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"Hahaha, I'm only bringing up Charlie Kirk's death because it is a JOKE to me. I think it's FUNNY. That's why I'm still malding about him almost a year after his murder."

Well, I guess if he's got you this upset he must be on to something, right? Isn't that what they say? Regardless, I'm curious: would you be holding this same energy if Charlie were a woman? Even one you disagree with? Or is there a permissibility to (often brutal) violence against men that you simultaneously refuse to acknowledge while also cheekily playing into?

Just some food for though, "pal".

hotvampireadjacent

Counting or not counting World Cup goals

estrogenesis-vaporeongelion

having poor circulation and being cold at work even in the southern california summer is like being those people in crimes of the future that are evolved to eat plastic

stonerparty

bambi-eyed-mama

sunshine, you're not fooling anyone: you're not a big kid right now. don't you give me that look - i know how you are when you're big, and right now you're not. nu uh, no pouting, it's okay - there's nothing wrong with being small!! <33

oh kiddo, come here, what's wrong? were you playing pretend the whole day, trying to seem like a grownup? it's alright now, little one, you're safe here. you can let yourself be small. now, let's try to take a deeeep breath and let all these big thoughts fly away - i can do the thinking for you now, hm? come on, little one, let's get some comfy clothes and a stuffie <3

sexualencountersatwalmart

Stephen King released a novel last year with just a straight up uncomplicated uncritical rendition of the plural tranny psycho killer antagonist and in the afterword was like "i wanted to do something like Psycho :)"

these things have not been reckoned with

sexualencountersatwalmart

this isn't directly related to the ongoing discussion of this trope in horror and the transmisogynistic legacy of seminal horror films like Psycho, but i think it's worth talking about as a larger illustration of the narrative roles afforded to transfeminized characters:

there is exactly one other explicitly transfeminized character in this series by King (the Bill Hodges/Holly Gibney series of detective novels). she appears in the climax of End of Watch (2016) as one victim in a montage of victims coerced into suicide by the antagonist. she is described very clearly as a trans girl, but is directly referred to by the text as a gay boy. i won't go into detail, but her on-page suicide (unlike the others in the montage) is a dark comedy beat, played for laughs

sexualencountersatwalmart

yes! nail on the head right here. like yes, it's worth it to be like "fuck stephen king" and criticize the particulars of his transmisogynistic writing, but the broader point is that this is what transfemininity looks like in pop culture and it's what it looks like right now!

this isn't history or a settled issue, it's our current reality

steelydanyaoi

freak as fuck sign

tinyflower-bouquet

i'm not incontinent but i believe in their beliefs

tinyflower-bouquet

^_^;;;

fishing-princess

unknowndestiny95

Baby belongs in diapers forever 😫

birdandmoon

Heat waves.

storyweavingspider

Addition: The amount of bombs that Israel and the US have dropped on Gaza in the pursuit of genocide and settler-colonialism have significantly contributed to climate change over the past couple years and is directly linked to so many “once in a century” and “never before seen” weather and temperatures.

ella-bliss

mousidy

speaking from experience, if you're a lesbian and you're attracted to a trans man then two options present themselves to you:

realize that you don't really see him as a man, or :

accept that you can be attracted to a man

a fork in the road like this would be a great place to examine your bioessentialist transphobia, but instead of doing that you can just ascend to a new enlightened plane and reach queer level 100 by deciding "welllll trans men can be lesbians"

mousidy

a lot of advanced level 100 enlightened queer thinking is really just bioessentialism in disguise frankly

like, no, it's actually not level 100 gender to expect trans women to top you, you just see her as a man and instead of examining your transphobia you're pretending you exist on the next plane of queer thought high above us bottom feeders who foolishly think having a penis might not necessarily mean she wants to perform a traditionally masculine role for you in the bedroom

mousidy

a lot of trans women I've met who initially discuss enjoying topping their partners have, over time, after getting space from the expectation to top, said that they've stopped enjoying topping and no longer want to do it

certainly a lot of trans women genuinely enjoy topping, but I think it's a lot fewer than many people imagine. we just aren't being given the space to genuinely explore what we want, often thanks to the presence of enlightened level 100 queers who see us as naive fools for thinking we might not want to top. how simple we are for not considering that Women Can Top Too! it's actually more radical for women to top! 😁

mousidy

no amount of pretending to be an advanced queer thinker can paper over the fact that you expect trans men to be like women in their sexualities and you expect trans women to be like men in our sexualities. you are not level 100 you're level 1

mousidy

"you can be anything labels don't mean anything" yadda yadda whatever but why do you always mysteriously seem to apply labels and expectations based on assigned sex? hm?

mousidy

had someone tell me that the counterpart to lesbian trans men is a "turigirl"

I went looking and I couldn't find any transfems actually using that label, just an article on one of those queer wikis and a bunch of positivity posts mentioning turigirls. I really don't think a lot of transfems think of themselves as being women who like men "in a male way"

not fond of this mysticism about men and women experiencing attraction in fundamentally, biologically different ways, nor am I fond of the idea that trans people fundamentally experience attraction in accordance with their assigned sex. the bioessentialism is rancid

I get the impulse to distance oneself from straightness but I don't think the answer is to construct bioessentialist mythology around your sexuality

mousidy

like where are the trans women saying they like women in a "male way" or the trans men saying they like men in a "female way"? is nobody doing that because straightness is unchic? because you don't win any radicality points for misgendering yourself to align with straightness?

the idea that we experience attraction in accordance with our assigned sex is not the enlightened level 100 queer idea you think it is. there are people who say trans lesbians are attracted to women in a straight male way and they're called terfs