“I’m begging you please don’t make me fall in love with you if you aren’t planning on staying and loving me too”
-Day 417
THIS.
So fucking true

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“I’m begging you please don’t make me fall in love with you if you aren’t planning on staying and loving me too”
-Day 417
THIS.
So fucking true
Favorite Daddy Phrases
Questions:
~Who’s in charge? ~Who owns you? ~What did I say? ~Do I make myself clear? ~Do you remember your rules? ~Do you need to be punished? ~What did you just say? ~Are you going to be a good girl? ~Who’s my good girl? ~Who do I love the most? ~How’s my little girl? ~What’s my little girl doing? ~Are you in little space? ~What are you coloring/drawing? ~How are your stuffies? ~Can Daddy join? ~Are you taking care of yourself? ~Have you eaten enough? ~Are you drinking enough? ~Have you taken your meds? ~Are you ready for bed? ~Are you snuggled in bed?
Commands:
~Listen to Daddy ~Don’t disobey Daddy ~Do it for Daddy ~Be a good girl ~Speak up ~Use your words ~Stay close to Daddy ~Be safe ~Show Daddy what you’re wearing ~Show Daddy your favorite little outfits ~Show Daddy your coloring/drawing ~Show Daddy your favorite stuffies ~Tell Daddy about your day ~Go to bed, princess ~Close your eyes, baby
Reassurance:
~Good girl ~You’re such a good girl ~I’m so proud of you! ~You did such a good job! ~I love you so much ~You’re my one and only ~I only want you ~I’m not going anywhere ~I promise ~You’re such a cutie! ~My little girl ~Daddy loves when you’re in little space ~You make Daddy so happy!
Pet Names:
~Kitten ~Princess ~Babe ~Baby ~Baby Girl ~Little Girl ~Little One ~Angel ~Bunny ~Love ~Lovie ~Sweetie ~Sweetheart ~My Future Wife ~Wifey ~My Nerd ~My Dork ~My Girl ~My One and Only
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My Little and I arent long distance anymore but a lot of these look like they would have been fun so reblogging for those of you who are ^^
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I’m not long-distance but reblogging this for those that are :)
This is so cool!
This is so neat! Please share for long distance couples 😊
Is “mommy training” a thing? Can someone make it a thing if it isn’t? Like, can an experienced mommy making a group that teaches new people just coming into the mdlb/g community the basics (if there are any, I don’t know), rules, and ways of being a good mommy? That would be great. I would very much appreciate if someone did that. I don’t want to be a bad caregiver and mess up and make my potential little prince feel like I don’t care for them.
How to make a No a Yes!
1. Slightly bow head and look at your feet
2. Pucker out that bottom lip (Pro tip: make it quiver just a little)
3. Make eyes all watery (think of sad things like being told no, or time outs)
4. Huff/ whine (or both!)
5. Lift your eyes to theirs but keep head down
6. Slowly twist/sway and tilt your head to the side slightly.
Bonus Tip!!!!
For flare; cross your arms, add a stomp, silent treatment, an additional huff or whine.
Good luck 🍀
I'm really stuck between
1. wanting to be the biggest brat until I get pinned down and the life fucked out of me
Or
2. being the sweetest baby until I'm praised and adored and still get the life fucked out of me but gently
Forever a dilemma
Anonymous wrote:
Hi! I’ve been really confused about something so I was hoping you could help. My daddy has been really distant lately, not texting for days when we can’t see each other and when we do see each other it just seems like he wants to get in my pants….which is fine but I haven’t been able to be little for ages now because every time I find myself slipping and I tell him, he just ignores it and makes me worry that he doesn’t want to take care of me. But he told me he did so….I don’t know. I just feel bad for even bothering him most of the time, and the last thing I want to do is be little around him if it bothers him. I feel lost and I don’t know what to do. You probably won’t read this and that’s okay, but thank you anyway!!
Little space can be something of a mystery to most Doms and Daddy‘s… And perhaps it’s because little space is different for each and every little who goes into it. What works for some does not work for others, and the way that one conducts themselves in little space can be completely different from another.
However there are a few commonalities in a little space and how to get your little into it, how to provide it for her, and how to nurture and grow it. But let’s not put the cart before the horse, and begin where we should… At the beginning.
Little space in relation to regression
Therapists and psychoeducators have been using regression therapy for ages in order to figure things out about their patients. The art of psychoanalysis goes all the way back to Sigmund Freud who really mastered the technique and saw in his patients that using hypnotherapy could cause them to be able to re-count past traumas and memories in order to resolve those things. What he also figured out is that by implementing this form of therapy, his patients would “time travel” mentally and emotionally… regressing and becoming stuck in those pockets of time. Their behavior and headspace or state of mind often being there as well as they did so.
Regression therapy specialists believe that we have three states of mind, and that certain events or memories can be stored in the states that we cannot access on our own… so with the proper kind of attention and assistance, those states of mind can be opened up, memories can be accessed, and parts of our past life are allowed to come to the surface.
This form of therapy and the methods used to achieve it all involves providing a relaxed and safe space.
It’s not much different in our lifestyle. Whether it is subspace, little space, or any other kind of headspace or state of mind, the submissive needs to feel relaxed… Safe… And above all, that they can trust you.
One of the most common things that I would hear from Littles who struggle to find their little space is that they cannot rely on their daddy or Dom to get them there, and those who are single cannot find it themselves. Or they end up going so long that they feel that they are either not little anymore or that they have simply lost their little side.
With enough prying and the proper questions however, I soon and usually come to find out that it has more to do with stress… being busy… current life events, and other high pressure or unsafe things that are happening at the time.
To make it simple… They do not have a safe space in order to find that part of themselves.
Most commonly, Littles will regress in some form to find their little space and most Littles have a “little age.” Now notice that I said most and most commonly.
Because there is a certain portion of our community that is simply in it for the kink. There is a certain portion who age play, and they do not get into the mental or emotional aspect of that part of the lifestyle. They might just simply enjoy acting out the parts and fantasizing in their own way.
So with all of that in mind, the main point is that the Dom or Daddy in the relationship has to be able to provide that safety and security in order to guide his submissive to find their proper headspace.
In the same way… a single submissive must be able to eliminate the stress and what not of their lives in order to be able to claim that space properly.
When we do not feel safe, we cannot relax. Without being able to relax, we cannot allow ourselves to let go. And without being able to let go we will not be able to feel enough contentment to be able to enjoy that part of ourselves.
Understand where little space comes from
As we grow in life our brain is constantly evolving and growing with us up to a certain age. Along the way through our developmental years, certain things can happen to us that alter the course of our brain or even affect it in such a way as to get it hung up or stuck on certain times and events.
Those who suffer from great depression often use these events and times to capitalize and maximize their faults and failures while piling everything from blame to wrath upon themselves.
Someone who has a major trauma event may keep that event stored at the forefront of their mind and revisit it often… Thus keeping themselves from making personal progress.
I say all of that in order to say this: it is my belief that a littles “little age” is a block of time that sits somewhere near a major shock or hard change event in their life. Their little space exists somewhere just before an event of great change or trauma or likewise. It exists in a time just before because that is the last time that they felt truly innocent or safe in life. Perhaps it’s the death of a family member, a sexual trauma, or any number of things that made a sudden and large dramatic impact on their lives.
On the flipside, it can also be a time in life that existed before a long string of abuse. This could be mental, physical, emotional or a combination… Domestic violence, perhaps a creepy uncle, the list is endless but you get the point.
So in understanding where your Littles little space comes from, you are better able to understand what first created it… And then what triggers it as well. In parallel to those things, you are also able to be more properly educated and able to handle the things that caused it to begin with…
Have you ever noticed your little shut down or go quiet or revert to a negative head space after something simple and ambiguous that you did? They can’t explain it to you… And you can’t figure out why.
It may be that you are committing a behavior that makes them feel either unsafe or that was traumatizing for them in the past and they cannot verbally express that to you because they end up hyper regressing in that moment.
Your little needs their little space just as much as she does that therapy spanking that you like to give her.
Think in your own life the things that allow you to relax outside of your relationship. Perhaps you like to play video games, perhaps you play cards with your friends, maybe it’s camping on the weekends or your bowling league… Whatever the activity or mood or moment, these are things that allow you to relax, blow off steam, and ultimately reset yourself.
Little space is no different for the little.
They not only crave the space, but they actually need it in order to feel complete and themselves. Otherwise you may end up finding some frustrating consequences and circumstances on your hands if you as the dominant are not able to provide this for them.
And I know that you’ve heard me say that a couple of times now… That you provide it. And because that’s the way it is.
As the dominant in their life, they depend on you to be the pillar of stability and everything that is safe and sacred in their lives. They give you their submission and in return expect that you will keep them safe and protect them among other things… That you will provide their needs, whether it be in making their decisions, choosing their clothing and so on… which includes giving them the absolute safest of care possible.
The onus is on you not only to provide the space but to recognize when it’s needed without them having to ask. How you come to that conclusion is really up to how your relationship ebbs and flows.
For some, little space can be sexual.
And there is a long-standing debate within the community as to whether little space should include sexual aspects and activities or not. But if you get to the root of the issue, some Littles get sexual in their little space because their little space was triggered by a sexual trauma to begin with.
Where things get stigmatized, skewed, and twisted out of control by those who are ignorant and uneducated is that they see our lifestyle as pedophilia, or sick or whatever because of the kink and Age play aspect of it… and the way it’s portrayed in media and pornography. But what’s to be understood is that most of those who are serious and active in the community recognize that their submissive is an adult and in no way shape or form would they see them otherwise. I’m not saying that the creeps out there don’t exist… They certainly do, but I don’t believe that they would last very long in a real ddlg kink community.
This is very much an adult lifestyle, that features adult kink, with adults who are participating in adult activities… and there is no place for children or those who are attracted to them.
I am also not at all a fan of mixing sexual activity with little space. I do not believe that it is good for either of the people in the relationship, nor do I believe that it is healthy for any kind of self evolution in the little. But that’s just my opinion and a matter of debate no matter who is talking about it.
Little space should be a safe place of refuge where your little can freely express herself and be who she is without fear of dark clouds, worry, anxiety and so on… it should be a place where that sweet tender caregiver side of your daddy space is allowed to shine through and and appropriately wrap your little up in an emotional, mental and sometimes physical blanket of security and love.
Thank you for reading and enjoying. Feel free to re blog for others who need it.
Further education:
The new daddy dom survival kit part one: https://mistersbeard.tumblr.com/post/182659779408/the-ddlg-daddy-survival-kit-part
part two: https://mistersbeard.tumblr.com/post/182633415838/ddlg-daddy-survival-kit-part-2-previously-in-our
part three: https://mistersbeard.tumblr.com/post/182608439803/the-ddlg-daddy-survival-kit-part-one-i-often
the consequences of neglect: https://mistersbeard.tumblr.com/post/182582298108/daddy-101-the-consequence-of-neglect-and-now-we
The safe word: https://mistersbeard.tumblr.com/post/177835509358/mistersbeard-ddlg-101-the-safe-word-today-in.- Mister
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Daddy/Dom 101: May I pee?
When we consider the aspect of power control in these relationships that operate within our lifestyle, we think of common things. Things like wearing collars and telling your submissive this and that and what to do and so on… But there are many cerebral control methods that are often overlooked by inexperienced dominants.
One of those small yet very powerful things is control over a submissive‘s bathroom habits. That may sound disgusting at first, but stick with me as I take you through a exegetical look at control in the most simple of forms that will enhance your relationship for a long time to come.
Your submissive actually enjoys being told when they can and cannot do things.
Believe it or not, the heart of submission is in for filling the request of the dominant and being praised or applauded for it. It’s in seeing them pleased and knowing that they did well and someone is proud of them.
In the same way that they like being told where to sit and what to do, they actually do enjoy you telling them when they can and cannot go to the restroom. Controlling their bathroom time is one of the most simple yet cerebrally complex methods of control that you can employee in your relationship.
Scenario: you are making sure that your submissive is drinking enough water on a daily basis. Now add to that the restriction that they cannot Pee until you say so and make them ask permission for it.
When they do ask, look at the clock and decide exactly when they can. If it’s 15 after the hour… Tell them they can go at 25 after the hour. If it’s 45 after the hour perhaps tell them they can go at 48 after the hour… You get the drift right?
What this does is gives you another form of simple control that is almost effortless, while also providing them with a task that is highly achievable and you can put them in subspace quite easily. From the moment that you tell them what time they are able to go they will begin watching the clock wanting to go at the exact moment that you told them they could. They will want to for fill the request to the letter, hoping that they will please you with their actions and efficiency.
It also psychologically puts them into subjection to you and allows them to see you in that dominant way because you are in control of something having to do with their body.
This does come with a backdoor option, but that’s up to you and how far that you want to take it. In the past I have always only controlled the urinary aspect of bathroom habits having no interest in the other.
Another fail safe to employ is knowing that you are not always available to answer the question when it comes. That’s why I have always put into place that if I am not responding quickly enough and it gets to be too much, they are allowed to just go knowing that it will be OK. Because the last thing that you want to do is cause embarrassment at their workplace or in front of their friends in any kind of way.
And a bonus add on to all of this is to make them send you a video of their face as they go. Having them be conscious of you watching as they go while performing a task that you demand it of them while for filling that permission that you gave them… Well that’s like a seven layer cake with the most delicious icing you’ve ever tasted. Having to stare at their own face in the camera as they go is going to draw them very close to their self-awareness, and give them a sense of sub space like they’ve never experienced before.
I hope that you enjoyed learning about this simple method of cerebral control to employ into your relationship. Please be sure to like this post and share it with others who you think may benefit from it.
One very fun way to bring some structure and stability into your relationship while also employing a unique and fun rule is what I call the daily.
The daily is a task and rule combined into one thing that is done on a daily basis, and provides a lot of different benefits for both parties involved in the relationship.
Basically here’s how it works
Every day before your submissive/little leaves her home or where ever she is staying, they must provide four images. Two front and two back with two of the photos being the clothing they are wearing for the day, and the other two being what they are wearing underneath.
This is a task that provides a lot of benefits, structure, behavioral changes and habits, and is very fun to do.
The beneficial part
One of the most basic things that the daily does is cause the submissive to time manage. Having to perform a daily task before getting out the door will cause them to budget their time accordingly, so as to be able to get the task accomplished and still be on time for whereever it is that they need to be. It teaches structure in things like not ignoring your alarm, making sure that they are budgeting their time correctly to be on time to where they need to be while also fulfilling their task and duties, and allows the submissive to perform a simple daily task for her daddy/dominant
Another benefit is in self-esteem building.
It also provides purpose in what is chosen to wear. I have often said that the submissive is a reflection of her dominant. The way that she presents herself reflects greatly on what she both thinks about herself, and how she respects the person who is in charge of her life. Being mindful of what has to be chosen as far as clothing and then presenting that on a daily basis… Keeps her more mindful of how she is presenting herself and therefore causes better decision making and creativity in choices for the articles of clothing. The ability for her to express her self and feel good about how she does so will increase.
This daily task also provides a great sense of intimacy between the two of you.
It also gives your submissive one less thing to have to choose and worry about. This is especially so when you are choosing their clothing on a daily basis. Decision making can be hard for a little and so they will appreciate your insight and taking control of that decision for them.
As a daddy/dominant it provides you a better understanding and insight into the psychological make up of your submissive/little. Have you ever heard the phrase the clothes make the man? Well if that is true… Then what do they say about the woman? The things that she owns, chooses, and wears is a great indicator and roadmap to who she is inside. Being able to see what she’s wearing every day, complement upon it, and generally give affirmation for it… Will also provide you the opportunity to study her and really get to know her on a completely different level than you would by simply asking questions or talking to her.
It should also be noted that this task is ongoing throughout the day… Meaning that if your submissive or little leaves in the morning wearing one thing but then has to change later for some reason, they must perform the task again before leaving the house. However, if it is a situation where they wear a uniform or something that that is the same every day then only half of the task should be completed… Meaning the undergarments part. Because it is assumed that if they are wearing a work uniform it’s the same uniform every day, and they all look the same in it every day.
Implementing this simple rules/task into your rules set and daily activities will provide you a great depth of growth for your submissive/little, as well as your relationship as a whole.
Thank you for enjoying. Feel free to re-blog this for others who may benefit from it.
- Mister
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There comes a time in our lives where the simple things that we do or try to do to unwind simply are not helpful and do not work. One may like to go fishing to relax, one may like to go for a nice run or even a bike ride… But there are some things that are needed within our minds that sometimes we do not even realize.
On the other hand, we can have quite an acute awareness of what’s going on and what is needed but not be able to actually get that thing… In the case for submissive‘s and Littles, it may seem counterproductive or even strange… But a good therapy spanking every once in a while can do the job to bring them realigned and centered with them selves.
When we think about spanking we often look too deeply at it as being simply a punishment or something negative that has to be done for correction. Therapy spanking though goes very deep on a visceral level to connect with the inner being of a submissive or little, and give them that emotional, mental, and psychological readjustment that they need but yet do not know how to find via typical methods.
A good therapy spanking can do a lot to relieve stress, anxiety, and other emotions and feelings that cause frustration and problems in their lives.
So how does one go about the action of doing it properly without making it into a punishment or a negative action?
Step one; understand what it is and isn’t . Punishment and therapy spankings are two completely different things.
Punishment is a sad but necessary thing in the lives of a lot of couples within our lifestyle, and it has its own set of benefits. But punishing properly is often overlooked in favor of just doing the action itself.
When ever you go to punish your submissive or little, a certain set of actions must be put into place to make it proper without doing any damage beyond the physical.
1.) explain the offense that was committed and why it was a mistake.
I choose the word mistake because that’s what it is… It may not necessarily be wrong, and it’s definitely not a failure… It’s a mistake. Mistakes are the way that we learn, mistakes are expected, mistakes are what make us better and stronger because we can move forward from them.
Yet mistakes need correction… And that correction should always fit the mistake itself. If you do find yourself to the point where a spanking as a punishment is needed, then you should thoroughly lay out the reasons why before hand and explain why the mistake is detrimental to either your submissive/little or the relationship… The future… And so on.
Simply telling her that you’re going to punish her and then going through with the act is borderline abuse and doesn’t do anything but make her fear you in a negative way and see you as a person who has no control or discipline over their own self
2.) deliver the punishment
And as I said before, the punishment should be appropriate and in line with the mistake. Don’t go overboard and don’t lose control of yourself in favor of “making her better”. Because there comes a point when all you’re doing is abusing her for your own pleasure rather than making her a better person.
3.) after care
Always always always perform aftercare and make sure that it’s much more than what the punishment was. Skipping aftercare or slighting her on it is only going to do more damage in the long run.
Love on her and explain to her why you had to spank her and how it also hurts you. Show her that it was necessary and tell her and explain how it’s going to help her grow and be a better person and improve her and your relationship. Give her justification for your actions instead of simply just doing them like some amateur moron who watched Fifty Shades of Grey and thinks that’s the standard.
So to recap… Punishment goes along with correction. Punishment goes along with mistakes. Punishment goes along with rule breaking and other similar actions.
The therapy spanking though, is purely for their benefit and purely for pleasure.
How to conduct the therapy spanking.
Step one; preparation
In my opinion they therapy spanking is something that should be asked for. And not really administered on the terms of the daddy or Dom. It should be something that is seen as a need and then discussed before hand, if not requested by the submissive or little.
Therapy spanking sessions should always be prefaced with discussion and a lot of planning. She will tell you that she needs it and then you need to spend some time caring for her and doing pre-session after care… Which may sound a little strange, but she will need to be put into a certain headspace to differentiate what’s happening between therapy and punishment.
Talk to your submissive or little about what’s been going on lately, what’s been causing all of the stress and anxiety… Tell them that you recognize their needs and why you recognize them because every little and submissive though they may enjoy the same thing have different needs for that same thing. Explain to her with great detail about how much you love her and want her to feel good and feel right and properly set up with the scene for the actions that are about to take place.
Therapy spanking is for her. Solely for her. It’s not about you or what you want or your pleasure at all… It is for your submissive alone and for her therapeutic purposes.
Step two; the action itself and how to go about it
When you conduct a spanking for punishment your submissive will often be very anxious or even scared of what’s about to happen. In the occurrence of the therapy spanking she should be well relaxed and ready to receive it after your proper preparation. Allow her to get into a comfortable position with out your physical assistance. Begin by rubbing their back and bottom and legs, saying sweet words, how much you love them, and so on… Because a therapy spanking can be a rather intimate action and SHOULD be an intimate action. It’s going to release a lot of endorphins, emotions… And more in such a way that will give you or submissive or little relief.
When you feel that they are properly relaxed and ready you can begin your spanking. With a therapy spanking I recommend using only your hand, the reason being that after you give a good swat, you can then follow it up with rubs and grabs and affection. The use of a paddle or belt will only inhibit the speed with which you are able to do this and will take the intimacy away. Because there is nothing like skin on skin contact to make closeness come together.
For added effect you can also light candles and dim the lights and put on relaxing music. Allow her to cuddle her stuffy or pillow or whatever will make her more comfortable in the process.
Spank slow… One strike at a time with lots of rubbing and ongoing after care in between, gradually picking up the pace in such a way where you are monitoring and paying attention to her actions. Listen to her body and go accordingly with it until you are up to a point where you can be freely spanking her.
Pay attention to her body and how it’s reacting, especially her bottom. Find your line between what’s needed and what’s too much and stick to it without compromising because it’s not about you. It’s not for you. And you are simply the instrument which is delivering the therapy that they need.
Step three; after care
It goes without saying and I really should not have to reiterate but after care is definitely needed and will only improve both you, your relationship, and the intimacy that exists between you. Have your aftercare kit standing by with a blanket, her stuffy, and other items that will make her feel safe and secure. Love on her and kiss her and tell her sweet things. Tell her what a great job she did and how much you enjoyed making her feel better. Give her the treats and sweets that she wants… And overall just use it as a time to cuddle and lavish her with love.
Above all else be slow and patient with everything… it’s going to make the difference between cuddling the rest of the night and listening to her cry her eyes out on the bathroom floor with the door locked until she passes out.
Thank you for reading and learning. Be sure to reblog for others to do the same.
- Mister
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Now THIS is what I need. OMG
3 Signs Your Little Feels Ignored
Little Space is a confusing, sometimes chaotic place to be, mentally speaking. And it means that sometimes things you might recognize and be able to better verbalize when NOT in that headspace are sometimes more confusing, more of a general feeling instead of something you know how to say. As a result, here are some signs your little might be giving you that should help you understand or be aware that they might feel like they’re neglected, or at least that you aren’t engaging them in ‘little space’ and are just sort of ‘along for the ride’ (like when they want you to treat them little and you tell them ‘ok’ or something equally non-committal)
They whine without obvious reason It might sound like a whine, or generally unhappy sound, or it might be very specific to something you’ve heard before. Whatever the case, random, unexplained and poorly misunderstood whining is a good thing to note.
They want your attention, but seem angry or sad when they get it Usually a sign that they don’t feel you’re interacting properly, this almost always coincides with unexpected tantrums and general frustration. And it’s actually pretty reasonable… Imagine that you showed someone a thing REALLY important to you…your favorite movie, with favorite actor, while doing your favorite hobby/activity…and imagine they were texting and nodding and simply saying “OK” the whole time. That’s how this feels. And NOW you know why it upsets most littles. Probably almost ALL animals.
They go distant The thing is…most caregivers are intense, hard-working people with a LOT of love to give. And they’re STILL less loving and affectionate than most littles. So when your little suddenly changes, stops calling, texting, chatting, skyping, or cuddling…you either f***ed the heck up in some very specific way, or they feel ignored and no longer believe it matters. It’s ALSO completely possible they’re depressed, anxious, sad, tired, or just low on emotional/physical energy…but it’s always important to figure it out when someone (particularly your little) changes in personality and focus quickly or suddenly
Neglect of a Little
It doesn’t take much to make a girl feel invisible, especially one so delicate as a baby girl. Little space can be an overwhelmingly powerful state of mind for some littles. Not being able to comfortably express an inner child is often all it takes to cause great frustration and even depression in a little’s life. It takes a Daddy Dom’s constant attention and praise to keep a little feeling both wanted and appreciated. Just like an actual child, a little is very sensitive to her Dominant’s reactions. For some baby girls all it takes is a stern look from Daddy to bring her to tears and make her feel incredibly guilty even if she did nothing wrong.
Proper attention is absolutely necessary to keep a baby girl happy and healthy. Without it she dwindles. Her playful attitude vanishes and her little side fades away. When completely ignored, a baby girl commits to all manners of behavior both good and bad in a desperate attempt to get the attention she needs. This often leads to unnecessary discipline and punishment from her Dominant that further compounds the issue. Littles are often viewed as “too needy” but this is not the case at all. A little is merely craving the love and affection her heart desires. The purpose for having a D/s relationship is to form a close and deep bond with your lover that can’t be achieved through having a normal/vanilla relationship. Making a baby girl feel guilty for wanting this attention is one of the most redundant and destructive things a Dominant can do. But even worse than that is when a Dominant actually shuns and abandons a little for wanting closeness. This can devastate a baby girl. It often leads to depression and self-harm for many littles. No one deserves to be treated like a burden. Pain and suffering can often cause a baby girl to enter into regression. And feeling alone, unloved, and unwanted is an utterly awful thing to have to go through while in little space. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy.
So please be good to your baby girl. They’re the most precious and wonderful creation you’ll ever know. Each and every little is absolutely worthy of the all the love and affection a man can give. It makes them shine brightly, beautiful, and strong. Give them the tenderest of care.
A baby girl deserves nothing less.
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when your Dom says “use your words” but you’re all up in sub space and don’t know how to speak english anymore
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Phrases Littles NEED to Hear
"You're MY good girl/boy"
"I'm proud of you baby girl/boy."
"Did you try your best? Because that's all that matters to Mommy/Daddy."
"Sweetie, Mommy/Daddy isn't going anywhere. You're safe and nothing is going to hurt you while I'm here."
"How's my baby boo?"
"Did you mind your manners Little One?"
"Watch your tone"
"Who's Daddy's/Mommy's prince/princess?"
"Awwwwww, you're so cute when you're in Littlespace."
"Mommy/Daddy loves you so very much."
"Come here so Daddy/Mommy can give you lovin's."
"Be good for Mommy/Daddy."
Deciphering Little Moods
Sometimes littles can get super confusing! They can be moody, and might not always be able to communicate exactly how they’re feeling. This is by no means a guide to every little, this is just based on my personal experience in littlespace. Even so, I hope this helps a little!
A Happy Little…
A happy little will smile and embrace their littlespace. This can manifest itself in using their little things(pacifiers, sippycups, bibs, bottles, diapers, etc…), giggling, babbling, being hyper, playing, laughing, and a number of other adorable and happy ways.
A Sad Little…
A sad little will not be smiley or hyper. A sad little may either completely abandon their littlespace, or require much more attention than normal. A sad little may eat more or less than normal, and have sporadic sleeping habits. Sad littles may not want to come out and talk about their problems, so it’s important to know their signs and pick up on them. To remedy a sad little, try talking about whats upsetting them, snuggles, making their favorite snacks, or giving them activities such as coloring or reading.
An Anxious Little…
An anxious little may pace, or tap their hands or feet. They may talk more or less, may appear scared or worried, and often will not know how to handle the feelings alone. IMPORTANT: If you think your little is having an anxiety/panic attack, it may be necessary to contact outside help. Know the signs, and know when you may not be able to help the way they need.
A Sleepy Little…
A sleepy little will often slip deep in to their littlespace. They may babytalk, cling to stuffed animals or blankies, and crave their pacifier. Your little will likely try to avoid bedtime or a nap, but if you can tell they need the sleep, make sure they get it! If they don’t, you might get…
A Cranky Little…
A cranky little will get annoyed very easily, and may lash out when they don’t mean to. Cranky littles may whine or throw tantrums. Cranky littles often don’t know what they want, so it’s your job to be a super sleuth! Some common causes are lack of sleep, hunger, lack of attention, and feeling uncomfortable.
An Angry Little…
An angry little may seem very similar to a cranky little, but these are two different feelings! Angry littles may still whine, get annoyed easily, and throw tantrums, but there is usually a clear cause for their anger. An angry little may yell, or fume silently. An angry little will often not want to bring up the problem initially, so asking is key! Angry littles are best handled with a soft touch, so don’t yell back if you can help it! Do your best to calm them down, and then talk out any issues in a safe environment.
A Hyper Little…
A hyper little will be jumpy, giggly, and have lots of energy. Hyper littles can be a danger to the inside, they may make messes! Taking them outside to play might be a good idea. Some good choices? Parks, lakes, and campgrounds!
A Scared Little…
A little who is afraid may cling to you or stuffed animals, hide, shake, or get very quiet. Scared littles need reassurance that whatever they’re scared of can’t hurt them, or isn’t so bad. Scared littles may also want physical affection, or not want touched at all.
A Hungry Little…
A hungry little will probably have tummy grumbles! They might also whine, and clutch their tummy! If it’s close to meal time, make them something yummy, but make sure they’re getting all the nutrients the need! As much as they may beg for ice cream and cookies for dinner, those are treats, not meals. If it’s not close to a meal time, try giving them a yummy snack, like sliced fruit and veggies, granola, yogurt, or crackers.
An Affectionate Little…
A little who is feeling affectionate wants to give you all their loves! This can be in the form of hugs, kisses, snuggling, making crafts for you, cooking for you, coloring for you… The list goes on and on! An affectionate little just wants to give you all their attention, so accept it and reciprocate!