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do it for the freaky transfags | no minor | he/him

[cavalecavale]

thinking about how so many trans fags (and I suppose transmascs and gays in general) are scared or ashamed of getting hairy or sweating more, or proudly wanting to remain twinks and "tboys" although they're grown ass adults, or all those half-jokes about T making you "stinky" and stuff and like. apart from the internalised transphobia this is all linked to glorifying an unreachable idea of youth, a thin, smooth, superficial youth, obedient and malleable and never fully accepting adult life and the responsibilities that go with it. and this is so capitalistic hell friendly but mostly such a core aspect of fascism, that cult of youth, that created desire to remain forever an adolescent.

at some point we all become adults and we all age and we all change and that's actually so precious. finding our place in our community and taking an active part in carrying it is so precious. we should never let societal bullshit take that away from us.

[cavalecavale]

as a fat trans man ive recently started using a swim binder, its a bit looser than the others binders ive had in the past but it gives the chest a really masculine shape still. the one i have has a zipper on the front which i find kinda annoying for some tshirts but helpful in a pinch

oh I hadn't thought of this at all, thanks!! is it also by any chance more comfortable than a regular binder since it's made for exercising and all?

[cavalecavale]

see this "don't take off your shoes until you've Done Everything" adhd tip wouldn't work for me bc 1) I will NOT keep my shoes on inside what the hell 2) my personal equivalent to this is keeping my binder on which I... shouldn't do either probably

[bigbossterone]

Work boots and your most weatherbeaten trucker hat count as lingerie if you're a trans bear

[anniekoh]

“Some people like gazing into wells. That gives me vertigo. But with lighthouses, I stop thinking about myself. I move through space to remote places. I also move through time, toward a past that I’m aware I idealize, when solitude was easier. And in moving back in time I distance myself from the tastes of my own age, when lighthouses are linked with unfashionable adjectives like romantic and sublime. It’s difficult to talk about the topic generally associated with lighthouses: solitude, madness. Those of us who try have no option but to accept ourselves as quaint. If I focus my attention on myself, the pain is magnified. On the other hand, when I think of myself in relation to a lighthouse, I feel brand new and so tiny that I almost vanish.”

— Jazmina Barrera, On Lighthouses. Translated by Christina McSweeney.

[knucklesex]

to add on to my initial assessment:

(1) did you know about the gang rape case which involved multiple players of the NHL? did you know about the junior hockey bible (archived website), (VICE article), which teaches players how to rape and dehumanize women, and which was nearly scrubbed from the internet? did you know that Hockey Canada allocates a special fund to pay out settlements in cases of sexual assault? did you know there's a whole wikipedia page dedicated to misogyny in the sport? Heated Rivalry, utilising a fictional gay romance, appeals to a young female audience which is largely unfamiliar with ice hockey and thus generates positive PR for the NHL, which has long been under heat for its proliferation of misogyny and rape culture.

(2) renewed interest in the NHL is already helpful. sports is, after all, a means of exerting soft power in itself. moreover, it's not often that canadian media garners such wide global acclaim, which is why the political messaging of Heated Rivalry is particularly worrying. by painting russia as a backward and regressive country that must be escaped in order to live a truly fulfilling life, canada appears to be a gay utopia in contrast, despite the show even accepting the homophobia within the NHL. note that the show has funding from the government of canada. now, have you heard of 'pinkwashing'?

(3) since one half of the romance is a wasian man, it is diverse enough so as to satisfy its audience and since the other half is a russian man, it reminds the same audience that no matter how bad things might be for them (since the show has become a critical hit in the USA), at least they don't live in russia. now, ask yourself if the show would have been as popular if even one of the main characters had darker skin. if the main characters were both female instead. does it bring anything new to the genre of gay romance, anything that hasn't been done before? this, exactly, is the reason behind Heated Rivalry's hit global success. it is only diverse enough to entice, to make the viewers feel as if they're supporting a cause by watching raunchy sex scenes, but not so diverse as to miss out on any potential audience.

[ozempicofficial]

[cavalecavale]

I do my neck exercises hanging off my bed. I follow boxing neck exercises off of youtube. I do not use weights or hang anything from my head. I think that's advanced, shit. I was going to send BigBossterone a boxing exercises ask since he boxes.

Thanks a lot for the recommendation!! I guess since the neck is quite a sensitive part,using weights if you're not trained enough could be dangerous no?

[cavalecavale]

Paracord Penis has that certain

je ne sais qock 🫒🥒

imagine needing rope in an emergency situation and you go give me a second let me grab my dick

[cavalecavale]

Man I want suspendeders to make a come back so bad

oh I Get that

[outlawpetegsc]

[infectedbruise]

injecting him with his T shot and then giving him the best head of his life send post

[cavalecavale]

https://www.tumblr.com/catchymemes/817117433365168128?source=share

Big guys rock cargo shorts better than anyone. The right cut/big pockets can help make you less curvy.

And get those shoulders bigger. Hit neck/shoulders hard in the gym. It's very masculinizing.

Leather bracelets that are thicker. Think leather and studs for jewelry instead of gems and charms.

Tried to send this earlier but tumblr said error so sorry if you get this twice

Thank you!! I had never even thought about neck exercises but I'll definitely give it a try - and yesss I need more thick bracelets and also more chains I think,,, and yes cargo pants/shorts are absolute life savers omg

[cavalecavale]

https://youtu.be/zmnDtk1P6yI?si=njToEJF9FoWDqJvm

Someone shared something on tumblr called the flattener. Which is a square panel of denium sewed to a tank top.

That concept and Dorian Grey's "binder" are non-compressive shaping garments. And there is no reason you can't wear them in addition to a binder and tape. You can use fabric to shape your chest, if your chest is too big to bind down with tape or a binder.

You flatten what you can safely and confortably. And then use denium or boneing to make a garment that squares you out. It can be real quick and dirty.

Only issue is hot climates or hyper specific dress codes.

Oh wow this sounds amazing, thank you so much!! I'll have a closer look at that video and give it a try!

[mutt-boy02]

Started taping my chest:)

[nothorses]

i think i cracked the code on converting regular underwear into packing underwear:

easily

using only a pair of sacrificial underwear

looks good (inside and out!), AND

keeps ur packer firmly and comfortably in place

if there is interest I can be persuaded to share my secrets

[nothorses]

The people have spoken.

You will need:

Underwear to be converted (I am using boxer briefs in this tutorial, but this should work on any "men's" underwear!)

Sacrificial underwear (these do not need to be "men's")

Scissors

Thread

Either a needle or a sewing machine

Pins or basting glue/some kind of temporary fabric glue

OPTIONAL: Seam ripper

My sewing skills are pretty beginner-level, but if you've never sewn before, this is a modified version of the idea from this video, which explains hand-sewing as well! imo this is simple enough (and similar enough) that you can probably attempt this tutorial after you watch that one.

What we're going for is a pouch in the front of the underwear, using the shape of the crotch they already have. This is a pair I made with fabric that matches it exactly (turned inside-out so you can see the pocket):

For this tutorial, I chose a sacrificial pair that contrasts a little bit, just so yall can see what I'm doing.

I'm converting the underwear on the left into packing underwear. I've chosen a sacrificial pair that I think I can match nicely to them, plus some thread that matches them both. You truly do not need to be this picky about it.

First, I'm going to deconstruct my sacrificial pair:

Cut along the yellow lines to separate out the crotch, elastic waistband, and the butt. (I cut on the outside of the seams here, so the seams were removed with the crotch.)

We're gonna get rid of the crotch, because it's cup-shaped & won't lie flat. The butt fabric will be perfect for that!

But first: the waistband.

This is the part that makes this design work so well! Let's remove some excess fabric from the waistband that my scissors couldn't get with the seam ripper (this is optional)

You want about 6'' of the waistband to form a strap, which will hold your packer in place inside the pouch.

My packer is a Mr. Limpy, which works well with these harnesses. This should also work with some packers that don't have balls- esp sock packers- but if you use the soft cup-shaped packers, I might be concerned about the strap compressing them. Whether you fiddle with the design, or just leave the strap out altogether, is up to you!

I played around with mine and found that it worked best to place the strap about 3'' up from the bottom of the crotch, but this may be different on your body & with your packer. Once you figure out placement, you're going to:

Turn your underwear inside-out

Measure & place your elastic strap (I like to go 3'' above the bottom seam of the crotch) (It's important that your elastic is longer than your crotch is wide!)

And pin.

(Make sure you do not pin your crotch to your ass.)

Now, you're going to place the butt fabric from your sacrificial underwear so that it covers the entire crotch, leaving maybe a quarter inch or so of room from the waistband. I also recommend placing one of the hemmed edges from the leg holes at the top here, so you don't need to hem it yourself.

(Blue lines are the crotch seams underneath, and the purple is the elastic, with yellow pins. I feel x-ray helps me understand what's going on.)

And pin! (With more x-ray so you can see where everything should be)

Turn the whole deal right-side-out again, and sew along the existing crotch seams:

This will hide your sewing, which I think is a nice touch.

When you're done, turn it inside-out again and cut off the excess fabric (you can cut pretty close to the seam here)

And viola!

I decided to do an overcast stitch around the inside hem, just to help prevent fraying and make things look more finished. If you're hand stitching, you probably do not want to do all that, but you can use a zig-zag stitch for a similar effect if you're particularly masochistic/determined.

Penis time.

And an inside peek:

I find the strap really helps keep things in place no matter what I'm doing, whereas the pair I made without one needed a lot more readjusting. I'm also a huge fan of how subtle the changes are! Even when I go to the bathroom, I'm not reminded of how Different And Strange my underwear are. Feels good.

If you come up with any tips or changes, or if you decide to make these and want to share/provide feedback, please add to this post & I will try to share!

[catboybiologist]

updating version that I'm again bumping for transmascs bc this is super cool!

[eddieheart]

I’ve never done this specific project before but I do have some sewing experience.

This stuff is unimportant but might help when doing this yourself. :) (also I’m not an expert and if you don’t do want to/actually do any of this that’s fine too)

(Hand drew this out first then realized my camera was shit)

Pretty much just pinning it as show in OP’s instruction then re-pinning it from the other side.

Personally I would pre-see the rolled edge before sewing it on as it can be more difficult when pinned to the garment, especially when you’re sewing multiple un-basted things.

(Basting is when you make large, loose stitches to hold fabric in place before sewing it properly. Once fully sewn the basting stitches are removed)

You can also seal the edges of the fabric by whipping it down (a whip stitch shown below), doing a zig-zag stitch over the edge with a machine, using a surger (if you somehow happen to have one) or with fabric/super glue.

It’s important to note that fabric can and will fray once it’s cut. How fast and to what degree it frays comes down to fabric type and what it’s being used for.

Also because it’s a place of such high tension and a lot of movement be sure to make sure everything is stitched down firmly. I would either backstitch (going back over the original stitches) or use a zig-zag stitch over the machine seen straight stitch.

But this could make the area too tight or make the stitching too tight/uncomfortable/stiff. This doesn’t work for every fabric type so take this with a grain of salt.

Also

This seems (no pun intended) like an informative source for basic and general sewing sewing knowledge. Don’t forget that google is your friend and you can find all sorts of things, including hand sewing guides/practices. :)

Basic Sewing Skills - MindyMakes

SEWING MACHINE BASICS hand sewing BASICS BASIC SEWING TECHNIQUES How to Sew Knits and Stretchy Fabric Rotary Cutter Vs Scissors: Which One d

[cavalecavale]

everyone talks about crochetting their own packer meanwhile im considering making one with paracord