funniest childhood memories to look back on are always hands-down the kink formation ones. hey, little me, do you want to explain to anyone why you’re watching the jungle book 2 for the 40th time this week. it’s not even a good movie. would you please stop staring at that snake.
it’s a very distinct sort of feeling as opposed to developing a kink as an adult, when you’ve got a full understanding of kinks and sex and all that. when you’re an adult, you either react with ‘hope this doesn’t awaken anything in me’ or perhaps ‘yayyy yippeee yayyyy’ about figuring something out that you like. but when you’re a kid you go :) wow! i sure do enjoy rewatching the scenes where my favorite characters get depowered and left helpless at their enemy’s feet! i’m sure that’s normal! (Omnipotent Narrator Voice) It Was Not, In Fact, Normal.
Thx @dragonclownthing, that’s exactly how my LAST POST was supposed to end! It appears everyone here shares the same mind, so I didn’t had to change anything to the comic I made, even though it ended up being longer than expected (5 pages). Enjoy ;]
+18/KINK CONTENT/DON’T REBLOG UNDER A SFW BLOG OR USING REGULAR TAGS (nothing sexually explicit, but you get it)
After many months of work, I'm proud to share the first version of this worksheet that I have been building to help make feedist play more safe and fun. It still has plenty of kinks (hah) to be ironed out, but overall, I am pretty proud of what it pulls together.
As it says in the "Start Here" tab in the document, the point of this document is to help feedists bring risk-aware consensual kink (RACK) thinking and tools to how they practice our special and unique kink.
A spreadsheet like this may seem daunting at first, but the point of this is to get you and your partner(s) to use this as a jumping off point to sexy conversations that build the safety you need for feedism to be something you can both enjoy comfortably.
A few thoughts to contextualize this as you read through:
It's not exhaustive, by design. The point is not to name every single conceivable act in here, but to hit big enough categories that it allows you to start a conversation.
Generally I've tried to arrange things from low-risk to high-risk. It's imperfect, but the goal is to ensure newcomers to the kink see that there are lots of relatively safe ways to play before jumping into the deep end.
Despite its' brevity, I've tried to stay away from terms like "death feedism" and focus more on specific acts, both because those terms are very confronting and because they contain multitudes within themselves -- best to be specific, was my thinking.
This will necessarily need updating (hence the v1.0) but my hope is that this starts a conversation and that it can be updated by the community to be more encompassing and useful moving forward.
I welcome any and all constructive feedback!
A huge thanks to everyone who did my survey earlier on different ways you enjoy feedist acts. I plan to put together a sort of "play menu" for many of the ideas that were shared that felt too specific for this tool. Stay tuned!
This is such an incredible resource! (also I’m embarrassed by the realization that I never actually filled out the preliminary survey a while back.)
As an older feedist who was active in the late 2000s and drifted away from the community in part because I was getting increasingly uncomfortable with its sketchy and unethical side, one of my favorite things about feedist Tumblr (besides being a place for me to share my smut) is seeing how much more conscious, mature and thoughtful the younger generation of feedists is around issues of feedee agency, ethics and consent. Nothing like this existed when I was new to the community, and it would have helped me (and a lot of other people!) so much.
fattening someone up but doing it in like. a masculinizing way. telling you “eat up, i like boys who look like they can handle themselves” with a coy little wink as i add another serving to your plate, grabbing your chub, “gotta make sure you can keep me warm.” squeezing your doughy arm the same way one would squeeze a guy’s muscled bicep, even more admiringly. saying things like “i need a guy with a little weight on him,” as i encourage you to order a second entree when we’re out to dinner, and on the way home i rub your stuffed belly, “hm, you’re still a little scrawny, but you’ll be a real hunk in no time.”
this post came across my dash and i am not commenting on it or showing the user because they don't need to hear all this but this really is everything i struggle with re: my sexuality, and the upsetting part is that when i looked on their blog i saw that 90% of the struggles this person had were so similar to what i have, especially in regards to disordered eating. and i see a lot of posts similar to this about fat sexuality get spread around on feedist tumblr but often don't reblog them because they always have something like the highlighted sentence, which has always indicated to me that op is not On My Side as i would hope
it's just disheartening because the discourse has evolved to the point where it's ok to be attracted to fat people, to like that they are fat, to like specific features like bellies and rolls and fat faces, but you still can't have a Fetish. this person goes so far as to say a video of 'two fat guys rubbing bellies' is fine, because it doesn't make you a Fetishist. which is more honestly more permissive than a lot of other definitions i've seen
but i am a Fetishist. i depict fat characters behaving stereotypically, eating 'too much' or being out of shape because they don't exercise, because i find these things sexy. being called names, being called greedy or lazy. all of these things are hot to me. i do 'get off to a stereotype of what fatness is', and have for as long as i can remember.
this comment is by another person, but was reblogged by the OP. firstly, my sympathies are with this woman because she is talking from a place of sexual harassment by people pushing a kink that she did not consent to. but crucially this means she is only having contact with genuinely bad Fetishists who don't respect boundaries, because the ones who do. aren't contacting her. selection bias.
and i really don't like hearing people speculate Freud-style about my fetish. no, i don't think that it's degrading to be with a fat person! what a terrible thing to think about your sexual partner, or anyone at all! if you can believe it, fatphobia has done myself and people close to me just as much harm as it has done to you, because we live in the same world! you can't claim to know why any of the things i described are arousing to me because even *I* don't know.
if there are women with bimbo kinks who get off on stereotypes about womanhood and femininity, kinksters who get off to simulated dubious or non-consent, and there are countless, countless fantasies of male domination enacted by straight couples. and if you can accept that none of those guys are necessarily misogynists or dangerous predators, i really wish you'd understand that feedism is the same thing
and i could spin something about how i actually depict these stereotypical things in the context of praise instead of degradation, therefore flipping the narrative and saying that eating a lot isn't so bad actually, but by doing that i'm still sort of doing the same distancing as was done in the original post: there are people into feedism who also have degredation kinks, and i do not believe that this makes you a bad person, either. i don't even have a more tactful way to put this. it's pretend. it's not real. and i'm absolutely not saying that anyone has to LIKE that, i certainly don't, or that you aren't allowed to avoid certain kinks like the plague because you just plain hate seeing them. just, like. make some room in your heart for the Fetishists. i like torturing my sims, too, and nobody has anything to say about that.
another meal done! this time consisting of 64 servings of pickles, 23 cheeseburgers, 10 dobby dogs and 24 cups of sparkling mppep. i don't think z//ooble's gonna get up any time soon, but with their eyes full of sauce and their stomach full of leftovers, they shall persevere. looks like g//angle will need some elbow grease to get everything else down, they're already looking like they're fit to burst...
time for the final ordeal. dinner is served.
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1 reblog = The Slab
1 coffee ($5) = mega mega stack
1 comment = sour cream in a cone
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another meal done! this time consisting of 64 servings of pickles, 23 cheeseburgers, 10 dobby dogs and 24 cups of sparkling mppep. i don't think z//ooble's gonna get up any time soon, but with their eyes full of sauce and their stomach full of leftovers, they shall persevere. looks like g//angle will need some elbow grease to get everything else down, they're already looking like they're fit to burst...
time for the final ordeal. dinner is served.
1 like = french fries
1 reblog = The Slab
1 coffee ($5) = mega mega stack
1 comment = sour cream in a cone
here is my ko-fi for tips!
Become a supporter of bee today!
also! 1 follow = extra shot of stupid sauce (an extra 1 of everything)
another meal done! this time consisting of 64 servings of pickles, 23 cheeseburgers, 10 dobby dogs and 24 cups of sparkling mppep. i don't think z//ooble's gonna get up any time soon, but with their eyes full of sauce and their stomach full of leftovers, they shall persevere. looks like g//angle will need some elbow grease to get everything else down, they're already looking like they're fit to burst...
time for the final ordeal. dinner is served.
1 like = french fries
1 reblog = The Slab
1 coffee ($5) = mega mega stack
1 comment = sour cream in a cone
here is my ko-fi for tips!
Become a supporter of bee today!
also! 1 follow = extra shot of stupid sauce (an extra 1 of everything)
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