The weird part of untangling myself from my headmate is that my sense of what my gender is hasn't changed at all, but the perception of it has.
because "I" knew what having a human gender felt like, my own gender as a Mob/ian dude stood out enough that I felt like I needed to emphasize the difference, treat it like a totally different gender
Thing is, we DO have a different conception of things like "maleness" and "masculine" than humans do. But humans... also have a different conception of those things from other humans. And they're not alone in having various different cultures and peoples. I mean, for god's sake, "Mob/ian" isn't even a single species! and that's going to have an effect even if you're looking at one specific culture.
Since getting some distance from the "being human" thing, it's like this weird in between to me now. not a human gender, but in the same family I guess. It probably helps that we got to more or less coexist with each other in my source/canon, so naturally our ideas are gonna get bridged one way or another.
















