just a little rant, because i need to type this out. my younger cousin is having two friends over for a week - she told us a week prior, so we were surprised, i could change some plans and go back to the city to give them some privacy, but what's done is done and i suppose they wouldn't mind having us upstairs. and let me tell you - they don't mind one bit.
for context, the house we have in the countryside is my gran's, she built it and used to live there before moving with my mum to the city and everyone from her side of the family stays there during summer - my mum, my aunt & her husband, my two cousins, my brother, sister and obviously my gran. most of the time, we are not there at the same time, because everyone aside from my cousins has work or higher studies. i sometimes stay in the city, but still the countryside's my main vacation destination, it's very calming and fresh - helps me relax and everything you can imagine.
i decided to stay out of their way for the most part, because there was no use interrupting their shenanigans and all i could offer is my hospitality. i said welcome, hope you have a great stay and stay out of trouble, so you know, the basics. but their behaviour is so surprising to me?
when i was younger, whenever i'd drop by my friend's house i'd make sure i wasn't - you know - troubling them in any way shape, or form. i wouldn't trash anything, be kind & respectful, quiet - you know - the bare minimum? because i'm the guest. when i'd stay over or my friends would, we'd make sure we were mindful of everyone in the house. i remember when i invited my friend to drop by my place to have some study sessions on the weekend, and when my gran visited us the second day and she made my friend goffers, she was so kind and even a little embarrassed, which you know, was completely unnecessary, but it was still lovely of her to show gratitude. while my cousin's friends are only a year younger than me (or 2) and their attitude is so different? i clearly didn't expect them to cook their own food or whatever, because they're the guests, but they are so unappreciative of everything?
cooked them dinner, because my gran was picking fruits, no thank you, no anything - they didn't even at it all and then complained they were my gran was picking fruits, they, later on, complained they were hungry - not to me, to my cousin, who then told me about it. i'm one year their senior, they are old enough to make themselves a sandwich? i'm not the best cook, but my spaghetti wasn't uneatable, come on. they're also very loud, and i mean very, very loud. but you know, i decided i'll let it slide, because we are young, it's the day and the summer there's no point in making a scene over teenagers having fun - i had an issue with it, because - as all my family now - i have a diagnosis, which makes me overstimulated very easily, so in order to work or study, i need to avoid unnecessary stimuli - thus, i went to the countryside for some peace and quiet, but at the same time, it's solely my problem and they shouldn't stop having fun, just because it makes me crazy. so i changed my routine, a bit - take meds a bit later and study during the night. you'll never guess who loves to scream around, play music & laugh in the middle of the night. you'll never guess. my sister and & i are very bothered by it. my brother - on the other hand - sleeps like a rock, so once he manages to fall asleep, he doesn't mind. my gran, on the other hand, sleeps downstairs, so she doesn't hear one bit. i honestly told my cousin about this, i didn't want to make a scene, because that would put the girls and her in an awkward position, so i just said if she could make sure they wouldn't be as loud during the nighttime. she apologized. guess what happened the next night. i decided i'd bring it up to her once the girls are away and work around it until then.
changed my entire routine, started studying downstairs - the internet connection sucks, decided to change the subject i was studying and read some books and make notes - can't do, because as my gran said it "i'm occupying girls' space, that's where they eat dinner". yikes, drove a bike to a nearby river, where i could sit and read, but for obvious reasons, the "taking notes" part is quite difficult, also, i have to do it in the morning because i've lent one of the girls my bike.
yup. that's the whole entire thing, my cousin asked me if one of the girls could take my bike because she didn't bring one and i said yes because i could always go cycling in the morning. sadly, they ride on their bikes at least once a day, in the afternoon, and after (trying) to pull an all-nighter, it's i have a very small window of time to study before i have to ride back and give them the bike. frankly, i didn't even mind it, because that meant i could study in peace upstairs. but the worst part is, the bike, after 5 days of usage got more dirty than i've ever seen it in 3,5 years of riding it. i used to own an all-terrain bike, so cycling in rough conditions is something i'm familiar with, but my current bike is definitly not right for that and oh my god, i've never seen a bike more dirty, and as i said, i've been to some messy places with my old one. and again, i wouldn't mind it if she at least cleaned it afterward? she just left me with it, like oh my fucking lord.
and it's not the end either! they make a huge mess both downstairs; in the kitchen & dining area and in their room. obviously, the room can be excused, because it's their space, but the kitchen? the dining room? they also like to displace things, like the basketball or their clothes. what's going on.
they're leaving on friday - until then, i will stay out of their way and try to be as productive as i can, so i haven't wasted this entire week. i will bring it up with my cousin because that's her job to keep her friends in check. i'll also mention this to my auntie and uncle, because if that's how it's going to be, next time i'll simply go back to the city, ong.
i don't want to make girls feel unwelcome, i really don't. but at the same time, i have some crazy-ass friends, who are the loudest and the craziest at the parties, but whenever they stay over and they're NOT ALONE, they are angels. everyone my age (that i know, obviously) has always been so aware of their manners. every time we've organized a party, they could trash the place up like there's no tomorrow and then help to clean it. when they'd stay over, they'd make their food, or at least clean after themselves. or SAY THANK YOU if someone else did it for them. i've met people who can be the meanest person to you, but when they're at someone else's place, they'd at least be respectful. it's so frustrating to see the difference. or am i crazy.