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[nusharkteeth]

Thought about it today and this is the vibe this trio gives me.

[penworthy]

Lately everything that happens feels like it was engineered in a lab to drive us all insane

[casceth]

dont retreat emotionally. people like you and want you around. they like to talk to you, and you genuinely matter. you have to trust this through the hard times so you can get to the better times without sabotaging yourself. you are worth loving

[casceth]

the most common refutation of the post is from those who say that reality has shown them otherwise, and the reason i still stick to what i said in my original post is not just that the majority of people still need to hear it, i do also in fact mean this directed at those who have undeniably contentious relationships. even when this is true, (i have had times where i was genuinely disliked) retreating emotionally will not only not help you and keep you from moving forward, it also wont even protect you from that rejection, or even just from disinterest. If you dont trust this you are going to keep going through the same things again and again like you already have been. like i did.

[chongoblog]

Can’t wait for, like, 2025 when we look back on the 2018/2019 era and say “hey, remember when we were all really freaking depressed? That was a crazy time! Glad we aren’t like that anymore”

[ampersketch-art]

Hey,

[chongoblog]

Don’t say anything

[bumblebreakdown]

Like let my karma be something else if this is one bcs i would just want to suffer from diff things bcs suffering from thesis is already a trauma to me, like pls make it something else

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[ri5k]

the assurance "nobody is judging you" is straight up false... people ARE judging you and you have to find a way to be ok w it

[giritina]

My methods as someone with schizotypal (feeling of constantly being judged disorder)

1. Even if you do something embarrassing AND someone judges you AND talks about it to others, you really haven't done anything but improve their life. People like bonding over interesting stories. If I'm at the mall and I look strange or act weird, people at best don't care and at worst have a little story to tell their friends.

2. Talking about people is part of life. You probably have done it to others. What comes out of people's mouths when you're out of the room doesn't necessarily reflect their true feelings. Getting words out of your head can be how you check if they're true. Many people might say something mean so they can come to a more neutral understanding. We often think "said behind my back = true feelings" but it isn't true.

3. If someone is actually consistently talking behind your back in a cruel, mean way and being two-faced to you, that's actually them being in the wrong. You aren't responsible for that. You don't have to burden yourself worrying that you're doing something that would make someone act this way. You can operate as though everyone is being upfront and honest and not make concessions for passive aggression.

4. If you talk behind people's backs a lot and operate in a judgemental way to others, try cutting back on that behavior. It honestly helps you feel less scared of others talking about you.

5. If your friend group talks a lot behind people's backs and judges or harasses others for fun, try to discourage that behavior or step away. Seeing people obsess over others isn't good for your health, and those people's behavior isn't normal. Same with hanging out on dramamill websites etc.

6. If you actually concretely find people actually talking behind your back a lot, analyze why. It could be that it's bullying, but it could also be that people don't feel safe telling you their feelings. Think about how you treat others.

7. There's always a risk of being judged and hurt by others, but the rumination on the possibility of it being the case is going to hurt you. The goal should be to live life in the moment and deal with cruelty when it actually emerges. Constantly being on guard for tragedy doesn't actually make it any easier, it just makes you really tired.

[giritina]

Oh, also 8. Imagining a scenario where people are judging you or talking about you behind your back doesn't make it true. You will think "obviously but it can actually be very hard to tell that it isn't true. You start judging people for what you assume they're judging you for. The hard thing is you really can't know what people are talking about, even if they are talking. You can't read anyone's mind, and you have no knowledge of their life when you can't observe it. This is hard to accept, but freeing once you absorb it.

[ibuprofengirl]

[catbelle]

FOR THE BETTER!

[bumblebreakdown]

Me: wow i wonder if i can stand like this for too long

Also me: *has always been running around and rarely sits down on the day of the job*

Me: fucking hell

[bumblebreakdown]

I hope you guys understand how this deconstructed my negative thoughts, i love how twice's songs make me feel a certain way, and it's always a positive thought, i care for twice

[homunculus-argument]

The type of parents who argue that simply putting food on the table and keeping a roof over their kids' head is sufficient parenting are always so shocked when their children no longer want to deal with them once they've got their own place and can buy their own groceries. Like what else did you expect to happen? You told the people who had no other choice than rely on you for food and shelter that asking for any more than that is unreasonable of them, and then they don't go to you for anything once they can get those some other way. What would they go to their parents for?

They've got food at the house.