Buffalo Mama

  "It's not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It's our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless."  

[buffalomama]

We went and walked the trails at a wild life reserve yesterday. We got about .8 mile(s) in when Lilliana decided the leaves were the most interesting part. i would have liked to kept walking and looking around at all the beauty, but to her, this was the beauty. So we stopped, and played with leaves for almost an hour, and she gladly tried sharing them with everyone who passed us. While it can be hard to do,  think it’s important to take it slow, and let them set the pace.

[pr1nceshawn]

Tips That Can Save Your Kid’s Life.

[hiddlesherethereeverywhere]

THIS IS IMPORTANT 

When I was a child, from the time I was about four and could understand things, my mom told me and my brother that we should have a secret word. That way, if we were ever in trouble or felt unsafe and we didn’t want the people around us to know we needed her to come get us, we could let her know. So she let us pick the word and my brother and I chose the phrase “peanut butter cups.” (I’m happy to share the phrase now since both my brother and I are adults now). 

I used the phrase twice in my life. Once, I was at a friends house when I eight years old. Her dad got really drunk and was throwing things against the wall. I was really scared and I didn’t want to draw attention to myself on the phone when I called my mom to come get me because I didn’t know if he would get more violent if I asked her to come get me. So I called her and was calm and after a couple minutes I asked “Hey mommy, did you get me those peanut butter cups from the store?” And she said “I’ll be right there.” And she came and got me within minutes. 

Second, I was a teenager spending the night at a friends house. Her brother and dad were drinking and they started talking about things that made me uncomfortable - ie: what they liked to do to women. My friend didn’t seem perturbed and said that was normal for them and that I shouldn’t worry. But I was worried because they were really drunk and I was 15 and the only ‘woman’ around that wasn’t related to them. I went in my friends room, told her I needed to call my mom and say goodnight. Before I hung up with her I asked “Next time we go to the store, can we get some peanut butters cups? I’ve been craving them.” And she came and got me, just like that. 

Two incidents, one as a young child, one years later as a teen. Don’t discredit this stuff, it fucking works. My brother used it a few times too. Let your child pick the word and no never, ever, ever, ever get mad at them for using it no matter what it is. 

[titenoute]

DO NOT SCROLL PAST THAT.

[niknikk3]

Virginia ❤️

[buffalomama]

Nikki with us for Lilliana’s first year celebration 

[buffalomama]

09.29.16

Most making this post to make sure everything is set up correctly. I wanted to start this blog to share my parenting experiences, general thoughts and eventually link an etsy page. I’ll talk about a variety of topics and go over some of my favorite products and advice pieces. Would love to invite people to join me in this journey!