come play with me

She/her feeling nonbinary, blue-eyed blonde from Czech republic who is on ASD (surprisingly high functioning) with ADHD, anxiety and rare types of synesthesia. An INTx (probably a bit more INTJ), cold Slytherin, aromantic sapiosexual and 23-year- old lover of Europe, especially Scandinavia. Hard atheist obssesed with fandoms Bron|Broen, Sherlock, Harry Potter, Fantastic Beasts etc. who likes fan fictions and writing, adores parrots, hens and German Shepherds. Currently learning English (as minor), Swedish with a bit of Danish and Norwegian and Spanish. Hates and disrespects ableists and stupid people in general as "there's no excuse for a lack of knowledge", people tend to say... right? Sherlock Holmes, Saga Norén and Newt Scamander are soooo autistic and if you don't think so you are 100000% wrong.

[1992waroftheroses]

yes.

[doucheboob]

I hate when people ask me why I drink so much water like damn bitch I’m tryin to drown myself what u think leave me alone

[cakewilleatyou]

omg I thought it happens only to me  

[deactivatedddd999999999-deactiv]

Do people know we’re human?

This really hurt. The ‘actually autistic’ tag on Tumblr is very friendly most of the time, and I thought “let’s check out the autism tag on instagram” since I’m active there as well. I type in “#autistic” and all I see is memes about “autism”. Memes tagged with #autism, #autistic and #cringe. It made me feel like shit. It made me feel like my entire existence is a joke to neurotypicals. 

Why is this even a thing? We’re human beings with emotions, and we understand things, y’know?

You might think that “its just a tag on a meme, why would you get so upset over it?”. It’s not only about the fact that its offensive, its about the fact that many of us struggle to cope in a disrespectful and nonunderstanding real life, and we want the internet to be safe, at least. It’s about the fact that we are constantly judged because of our interests and our existence in general. I can’t even word myself right now because this really upset me. And it has probably upset so many other autistic people. 

I just wanted to check out the autistic people of instagram, and what do I get? Memes tagged with #autistic like its some kind of joke, like my existence is a joke. Like I won’t be able to understand why its being tagged #autistic. 

Our existence is not a joke. We’re not stupid. We feel. We see. WE UNDERSTAND.

[cakewilleatyou]

Amen!

[flavoracle]

I rarely criticize my wife, but when I do, it’s spoken directly to her, in private, and with love.

I don’t speak negatively about my wife to other people. Not because she’s perfect (which is an impossible and unfair standard) but because she deserves a husband she can trust. To say anything about my wife that I wouldn’t say to her face, would be a betrayal of that trust.

I never want her to spend a single moment worrying about the way I talk about her when she’s not around.

[smallmight-72]

A little louder

[flavoracle]

I RARELY CRITICIZE MY WIFE, BUT WHEN I DO, IT’S SPOKEN DIRECTLY TO HER, IN PRIVATE, AND WITH LOVE. 

I DON’T SPEAK NEGATIVELY ABOUT MY WIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE. NOT BECAUSE SHE’S PERFECT (WHICH IS AN IMPOSSIBLE AND UNFAIR STANDARD) BUT BECAUSE SHE DESERVES A HUSBAND SHE CAN TRUST. TO SAY ANYTHING ABOUT MY WIFE THAT I WOULDN’T SAY TO HER FACE, WOULD BE A BETRAYAL OF THAT TRUST. 

I NEVER WANT HER TO SPEND A SINGLE MOMENT WORRYING ABOUT THE WAY I TALK ABOUT HER WHEN SHE’S NOT AROUND. 

(is that loud enough?) 

[littlewitchlingrowan]

Yes. Thank you.

[cakewilleatyou]

I wish there were more men like you. 

[largishcat]

me as a writer: obsessed with being original, constantly worried that ill copy another artist by accident, i can’t use that phrase i saw someone use it on may 12th, 2014 and

me as a reader: happily reads 2349460283 different versions of the exact same plot

[vcigar2]

wheres all the support for the emotional abuse victims

[vcigar2]

no, seriously. victims of emotional abuse have it hard because they do not have the physical marks or the records to “prove” to someone they were hurt and are hurting. most people will not take emotional abuse as seriously as physical abuse, saying “you should get over it” or “sticks and stones”. thats fucking bullshit.

emotional abuse victims who have been forced to do or say or be things you never wanted to, i love you.

emotional abuse victims who have been gaslighted and manipulated to the point where you no longer know what is real, i care for you.

emotional abuse victims who are told they will never be loved by anyone else and they are not a good person, you are amazing.

emotional abuse victims who feel manipulative and often catch themselves mirroring actions of their abusers and feel sick to their stomachs because theyre “turning into them”, you are not them and never will be. you are so much better than that.

emotional abuse victims who have to live every day suffering because nobody understands how messed up you are from what they said or did or made you do, you arent alone.

anyone who reads this, i care for you. please support all victims of abuse every single day because they deserve it just like they deserve the love and care those in the past have failed to provide them

[crying-g-deactivated20200417]

Thank you so much for this im actually crying

[palominocorn]

“Why didn’t you just leave?”

Because they didn’t know what abuse looked like.

Because they internalized a lot of messages about chewed gum and used tape.

Because they were financially dependent on their abuser.

Because their culture or religion forbids it.

Because they were scared it would escalate.

Because they kept hearing from others how great their abuser is.

Because they were told that relationships take work.

Because they really did love their abuser.

Because their parents’ relationship is just like that.

Because they think no one else could truly love them.

Because their abuser is really loving when not abusive.

Because they feel like they “owe” their abuser.

Because they wanted to make it work.

Because they don’t think someone like them can be abused.

Because all their relationships were like that.

Because they reached out and no one believed them.

Because they were worried it would ruin their life.

Because they wanted to protect their children.

Because they believed their abuser could change.

[kaladan]

I said that I needed you more than you needed me. But that isn’t true, is it?

No, it isn’t.

[missbones]

Saga, I really need you.

[megannnnnnnnnnnnn]

you have to understand that people who have been treated poorly and emotionally abused for a long time will always think they’re not enough for you.

[lampsarepeopletoo]

when people are really rude and douchey and everyone still loves them

[taesumi]

Don’t let it get to you. I always feel like screaming when you walk into a room. In fact, so do most people.

[redscudery]

“this fic will have only ten chapters” and other lies writers tell themselves

[chokememrstark]

“this is a one shot, I swear” the infamous sequel

[nicolabarth]

and the third part: “i won’t start writing this, I have to finish other things first”

[brieflymaximumprincess]

“I can finish writing this” the fanfic no one asked for.

[emmagrant01]

“I swear, that’s really the final chapter count.”

[internallydeceased]

“i’m going to get this done and post it by tomorrow”

[theadrogna]

“I’m totally not going to start writing a new fanfic before I’ve finished the last one,” says the person who is now writing four.

[incendiaglacies]

“I’m totally in the zone to write this one fic. I can finish it in two days.” Muse is gone by then

[1nkblots-deactivated20200926]

“I’m going to learn from my mistakes and finish this fic before I post it” says the person who will change their mind three chapters in and then scramble to retcon something two chapters later

[sophia-helix]

“THIS one will be a stand alone, not a four story series where I get stuck on the last story” says the person about to start a four story series that will get stuck on the last story

[cheyfwriting]

“It’s only going to be a short story.” 60k words later and months later.

[enchanted-phoenix-deactivated20]

“Tonight, I’ll actually post this…”

[ladynorbert]

“The characters will do exactly what I want them to do and we will not have any extraneous side plots.”

[1999gorl]

me after finishing a movie: wow that was rly good!! im amazed

movie critics: trashiest movie ever created; possibly the worst movie of the year; complete disgrace

[wayoffbeat]

alternatively

movie critics: best movie of the year. revolutionary. it’s a cinematic masterpiece

me: what the actual fuck did I just watch

[cakewilleatyou]

All the time!

[sufferingsappho-deactivated2017]

Like, 90% of infomercial style products were designed by/for disabled people, but you wouldn’t know that, because there is no viable market for them. THey have to be marketted and sold to abled people just so that any money can be made of off them and so the people who actually need them will have access.

I think snuggies are the one example almost everyone knows. They were invented for wheelchair users (Do you have any idea how hard it is to get a coat on and off of someone in a wheelchair? Cause it’s PRETTY FUCKIN HARD.) But now everyone just acts like they’re some ~quirky, white people thing~ and not A PRODUCT DESIGNED TO MAKE PEOPLES DAY TO DAY LIVES 10000X EASIER.

But if at any point you were to take your head out of your own ass and go “Hey, who would a product like this benefit,” that would be really cool.

[swamp-spirit]

This makes informational make so much sense now.

Like… of course there’s no reason for that guy to knock over that bowl of chips. However, the person it was actually designed for has constant hand tremors that would make this pretty rad, but since we don’t want to show that in a commercial, here’s an able bodied guy who can’t remember how gravity works.

Shit. Those commercials suddenly get a lot less funny when you realize it’s pretty much just people ineptly trying to mimic disability.

[xtremecaffeine-deactivated20181]

Or like the thing for the eggs? Like, oh, it cracks eggs perfectly, you only need one hand? IT WAS DESIGNED FOR PEOPLE WHO ONLY HAVE THE USE OF ONE HAND. Or the juice bottle pourer? For people who’re TOO LAZY TO POUR THEIR OWN JUICE? Or FOR PEOPLE WHO HAVE DIFFICULTY BEARING WEIGHT IN THE HANDS.

[bettheriver]

It’s amazing how with just a few words by a few people, my whole perspective on something can shift entirely. 

[fumblingcuriosities]

I feel so ignorant for never having realized this before.

[robotsandfrippary]

Most people I know who own infomercial products are elderly, disabled and poor. 

[yobaba]

thank you - best public service announcement I have seen in a really long time

[benbenny]

[silent-micka]