important things about astrology: debunking some ideas
1) not every aspect or position will appear in life, in that person's reality, because everything depends on other factors that may or may not confirm what the person TENDS to feel. for example: i know a person with moon square saturn, but who doesn't have problems with her mother so intensely. she feels an emotional disconnect, a desire to please her mother, but it’s not as bad as another person i also know with moon conjunct saturn, which in theory, was supposed to be easier to deal with than the first one mentioned. in this case, the person has to deal with a narcissistic mother. you see? everything depends on the life of each one. in the first case, i'm too happy that the person doesn't have to deal with it more intensely, because of the difficulty that this aspect would bring . in the second case, despite the present difficulty, the person has a slightly greater facility to deal with this than if she had a more tense, disharmonious aspect.
it's extremely possible that people with sun square saturn don't have low self-esteem. it's very possible that someone with saturn in 7th house has a great loving relationship. it's completely possible that a person with pluto in 7th house doesn't just have bad relationships. because it’s not like we’re destined to go through all of that. it also relates a lot to the way we choose to deal with these things.
2) therefore: the natal chart should not be seen as something deterministic in which everything described there will be experienced in your life. a natal chart must be seen as a series of trends to be observed, so it is perfectly possible that not everything you see on your chart will show up in real life. sometimes people believe that astrology is so deterministic that nothing around them influences it.
3) natal charts are nuances. believe me, the same position can manifest itself in other people in different ways. people say that Venus in Capricorn is extremely self-serving, that these natives would marry for money, but i don't see it that way. it's extremely possible that there are such people, but Venus in Capricorn represents that these people are more committed and serious when it comes to relationships. and somewhat selective as well.
4) those who study astrology will have different interpretations for the same position. again the question of Venus in Capricorn. Capricorn represents so many things that having such an interpretation for me is very limited. however, this only proves how people have different interpretations for the same thing. it's obvious that we want a certain harmony between the understandings, but it is possible that one person believes that the Venus Capricorn is related to interests, and another to believe that the same position simply means a greater commitment in the relationship. so: keep in mind that a placement is not just what you read in ONE post. go deeper, look elsewhere. a single placement can mean several things within the possible meanings of the planet, house and sign in question.
5) i don't like it and i think it is too limited when i see people reproducing that Venus represents a woman and Mars represents a man in a relationship. and when people and their relationships don't fit this well-disseminated pattern? and, another point: does venus not appear in men? does mars not appear in women? that is SO limited. Mars is important for all genders, and Venus too. therefore:
6) in a relationship, if you want to know about LOVE, venus-venus contacts say a lot more than venus-mars contacts. first, because this idea doesn’t make sense, mars doesn’t represent love, it represents sexual energy, among other things. women have sexual energy, men have sensitivity. the difference is in how we encourage each of them to express these sides.
7) now, if you want to know something about SEX, then it makes sense: mars-mars.
so we prevent this pattern of heteronormativity, and this can be more efficient to who may feel somewhat 'out of the ordinary' just because the widespread idea that the ideal thing to meet a woman is to look at her venus. ideal to meet a man is to look at his mars. this is very limited.
8) read, study, your natal chart according to your reality and life history. the two must be together. many things can make sense through astrology, but as long as you understand that the positions can manifest in different ways in each person. because we aren't only made of an astrological chart, but especially of life experiences.
9) the less people treat astrology and their respective natal charts as something personal and subjective (which will depend on a series of external life factors) the less astrology will make sense because others tend to observe this generalization behavior, interpreting that: how can the same position be repeated in the SAME WAY for everyone? it's not like this. in fact, many things can be repeated between natal charts, but still: we are made of subjectivity and life experiences. in addition, a position may be influenced by other positions in that specific natal chart. astrology is a tool for self-knowledge, to meet your potentials and characteristics that you sometimes didn't even know about yourself, but not everything about a position will be verified for everyone equally. for example: a person who has sun in pisces, but is dominant Mars in her natal chart. people may want to look at her sun and interpret her (and even stereotype her) as a person full of passivity, who can be easily manipulated, who is "slow". but...? we didn't look at the rest of her chart. we don't know about her life experiences, the choices she made.
10) we can use astrology to really get to know each other, i do that and i advise the same for anyone who is open to doing so. however, my way of interpreting astrology is: i try to get to know myself through it, but never forgetting my life experiences, whether in the sense of something that boosted a position or that caused it to be blocked, silent.
still in the example of the person with sun in pisces, she may have a great tendency to be empathetic, loving, understanding and helpful, but what if she spent long years of her life living with someone very manipulative and aggressive, who used exactly that side of her that tends to sacrifice easily for others? and if, in this context, with her instinct for survival and adaptation, (in an intelligent way, by the way) she had to learn to silence her empathic and understanding side >with those people< trying to act in a more assertive way or simply avoiding being manipulated when possible? everything can change. can you see how everything is more complex? we always need to take into consideration our choices and life experiences, whether those that have boosted positions positively or negatively.
and then, what we do with each piece of information we acquire from our personality, will depend on our desires on how to deal with it.
