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luluvanhoagland

Big Boober Post #3

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GIVEAWAY

ETSY / ART PAGE

breefolk-hates-staff

These are so cute, and also definitely relatable.

matchingvnecks

teachingwithcoffee

It’s time to bring an end to the Rape Anthem Masquerading As Christmas Carol

bigbutterandeggman-deactivated2

Hi there! Former English nerd/teacher here. Also a big fan of jazz of the 30s and 40s.

So. Here’s the thing. Given a cursory glance and applying today’s worldview to the song, yes, you’re right, it absolutely *sounds* like a rape anthem.

BUT! Let’s look closer!

“Hey what’s in this drink” was a stock joke at the time, and the punchline was invariably that there’s actually pretty much nothing in the drink, not even a significant amount of alcohol.

See, this woman is staying late, unchaperoned, at a dude’s house. In the 1940’s, that’s the kind of thing Good Girls aren’t supposed to do — and she wants people to think she’s a good girl. The woman in the song says outright, multiple times, that what other people will think of her staying is what she’s really concerned about: “the neighbors might think,” “my maiden aunt’s mind is vicious,” “there’s bound to be talk tomorrow.” But she’s having a really good time, and she wants to stay, and so she is excusing her uncharacteristically bold behavior (either to the guy or to herself) by blaming it on the drink — unaware that the drink is actually really weak, maybe not even alcoholic at all. That’s the joke. That is the standard joke that’s going on when a woman in media from the early-to-mid 20th century says “hey, what’s in this drink?” It is not a joke about how she’s drunk and about to be raped. It’s a joke about how she’s perfectly sober and about to have awesome consensual sex and use the drink for plausible deniability because she’s living in a society where women aren’t supposed to have sexual agency.

Basically, the song only makes sense in the context of a society in which women are expected to reject men’s advances whether they actually want to or not, and therefore it’s normal and expected for a lady’s gentleman companion to pressure her despite her protests, because he knows she would have to say that whether or not she meant it, and if she really wants to stay she won’t be able to justify doing so unless he offers her an excuse other than “I’m staying because I want to.” (That’s the main theme of the man’s lines in the song, suggesting excuses she can use when people ask later why she spent the night at his house: it was so cold out, there were no cabs available, he simply insisted because he was concerned about my safety in such awful weather, it was perfectly innocent and definitely not about sex at all!) In this particular case, he’s pretty clearly right, because the woman has a voice, and she’s using it to give all the culturally-understood signals that she actually does want to stay but can’t say so. She states explicitly that she’s resisting because she’s supposed to, not because she wants to: “I ought to say no no no…” She states explicitly that she’s just putting up a token resistance so she’ll be able to claim later that she did what’s expected of a decent woman in this situation: “at least I’m gonna say that I tried.” And at the end of the song they’re singing together, in harmony, because they’re both on the same page and they have been all along.

So it’s not actually a song about rape - in fact it’s a song about a woman finding a way to exercise sexual agency in a patriarchal society designed to stop her from doing so. But it’s also, at the same time, one of the best illustrations of rape culture that pop culture has ever produced. It’s a song about a society where women aren’t allowed to say yes…which happens to mean it’s also a society where women don’t have a clear and unambiguous way to say no.

aphnxrising

xtrapockets-deactivated20171024

remember loves: context is everything. and personal opinion matters. If you still find this song to be a problem, that’s fine. But please don’t make it into something it’s not because it’s been stripped of cultural context.

vorked

This is actually really interesting. I’ve never known a lot of the background to this song.

unquietgravekeeper

Making its annual rounds

mariemarion

Day 4. Freeze

dragonbleps-moved

Me, an artist:

gracklesong

Idg why people are against busty women in turtlenecks, literally who cares if you have “uniboob”? To whom do you owe separate and defined titties? Only cowards and fools fear the breast monolith

princessrhcenyra

this is too real. thanks i hate it

tokivi-blog

djames

whitepeopletwitter

seyvetch

he has lost the second it started

sexhaver

what if magic was real but it was treated the way music is now with different genres and like “oh youre still into conjuring? thats cool I guess. recently ive been getting into third-wave post-necromancy, it’s some pretty heavy stuff”

chorusofravenousangels

“what do you mean you’ve never learned FIREBALL, it’s a CLASSIC” “idk I’m not really into evocations.” “how can you not be into ANY evocations?” “well, it’s kind of dad magic, isn’t it?”

samael

“i like a bit of everything except hedge wizardry and urban arcana”

holdtightposts

I cannot stress enough how much I love The Good Place.

derinthescarletpescatarian

The best part is that Marc Evan Jackson (who plays Shawn) doesn’t know a damn thing about Pewdiepie. The writing staff gave him that and he delivered it perfectly regardless.

bella-vida-bellarke

Can we talk about how fucking absurd it is to actually believe that PewDiePie holds a candle to the atrocities committed by war criminals..

roskvawinther

really? the man who is consciously introducing MILLIONS of children world wide to fascism isn't as bad as a war criminal? he's creating future war criminals you fucking idiot

bella-vida-bellarke

Cite your sources, pewdiepie engages in satire. Maybe if people paid attention in school, you would know the different between being a neo-nazi and making satirical content.

geekandmisandry

We live in a world where a guy paying poor people to hold up a sign saying "death to all jews" while jews face hate crimes around the world and a person can UNIRONICALLY call that satire and say that OTHER people need to go back to school for not knowing what satire is.

Just let that sink in.

thinking-through-some-things

the good place has a morality system which is based on impact, not intent. by citing pewdiepie, the show isn't commenting on if he's "actually" racist or not; the show is pointing out that his actions put more harm into the world than good. regardless of his "true intentions," by paying someone to hold a "death to all Jews" sign and promoting channels that support white supremacy, he has done more harm than good.

and before anyone complains about how "he raised money for charities" or whatever, that doesn't negate the harm he's done elsewhere (especially given the whole fiasco with his recent "attempt" to donate to adl. regardless of your opinion on whether it was right or wrong to cancel the donation, there's no denying that white supremacists felt, once again, emboldened by his actions).

this "impact vs. intent" morality actually goes pretty well with the claims his fans make that these acts are satire. anyone who studies literature could tell you that true satire, effective satire, mocks oppressors/the powerful by mimicking them to such an absurd degree that no one can mistake what they say for agreement. people generally cite jonathan swift's "a modest proposal" for a reason — he calls attention to starvation in ireland by suggesting they eat babies. it's absurd and appalling, exposing how poorly the english treated the irish.

this is why pewdiepie's actions are not satire. he doesn't seem to be mocking antisemites; he's simply behaving the same way. that's not satire. that's just being a white supremacist. paying people to hold a sign and promoting a channel are not big, ridiculous actions that obviously point to satire. using the n-word when you're mad at a game is not satire. those aren't big, ridiculous actions that clearly mock those who hold those views.

that's just supporting those views, plain and simple.

and that's the point the good place is making. even if his fans are correct and he's being satirical, he's still harming people. he's still exposing people to antisemitism, using the n-word, and exposing kids to channels that promote white supremacy. he's creating a place for white supremacists to find each other and feel emboldened to share their views with children.

so that's what this means. he has put a lot of bad into the world, and no defense of "it's a joke!" negates that.

softlyfeel

PERIOD!! you articulated your point so well

livebloggingmydescentintomadness

i’m so fucking sick of people whining “but you don’t know they’re racist IN THEIR HEART.”

it doesn’t fucking matter what’s ~in their heart~.

if you deliberately choose racist actions, you ARE a racist.

if you sympathize with nazis, you ARE a nazi.

if you AREN’T a racist, you STOP doing racist things once you realize they are racist, you APOLOGIZE, and you MAKE AMENDS to the best of your abilities.

i don’t care what’s “in your heart.” i care what you do.