hi again. this is still emily, and this is still jay kim.
i really want to call this segment so you wanna smooch jay kim, but i'm gonna try to be chill. even if it's very funny.
when it comes to shipping on this blog, as stated in my rules, everything i do is rooted in chemistry. this is the most important thing above all else -- i do not like being forced into situations. i also will not entertain anyone who is using jay kim to faceclaim hunt or collect. this character is so much more than the face i chose to represent him. it's very easy to tell when that's happening, and it will result in a hardblock.
this blog is multiship. any romantic interactions i am writing are, obviously, not taking place in the same universe / same timeline. jay is a bisexual man, he does not have a preference in gender, and he is a lover boy at heart. i do not partake in ship exclusivity. ( meaning that jay will not have only one dedicated partner. ) i like exploring a variety of relationships, and will continue to keep my blog open for these interactions as long as i see fit. ( this can change at any moment. )
jay, at his core, is a very sensitive person. he is a lover boy, he is touch starved, and the things he went through growing up make him very susceptible to falling fast and falling hard. these feelings never have to be reciprocated. it's simply part of his personality and who he is. jay is also a very submissive person -- he is not often going to make the first move ( unless the situation is right ), and he is not taking control of any situation. he needs someone with a lot of patience, someone who is willing to take a more dominant role, and someone who will treat him with gentleness as he navigates the in's and out's of a serious relationship, considering his experience is very limited until college.
i cannot stress this enough -- jay is a kind hearted person. he is not going to be mean to his partner, and his partner cannot be mean to him in return. he is not an insert for anyone's fantasy's regarding my faceclaim choice, and he is not going to dominate anyone, ever. this is non-negotiable. do not try to change / challenge this fact, and do not ignore it for the sake of your own personal ideals.
jay is also not jealous at heart -- he doesn't really understand the emotion. he, instead, will turn jealous into sadness. if you're looking for someone who will get angry and flustered in such a situation, jay kim is not the partner for you. he is too soft spoken to start any sort of argument, and he is so afraid of confrontation that he will always recede into the background when things like this occur. this does not change, regardless of who he is with and what is happening.
jay is also a monogamous person. though jealousy is very rare, jay's self esteem issues make it nearly impossible for him to think about having a relationship with multiple people without it affecting his mental health. he wouldn't be able to handle it in a healthy way, and therefore, he is someone who will have one partner, no matter what verse. he is very loyal, he is very dedicated, and he is very passionate when it comes to the person / people he cares about. any pressure put on him ( or myself ) to break this rule will not be taken very well.
with all that being said, jay is honestly one of the softest, well meaning people in the world. when he likes someone, it's so evident in the way he shows it. he is gentle, he is adoring, and he will worship the ground his partner walks on, point blank. there is always room for bumps in the road and angst and things like that, but in general, jay is just so loving, so willing to do the work to make things possible, to make them work. if you're interested in any dynamics like that, you are invited to send a romantic meme to me, and we can try it out! if it doesn't work, it doesn't work. and that's okay. ( you are also more than welcome to message me on tumblr to discuss any potential ideas you might have! i might be slow to reply, but i'm always able to have a conversation and see if things will work out. )
i do write nsfw content -- it's always tagged with " nsfw text / ", as well as put under a readmore. this is not necessary to writing romantic content with me. i am always willing to fade to black, or discuss details off the dash, for anything. i will say that i do not take to being shamed for partaking in nsfw content, and if you do not like it, you are more than welcome to curate your space as you see fit.
when it comes to out of character things, i do tend to gravitate towards ships where i'm very close with the mun of jay's partner. helping to build out these universes to the point where i know how to anticipate things makes the chemistry more natural, makes things flow easier. that isn't to say that i won't ship with people outside of that, but it does make me more comfortable and make the writing feel more natural. hence the encouragement to reach out to me if you want to give it a go!
additionally, when it comes to ships and the things i write, nothing is a competition. i enjoy all the things i write equally, regardless of where my muse is at. i do not like the thought that i cannot write what i want to write due to stigma placed on me by others / this website. we are all here to have fun and play in the sandbox together. if you do not like something i am writing, you are more than welcome to soft block / block me.
i am allowed to exist and write in this space with my partners as much as anyone else. this is very important to me. the things i've developed are important to me, and to jay's character in a variety of ways. you do not get to erase my existence because of this. if anything i do upsets you, i just ask that you talk to me. shipping is not a competition between muses or muns. i do not like that atmosphere. if you do not like / cannot handle multiship, i might not be the partner for you.
jay is too important to me to let people try and let people control the narrative of my own blog based on their own perceptions. i'm always so willing to discuss any details about his character with anyone, so please, feel free to reach out to me! i didn't mean for this to get as serious as it is, but i've been having trouble with people just fundamentally misunderstanding my character for the sake of pwp, or my faceclaim, or anything else in between.
i encourage you to read through my carrd, and get to know my muse! he's a good guy! and he does deserve love! so let him have it!
