Iman Williams

She/Her | Militant Black Queer Muslim from Baltimore| IG: ImanKWilliams

[wordsnquotes]

to hate is an easy lazy thing but to love takes strength everyone has but not all are willing to practice.

Rupi Kaur (via wordsnquotes)

[vanjess]

Oh hey bae

[maxvista-deactivated20161110]

If someone refuses to love you publicly, don't let them love you privately.

[stankyleg-deactivated2918973]

I hope black girls with depression have a good day today.

[tajinhoe]

thank you

[almightybob]

[the-queens-palace]

FROM WHO?!

[sexindielovess-blog]

[dsfsdgesdagsdeg-deactivated2019]

I want more stories that normalizes the idea that its fucking ok to NOT forgive shitty/abusive family members and that it’s ok to cut ties with them and NEVER forgive them even when they are on their death bed.

[praial]

Palenqueras, Cartagena, Colombia

[unwene-deactivated20160331]

and, if you can’t get toasted pearl Couscous handpicked and blessed by a Moroccan shaman on the first tuesday of the winter harvest for your Sautéed Escarole then store bought is fine

[thetattedstoner]

Have you ever been too nice and ended up in a situation that could’ve been avoided if you just would’ve been an ass hole??

[shatterstag]

literally my entire life

[throughkaleidscopeeyes]

Me me me me me me

[kindofsharethat]

[thetattedstoner]

Have you ever been too nice and ended up in a situation that could’ve been avoided if you just would’ve been an ass hole??

[shatterstag]

literally my entire life

[throughkaleidscopeeyes]

Me me me me me me

[eastafriqueen]

lmao

[queenstravelingdarling]

Jus Reign ft Desiigner premiere their hit single “POLAR BEAR” at the #MMVAs

[jeniphyer]

Bars! He got too real

[tort-time]

(source: mnn.com)

80-year old Galapagos Tortoise, Nigrita (named after a type of finch), is now the proud mom of nine hatchlings at the Zurich Zoo. For her species, laying eggs at 80 is no big deal. She weighs 200 lbs and is in the prime of her life. The proud father, Jumbo, is 36 years younger but about twice her size. 

These gorgeous giants, with the help of the Zoo staff and the Swiss Association of Friends of the Galapagos Islands, are the proud parents of 9 shells, tiny in size but giant in impact. These little ones, along with those young hatchlings recently discovered on the islands themselves, will carry on the legacy of the wisest creatures on our planet.

Just think what they will have witnessed when they’re their mother’s size? 

A warm welcome to this gorgeous shell family! 

[elfauno]

[thatdiabolicalfeminist]

Abusers usually start off by challenging small boundaries. (A boundary = you saying “no” to something the other person wants.)

At first they’ll often try to coax, cajole, tease, playfully mock, or convince you to agree to something small that you don’t want to, or set up a situation where you feel like it would be rude to say no, they’ll just do things without permission and make you feel like it would be rude to ask them to stop.

Over time you’ll find yourself with fewer and fewer choices, and saying no will come at higher and higher costs. At first, saying no might just be a hassle because you have to convince them to accept it and maybe reassure them that you do like them or things along those lines.

Then it might reach a point where saying no starts a fight that you’d just rather not deal with, and/or where you know your boundary will just be ignored or you’ll be steamrolled into “changing your mind”.

Eventually saying no just isn’t worth it because you know you’ll be punished for hours/days/weeks and forced to give concessions to “make up for how much you hurt them” by saying no - even if you gave in later and said yes.

This progression usually happens so gradually that it’s hard to notice, and often it’s not so much that they’re physically forcing you to do things you don’t like as it is them making your life absolutely miserable if they don’t get their way 100% of the time, and making you feel guilty for being bothered by that.

That’s abuse. There are some choices that should be yours and yours alone, and in a healthy relationship your boundaries are important.

[kerryrenaissance]

They may continue challenging you on small boundaries after you’ve ended the relationship, too, if you’re not able to set up a no-contact situation, either trying to resume the relationship, maintain a degree of power and control over you, or both.

[jumpingjacktrash]

they will deny doing this, by the way. for the most part they don’t know they’re doing this. to their way of thinking, they’re simply entitled to get what they want, and they lean and lean until things start going their way. don’t repeat their justifications to yourself as if they’re an accurate reporter. use your own observations, your own conscience and your own logic.

[thatdiabolicalfeminist]

And honestly, abuse survival skill - write shit down if you begin to question your memory of events. Don’t tell them you’re doing it, just quietly write down times your boundaries were violated so if they make you doubt your memory later the gaslighting will be easier to endure.

[dynastylnoire]

My mom’s boss is doing this and the administration knows that this supervisor is using abusive tactics like this as well as finding reasons to fire all the black medical staff.

They have done nothing thus far but have a meeting with the supervisor bit the behavior has continued.

My mom is her 50’s, ready to retire in a few years and is now in therapy and taking anxiety medicine to cope. She can’t just quit either or sue because real life doesn’t work that way.