Ephemeral Starlight

This blog is for me and the things I like. (Icon credit is minnowminn)

[war-crime-wizard]

my blog is a safe space for me. the rest of you are in danger i think

[holeintheroof]

oh my god they banned forks from the kitchen

[foolhearteyes]

Oh, okay. I see. You think this has nothing to do with you. You go to your closet and you select out, oh I don’t know, that gaslight gatekeep girlboss meme, for instance, because you’re trying to tell the world that you think modern feminism has been co-opted by corporations. But what you don’t know is that that meme is not from Instagram, it's not from Twitter, it's not from Tiktok, it’s actually from Tumblr. You’re also blithely unaware of the fact that in January 2021, Tumblr user missnumber1111 posted, "today's agenda: gaslight gatekeep and most importantly girlboss." And then I think it was a-m-e-t-h-y-s-t-r-o-s-e, wasn’t it, who reblogged it with an image of the phrase edited over a piece of "Live, Laugh, Love" wall art? And then gaslight gatekeep girlboss showed up in the feeds of eight different Twitter repost accounts. Then it filtered down through Instagram and then trickled on down into some tragic “alt side of Tiktok” where you, no doubt, fished it out of some clearance bin. However, that meme represents millions of notes and countless Tumblr users and so it’s sort of comical how you think that you’ve made a choice that exempts you from Tumblr when, in fact, you’re wearing the meme that was selected for you by the people in this room. From a pile of “stuff.”

[jkthinkythoughts]

I swear this is how I feel every time I see a Tumblr screenshot out in the wild

[logikitty]

kai becoming a ninja in 2010: ok i'm only here to save my sister then i'm outta here

kai still a ninja in 2026: HOW THE FUCK DID WE GET HERE

[enthyrea]

ryland’s best friend

[espi-owch]

drew cole and zane cuz im being absorbed again

[sawed-on-shotgun]

I have been in multiple situations where a friend group I'm not so familiar with starts making jokes about being into weirdo pervert stuff and there is a slight edge of competition to who is The Most Freakish I know for a goddamn fact that I have everyone beat in the pervert department but I can't say anything because they're probably just talking about light BDSM at most and I like things that are complete social suicide in 90% of spaces

[sawed-on-shotgun]

like oh when you like puppyplay and choking its subversive and edgy but when I talk about getting my sexual awakening at 8 years old from the really fucking weird plant vore sequence in the third ice age movie it's WEIRD and EMBARRASSING i see how it is,

[sawed-on-shotgun]

oh so this post stops getting notes when I make that addition, i see how it is,

[kailverkami]

FOUND FAMILY TROPE UEGGHHHHH I WANT MORE

[ravioliet]

btw romance isn't real and you can't have it. just so you're aware

[ravioliet]

i say this jokingly but i do kind of mean it actually. from an aro perspective im often kinda left thinking like. okay and how is this romance supposed to be any different from a platonic relationship? and it's often to the point where i am genuinely convinced that romance is a made up label for relationships and there's so many people who would be so much happier in their relationships if they just let them be without having to label them or the expectation to try and make them fit into a certain box. romance isn't real and your prison bars are showing, take my paw we can break out of here together

[decompose1]

an interesting amnt of people seem to think of intersexism as a "less bad" form of oppression for.... one of the only kinds of oppression that routinely involves mutilating infants and young children. and then a lifetime of very specific and unique medical abuse. it actually makes me feel kind of insane

[decompose1]

like. Trans bottom surgeries have to meet a pretty high standard- and that's a very good thing! People would not be getting these bottom surgeries if they were bad. Trans bottom surgeries are almost always very good, advanced, visually "realistic" (look close to or indistinguishable from natal genitals, depending on the surgery), and prioritize very good outcomes for function and sensation- genitals that work the way genitals should, feel pleasure (if desired), and heal well.

This is not true for IGM (intersex genital mutilation) victims. When i say intersex infants and children are being mutilated, i am not disparaging bottom surgery- i mean that the intersex ""corrective"" surgeries performed against our will do not meet the same standards. They aren't something we choose, they're forced on us. Victims of IGM are often left with chronic pain, issues with genital function and sensation, poor aesthetic outcomes, and scarring (which affects both the visual appearance AND can cause functional issues). These surgeries are completely unnecessary and done largely at the doctor's discretion, often without the knowledge of parents (either because they were not told or they were fooled), and the victim is almost always deeply unhappy (and often dysphoric) as a result. Doctors get to decide to mutilate us, lie to our families, and then also mistreat and abuse us for the rest of our lives. Further, outside of the surgical procedures, growing up intersex means routinely going through violating and invasive "inspections" of your genitals by doctors. I can recall having doctors, nurses, and volunteers demand to see my genitals as a young child, touching and examining them without my consent- same for my breasts once i hit puberty. Just about every intersex person i know can say the same. It's routine and constant medical and sexual abuse from medical professionals.

And that's not even getting into the social impact! Finding work is difficult when you're intersex. Dating is so much more dangerous when you're intersex. Intimacy is so much more dangerous when you're intersex. We have extremely high rates of childhood bullying, as well as extremely high rates of physical and sexual abuse. We're highly fetishized, both in broader society ("herm" porn) and even pretty significantly within the queer community. I hesitate to talk about my intersexness & my body in many spaces because of how many times talking about my body has resulted in people saying creepy shit about wanting my body and thinking people like me are ~sexy~, or asking invasive & often very dehumanizing questions. It's incredibly objectifying. It feels like i am not an equal to almost anyone, like i'm just some idea of a perfect sex toy with both parts and it feels awful. And everyone ignores it!!!! No one talks about it!!!! Everyone just brushes us off as this "lesser" issue, not as serious as things like homophobia or transphobia. We're always "collateral damage", "outliers", "edge cases", "accidental targets". And i'm sitting here trying to tell you we ARE targets! Society at large does not love us. It wishes to mutilate, rape, and abuse us. PLEASE love your intersex siblings. We're drowning and we need your help.

[minyard-05]

don't let being born a girl stop you from being the man your father never was

[unthrifty--loveliness-deactivat]

Just so we’re clear, if I point out that you did something racist, that’s not the same as me thinking you’re irremediably terrible. You did a racist thing.

[unthrifty--loveliness-deactivat]

You think you don’t do racist things, homophobic things, etc? You do. I caught myself in fat phobic and homophobic lines of thinking/speech just this morning. I’m fucking gay married. Nothing disqualifies you from acting in a way that reflects the society you exist in. We are obliged to fight it. Why not fight it in honesty and with camaraderie?

[findmeinthealps]

guy on a work call just accidentally said “have a nice freak-end” instead of weekend and now i desperately want that to be the new meme. have a nice freakend everybody

[entrailer]

grace was calling himself stratts "little science lapdog" out of a love for the game. nobody else called him that shit. which is to say that he'd absolutely also refer to himself as rockys pet alien and that he'd absolutely call the biodome his endangered species exhibit slash enclosure slash terrarium. grace enjoys petplay that degrades him but simultaneously posits him as the specialest most pampered boy

[melonsharks]

"oh ryland. only you would cry over a bunch of rocks."

[mikelz0]

another one i like >.<

[yulianaml]

I'm too lazy to draw properly