Sugar sweet, my ass

Just a girl trying to break into the sugar dating game. Call me Charlie.

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Any chicago sugar babies?? I wanna freestyle and make friends!!

[charliesweetums]

Hello!

[charliesweetums]

Freestyling tips?

SA isn't helpful at all, and I don't like any of the other websites I've tried. Any Chicago SBs have any advice?

[saturnaliaxcrescent]

1: Sugar Babies are offering an experience not a service. 
*escorts/prostitutes provide a service and exchange usually per hour or per time. Sex is the primary focus of exchange.

So if a Pot (potential SD) is treating u like you are an escort. Recommend a place for him to get one and 
stop...

[benedictennant]

If you are a sugar baby, reblog so I can follow you!

[charliesweetums]

There's one POT.

Seems respectful, hasn’t brought up sex once and doesn’t seem to be looking for it, wants to meet 2-3 times a month for just dinner or a movie.

Only offering $200 per meet though, which Idk not unreasonable I don’t think, just low. We’ll see how this goes.

[charliesweetums]

SD hunting is just boring now.

Too many sex-expectant men who think $100 per meet 2-4 times a month qualifies them as a SD.

I suppose it doesn’t help that my time is first and foremost devoted to school and friends, so the men who CAN afford me I can’t see anyway because they want someone who will “date” them.

This one guy keeps emailing me after no contact for a week or two asking about “chatting over drinks”, even though he has on multiple occasions emphasized his primary interest in sex and I have on multiple occasions emphasizes my lack thereof. Plus he won’t tell me anything about his past arrangements, even though he keeps assuring me that he’s experienced with having a SB?

I mean, I didn’t even really need to write this entire post out. It all could have been summarized as Uuuuuuuuuggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

[charliesweetums]

Fellow Chicago SBs?

Let's make friendship!

[charliesweetums]

Sudden influx of views on my SA profile.

Been too busy with grad school to do any sugaring, but over the past week or so I've gotten several views and messages. Haven't even logged in for weeks. Maybe this is a sign that it's a good time to get back into the bowl. At least with the colder weather I don’t have to stress about my outfits as much anymore. My fall/winter wardrobe looks so much better than my summer.

[charliesweetums]

Trying to delete my account on AM.

But apparently the only way to do that is to pay $19? Any SBs who can vouch for or against this? Is it worth paying, or should I just deactivate?

[charliesweetums]

Idk I think I just scared myself out of sugaring.

Like, I'm careful and cover my tracks. But even the slightest slip-up in security could screw me over regarding my chosen future career. I'll have to think about this more.

[charliesweetums]

Trying to delete my account on AM.

But apparently the only way to do that is to pay $19? Any SBs who can vouch for or against this? Is it worth paying, or should I just deactivate?

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In the past, especially with MC and another SD, I was always extremely cold and distant. I always knew the value of being “on” and playing the girlfriend role even if I wasn’t totally feeling it at that time or for that person particularly. I even blogged before about the type of SDs I tend to attract and that the majority of them are emotionally needy in one way or another and fall for me super hard, super quick. This always pissed me off and I would let it show. I knew I didn’t want to get their hopes up and tell them “yeah, I love you too” because it wouldn’t have been genuine and that’s just depressing.

But I’ve since learned that shutting down completely once they caught feelings for me ended up hurting those arrangements more that I ever realized. With my current SDs I’ve been trying a bit of a different approach. All of them have caught feelings. However, rather than shut down emotionally and not respond to their feelings at all, or lie to them, I try to reinforce the things I do value and greatly appreciate about them.

For instance, yesterday I hand wrote a card (older men usually notice and appreciate the effort of a handwritten note) for my one SD (who I have decided to call Mr.R) and asked if I could bring it to his office on my way home from school. Mr.R is the extremely sensitive type, and I quickly learned is filling the void his ex-wife left, with me. It only took an extra 5 minutes out of my way on the way home, and in fact I slipped it under his office door without even seeing him. The note wasn’t anything special, although way mushy-er than anything I’d ever seriously write to someone, but I knew he would like the wording:

(excuse my shit handwriting)

This morning I got a text from him telling me how much the card meant to him and how it had made his whole week. He told me to check my Paypal for something to brighten my day too.

For “back to school things”. Although fortunately, I don’t really need anything. Point being, the whole “you catch more flies with honey than with vinegar” thing is true. I didn’t compromise my emotional well being by lying to appease someone else’s feelings, but I also reinforced to him how grateful I am for his generosity and kindness. Plus, extra money is always awesome!

Just something I thought I’d share incase anyone else is ever in a similar situation. 

[sugar-pinkliquorlips-blog]

A Sugar Baby Mantra

I am a woman of the highest caliber, and I deserve only the best. I am providing a valuable luxury service to men who do not deserve me and have to earn me by funding me and treating me like the lady I am. No man who would act entitled to my time, my company, or my body deserves it.

Now repeat it until you believe it.

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Do you have tips for finding pots on tinder?

If you’re using tinder for serious sugaring and not organic, normal dating, then perhaps think about making a separate Facebook for this. This is important as I almost got myself a stalker. Also as tinder uses your facebook info, you can stalk him too! But obviously guys, too, can make fake profiles, especially those looking to beat and bounce.

Filter out guys by changing your age preference. Unsuspecting older guys will be very flattered that you’ve “liked” or “tapped” (or whatever is you do to them to express your interest for) them. Then talk normally, find out what they do (weeding process), where they live (weed out further), describe yourself in the best light, flirt lightly, play hard to get (!!!) and finally when it comes to the topic of meeting, ask where they would like to take you. This is v. important as you’ll be able to filter out them out more. Of course guys may impress you on the first date to get into your panties, but hold out. 

While you’re talking find out what they’re looking for and when they ask you, say, “Maybe something serious, but I’m not sure. Just going with the flow. Meet new people..etc” They know you’re young, but you come across as mature and focused, so hopefully they take you seriously!

Oh, another tip, is be forward. “Have you ever been with someone this young?” “Does my age bother you?” Ask innocently and inquisitively, laden with subtle compliments, and play hard to get!! This is so they don’t think you’re just after money, and also tell you a bit more about him. Heck, even lie and say you’ve never been with an older guy - that’ll excite him. 

You can be very lucky on tinder, eff what other people say. I had a guy I’d never met paypal me money and I didn’t know what I was doing, ha! Get him where you want him, and then apply all that you’ve learnt from sugaring and you could be a spoiled girlfriend easy!

[musingsofasexworker]

I’m currently trying this! Since I got engaged, it’s too risky for me to be on sugar sites so I think tinder is a good way to be discreet. I’m also a disgrace at freestyling so this seems to be a good stepping stone. Fun fact though: I’ve come across three guys from my city that were on sugar sites including one of my very first SDs (and I use that term loosely since he was more pay for play and didn’t want to admit it). I don’t even bother connecting with them because they all are on there looking for NSA hookups without paying. It’s almost sad that they are like sharks who smell blood and will try and gravitate to wherever young and hot women are. But yeah, there does seem to be potential on there but you have to look at it like freestyling where you may have to take things slower in terms of getting spoiled.

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[sugar-diploma]

Hi <3 I don't know if you've been asked this question before, but I am just getting started with sugaring after tons and tons of research and everything, but I am worried about how I would hide the sudden abundance of cash to my parents/family. How have you dealt with that?

Good question! To be honest, I tell my parents and friends I have a job as an executive assistant to a wealthy investment banker, whichhhhhh is kind of true, I’m just assisting him in other ways, and executive assistants make anywhere between 40k to 65k, without a college degree, per year. Which explains why I’m ballin’ lol while I’m still in school. I also live in Chicago while my parents live in a neighboring state. I know it’s really bad to lie, but it covers up why I travel so much and how much money I make. My parents trust me so when I tell them that, they’ve never questioned it, they’re just like sweetttt we don’t have to pay your bills.

I would never indorse being dishonest but I’m proud of all the nice stuff I have and I don’t want to hide it, but people will begin to question your wealth no matter what, and to admit what you do to anyone else, even though you understand this lifestyle and it’s so beneficial, others will probably not see it that way. So it does have the downsides of having to cover it up a little bit. Even if you hid your money, maybe your mother will ask why you have all of these new clothes or shoes, ect. There will be questions. So unfortunately you will have to tell a little fib- but hey, if you feel like they would understand, tell them the truth, but I wouldn’t. Lol danger, danger.

When you’re around family, wear simple clothes, don’t show them anything over the top or out of the ordinary, they’re your fam anyway so who cares what you look like around them. Obviously hiding this will be easier if you’ve got your own place. If you still live at home then you must hide your things and be careful you don’t go over the top with bringing new things home -nothing wrong with stashing and saving that cash anyway, you’ll appreciate and be proud of yourself for saving up so much. If you don’t want to make up a “cover up” job. Hopefully your parents won’t be well versed in high fashion and they won’t know the difference between Prada or Forever 21 or know how much better high end makeup is verses drugstore. Just keep the Loubs in the back of the closet, hide the cash, and when you’re around them, remember, you’re “broke”. ;) Hope I helped! Xo

[sugar-diploma]

When the time comes and he offers you an allowance and it’s too low, and you’d like to get more, it’s always awkward to say, uh that’s not enough can I have more? Or maybe you’re too nervous to ask for a higher number. I have this phase saved on my phone in my notes and it has worked every single...