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block people. avoid tags. mute words. follow like-minded people. do not engage with hate. curate your own experience in all the ways you can. that's the only way to survive fandoms my friends.
Say it again in russian please...
don't get me wrong i love the fact that shane and ilya retcon their relationship to be love at first sight. like good for them!! but when i look at the source material im like .. you were charmed. you were jealous. he had everything you wanted (supportive family and his country behind him, able to be big and brash and move through life with ease) and you wanted to see if you could make him feel good (can you debauch the golden boy, can you be good for the man who's had everyone) but the love didn't come until you started to take apart the things that attracted you to this person in the first place. shane fell in love with the ilya who checked in on him and with the sweetness behind the barbs and with the ilya who couldn't stop kissing him in that stairwell. and ilya fell in love with the shane who thinks buffalo is stupid and can barely get his shoes off before he throws himself at ilya and can't tell his parents he's gay because he's suffocating behind his own image not because he thinks they don't love him but because he wants to honor everything they've done for him. and so it's really nice that ilya goes "i loved you from the first time i saw you" but i, omniscient reader, call bullshit. i think you love that boy now because no version of you could ever not love any version of him. but at the time i think you were mostly just curious and then the love grew despite all odds in the most hostile of circumstances because everything you learned about each other made you want more and more and more. and also probably that's even MORE beautiful. so.
word!!! as an asexual demiromantic person iâve never liked love at first sight because it eliminates the beauty of falling in love.
iâll never be able to comprehend the idea of falling in love with someone when you donât know a single thing about them. love is seeing a personâs whole self, their quirks, their flaws. itâs knowing all of them and loving it all.
i think at most, ilya was caught off guard by shaneâs earnestness and freckles and was thinking âwouldâ
Not to be the most basic person ever but the out for a walk bitch scene is truly a spuffy all-timer. She starts by hitting him. She calls him William. Sheâs sooo annoyed with him and heâs so pathetic and bad at lying. Heâs so weird, dunks on Riley, and leaves her looking utterly baffled. And then you see all the cigarettes and see how long he was hanging out outside. Also she just looks really pretty there.
AND YOU HAVE STUPID HAIR
why did I only just realize.
Yuna and David can be at Ilyaâs games
They live in Ottawa! The Centaurs are their home team! And given Yuna Hollanderâs famous obsession with hockey, people would see her in the front row with a Team Ottawa jersey cheering for Ilya and would just chalk it up to her love of the sport and her hometown.
He finally gets to be cheered by family at his hockey gamesđ
anything is a couples costume if you crack ship hard enough
- my friend, 2026
(context: me telling my friends about my girlfriendâs request for us to be doof and perry for halloween)
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i'm trying to organize my thoughts on this.
i struggle to have any sympathy for people who use ai for fanwork. i also think these witch hunts are giving people an âethicalâ excuse to be mean. i think weâve let consumerism and capitalism infect fandom, and this is the inevitable result. i think the erosion of fandom as a community opened the door for this, but these people made the deliberate choice to step through it. i think the why matters and should be the focus of the conversation, but i also think it's equally important that we don't let the reasons excuse or normalize the actions.
i think the relentless call outs and the immediate memeification of everything, the fics and authors who use ai becoming running mean girl jokes, is only furthering the degradation of fandom, and creates a space that feels unsafe for someone new to create without the crutch of ai. i can empathize with people not being sure how to form connections other than through producing content people will talk about. the root problem is that everyone is hungry for community, but we've lost sight of what that means and how to build it.
i don't think i can find any sympathy for the people who loudly professed to be against AI and used it anyway, or those who doubled down after being called out months ago and wrote treatises about being victimized. that's deliberate deception and manipulation and cannot be excused or enabled.
i'm conflicted, all of my thoughts are contradictory, but i guess that's human. and i guess if i have any clear stance it's that i think the only productive way to approach this issue is as humans capable of nuance and not moral litigators. our focus needs to be on working the problem, not meting out punishment.
Our Flag Means Death truly did feel like a miracle, like that really happened. when is the dvd set coming out.
I hate when this fandom treats Rose or Svetlana or any other female character like a human incubator. NO! They would not be hollanovâs surrogate. Stop being fucking weird!!
I could see Svetlana potentially being an egg donor. Maybe, as a huge favour to her bestie. Since thereâs no way Ilya would want to pass on his genetic predispositions to depression, substance abuse and dementia. And if they were going to have a baby via surrogacy, he would want the bio father to be Shane.
But the only existing female character in HR I could see potentially volunteering as a surrogate would be Jackie Pike. And altruistic (I.e. unpaid) surrogacy is legal here in Canada. Svetlana would not fuck with nine months of pregnancy. Egg donation is a much smaller commitment.
As for Rose, sheâs a fucking movie star. Moreover, sheâs a movie star who gets paid a lot of money to be spray painted blue all over while wearing practically no clothes. Thereâs no way sheâs going through nine months of pregnancy (during which she canât work).
Followed by the hell of having to get her body back into pre-pregnancy shape so she can go back to making the Marvel movies sheâs contracted for, and where every stretch mark would be noticeable in her spray-painted costume. All that wouldnât be worth it to her unless sheâs keeping the kid sheâs squishing out. It just wouldnât make economic sense for her to risk her livelihood, not even to make a close friendâs dream come true.
Besides, at least here in Canada, neither Svetlana nor Rose would even be a suitable candidate for altruistic surrogacy. Since youâre supposed to have a child of your own who lives with you. And a track record of at least one previous pregnancy with no major complications.
Jackie has four kids who live with her already, and she doesnât have a job where her needing to take time off during and after pregnancy would risk her employment. Because in canon sheâs a stay at home parent. Sheâs really the only candidate, if Shane and Ilya decide they want kids and want to go the surrogacy route. And because Shane and Ilya have babysat her kids many times, Jackie knows theyâre good with kids. Itâs not abstract for her.
And realistically, altruistic surrogacy might be their only option. With Ilyaâs mental health issues and past as a child of an abusive home, it might be very tough for Hollanov to adopt. If a social worker has to choose between a potential adoptive family where one parent is on SSRIs, versus a potential adoptive family where neither parent has significant mental health challengesâŠ.
Well, you couldnât really blame a social worker in that situation for choosing the less risky option. Especially if itâs an adoption from foster care and the child or children in question already have their own psychological baggage.
But anyway, thereâs no way they could have kids until at least one of them has retired. During the season theyâre both on the road half the time. You might be able to bring an infant on road trips (with a very well-paid nanny and an adjoining hotel room). But pretty soon that kid will be old enough that it needs structure and routine and preschool.
Honestly, itâs kind of iffy that they even have a dog, given Anya has to spend so much time at the dog hotel when theyâre on the road. You canât park a child at a dog hotel. Nor would there be much point.
Yeah, David and Yuna are young enough that they could help out. But if both parents are on the road half the time without the kid, theyâll spend very little time with their kid. Whatâs the point of having a kid prior to retirement if you hardly ever see the kid because youâre both jetting all over the country?
I have to say something because you missed so much of the point itâs like you didnât even read my post. NO Svetlana would not be their egg donor, NO Jackie would not be their surrogate. And you know why? Not just because it makes no fucking sense to do that. But because women exist outside of what their bodies and what they can provide for men. These women are not human incubators. My post was literally about people like you who take female characters from the show and say letâs use them as props to give these men a family.
ALSO being on SSRIs does not disqualify you from adopting, fostering, or taking care of a child in anyway. Please do fucking research before spreading misinformation about that. Saying that a social worker would not have a hard choice or that you couldnât blame them for choosing someone whoâs not on SSRIs is gross and stigmatizes medication and mental health. Not to mention you bringing up Ilyaâs abusive childhood to justify why they wouldnât get picked as if someone with an abusive childhood automatically wouldnât be a good candidate for parenthood. People with mental illnesses and other mental health conditions can be great parents.
Yes, HR is a TV show, but rhetoric like yours enforces the idea of people with mental health conditions as unfit parents. Self reflect please.
Bachelorâs of Social Work over here- a social worker absolutely would NOT discriminate based on mental health issues/being on SSRIâs. This isnât the 80âs where you could lose your job if you went to therapy.
âYou couldnât blame a social worker for choosing the less risky optionâ uh YES you absolutely fucking could blame a social worker if they decided you couldnât have a child because youâre on antidepressants to cope with a horrifically traumatic childhood. Iâve been on SSRIâs since I was 14, a large number of social workers are on antidepressants. Also, BOTH my parents have depression and they were, and continue to be, fantastic parents.
This person does not appear to understand the adoption process at all. A social worker does not choose which prospective family âgetsâ the child. Thatâs not remotely how it works. There are millions of kids in the foster system, a child isnât a hot commodity that we give to the winning family. A social worker, after home visits and interviews with family, friends, and coworkers(which would involve anyone thatâs ever seen Ilya interact with a kid saying he would be the best dad ever) decides if this would be a good environment for a child. Ilya and Shaneâs constant travel and demanding schedule would raise an issue, but Ilyaâs very manageable depression absolutely would not. Hell, it would probably be more of an issue if he WASNâT taking SSRIs for his depression- treatment is a sign that he takes mental health seriously and would thus be a very good parent to a child with mental health issues. Shane and Ilya are MORE equipped to parent a child that has depression or other mental health issues. They run a frickin mental health charity!
(apologies if Iâm fixating on the wrong thing here, OPâs point about using women as human incubators and using female characters as a tool to give Shane and Ilya children is SO correct. I just also HATE misinformation, especially surrounding my own profession)
some thoughts were percolating
I love you, Alex
ilya's bisexuality really is such a vital part of his character and his identity and i Do get a little bothered when people (usually normies/straight people) just refer to him as gay bc he's in love with a man....but that's just my personal feelings as a #bi person
ACTUALLY i'm adding onto this bc there's something i always notice in ep 6 that i wanna talk abt briefly, and that's yuna & david's faces when shane says "ilya likes both" - especially yuna
there's concern there. it's obvious. and it's SO common when it comes to bisexuality bc there's this huge and annoying misconception that bisexual people are unfaithful unloyal cheaters. and you can see it in her face as she processes the information that this is an immediate concern for her and for her son.
and now let's look at ilya's face
now he's concerned, because he knows he has to explain himself (which he does. he shouldn't have to but he does) and he's basically throwing out a hail mary to shane's parents that says hey, wait, no, i'm not gonna cheat on your son. i love your son. just because i'm bisexual doesn't mean i would hurt shane.
and this is something bisexual people deal with all the time btw. not just from straight people, not just from gen x & boomers, but from our own community too. it's incredibly exhausting. anyway i just notice this every time it makes my heart hurt a bit for ilya.
Shane Hollander, AKA
a Russianâs Gayest Love Machine
it is now 6 months since the last episode of heated rivalry came out. this is how long ilya ghosted shane after vegas.
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