be bothered to hire a second person for the 3 scenes Wendy is in and the voice overs so it's never going to be addressed. We'll never see Mary and Wendy meet, especially after Mary sees Riri without the mask, because that would be confusing. Or it's a Superman/Klark Kent situation where the glasses mean Mary doesn't recognise her/they must be different people.
Riri and Wendy are the same person. Based on the timeline in House Wars, semi-impossible. The time Riri would need to be sent out of student council to get the club flag, change into Wendy, save Yumeko and show her the way, change back, take club flag and return to the council room before Michael shows up is hella skewed. Ep7 is also kind of messy with Riri being in the council meeting and getting to the dorms before Yumeko as Wendy. Those ruin the theory as annoucements would be the easiest as they can be pre-recorded/done remotely, ep8 there's enough time between Riri and Wendy showing up for it to be easy enough. Riri working against her sister/family as her own act of rebellion outside of her father's sight becuase she doesn't want to be the inheritor of his empire built on blood? Would Kira know her sister is Wendy, even if not that she's helping Yumeko?
Twins makes the most sense but do put up questions we currently have no answers for. Do the sisters know? if so why are they hiding her? If not, does Wendy know she's Riri's twin? Is she purposefully working against the sisters by helping Yumeko? Because she's hidden, daddy's forgotten daughter? Or is she just a normal house pet that hates the status quo and doesn't know her family? How did she get the annoucements job? This makes the most sense but would require a lot more information about the Timurov family. Does Riri's mother know the truth of the Kakegurui club and hid one child that wouldn't be exposed to their terrible father?
In conclusion, who the fuck is Wendy? There needs to be an actual reason for it to be the same actress please!!
when I was a kid I wished I had nosebleeds. I had some friends who had them and I was like. that looks so fucking cool. you're just sitting there and suddenly you're covered in blood. it looks so dramatic. it looks so... and here my language failed me. at such a humble age I did not have the vocabulary to describe the sublime. I just sat in incomprehensible jealousy. I turned out totally normal by the way
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xenomorp good friend for baby
