Heart Triggers

Chealsy. 24. WI

[divine-noire]

I’m a lesbian and somehow I manage to walk down the street and not ogle women I find attractive, or cat call or degrade them, or touch them without permission, or interrupt their daily lives, it’s almost as if I’m treating them like human beings despite my attraction to them. What an insane concept.

[weareadvocates]

omg same

[notmadeofgold]

We were arguing about dress code in a meeting at work. And while my department knows I’m queer the other departments did not. As people (men) were saying that women showing skin and wearing tight clothes was distracting. I spoke up finally and said.

“I’m attracted to women.”

Everyone turned and looked at me and I was like “uhhh” so I finished.

“I’m attracted to women and I can still do my job. Regardless of what someone in my class is wearing. I can still teach. So why can’t you?”

The men all stayed silent.

[ohdarnitripped-deactivated20220]

I feel God and Sappho in this Chili’s tonight.

[stillinaclosetbunny-deactivated]

Same

[sorreleater]

honestly some of y’all want a significant other so badly and can’t understand why you can’t find one, but have no sense of boundaries or healthy expectations of what a relationship is like. in a committed long-term partnership you get left on read, you wait for texts back, and you can forget about each other when you’re busy. sometimes you fall asleep without saying goodnight and sometimes you’re too caught up to text each other before 6pm. that’s how it is. thinking that you can’t be deeply, beautifully in love and still wait more than “1.75 hours” for a text back is such an unhealthy and unreasonable expectation of what love is, and you shouldn’t be in a relationship if you can’t allow the other person to exist on their own apart from you. if you’re projecting your anxieties and insecurities onto a partner who doesn’t even exist yet, then you aren’t ready for one.

[bobertlutece]

this whole thing is way too good to be giffed you need to expirience it 

[lizatonix]

There are so many things that are TOP quality about this. The business with the mic rope. The bounding across the stage like an excited puppy or a newsie. The Voice™️ that is so synonymous with John, you know, the voice of a guy who sells ice cream at the soda fountain in the 50’s. The analogy itself.

It’s all so beautiful, such peak humor and content.

[mulaneysbutt]

Emmy Award Winning™️

[pharaohamunsadji]

I FOUND IT AGAIN.

[pomrania]

Here’s the “horse loose in a hospital” bit. Good news, it has closed captioning.

[callmesero]

IVE BEEN SEARCHING FOR LITERAL MONTHS HOLY SHIT

[sterrenkijker]

Pride month starts tomorrow, so I just want all my followers to know that this blog is entirely inclusive! so to bi/pan/aro/ace/trans/nb/queer people ESPECIALLY, I hope you all have a lovely pride month and I love you 🌈

[asphodehls-deactivated20210630]

April 30th: ♪ It’s gonna be May ♪

May 31st: ♪ It’s gonna be Gay ♪

[bibabebi]

Pride month

The month where the people that thought I couldn’t get any gayer watch the impossible become possible.

[neenyweeny]

HAPPY PRIDE

[a-gay-possum]

I’m ready

[valtsv]

i don’t want to look “hot” i want to look alluring, haunting, bewitching. i want to look like the kind of person hozier would write a song about.

[naturallytom]

hi can we normalize the idea of choosing not to drink

[cherryclit]

no cuz thats fucking lame

[fairy25]

hey it actually isn’t! i get really really sick whenever i have more than a beer or two and i absolutely hate how people assume i must be lame/a kill joy when i refuse a drink. people choose to be sober or mostly sober for a variety of reasons, e.g. addiction, medical, etc. and not a single one of them is “because i’m a lame person who hates fun” 

[love-god-herself-deactivated202]

The degree to which drinking is seen as a must in social situations is fucking weird, and I think the fact that people are more put off by non-drinkers than by how much alcohol consumption has permeated the culture is … troubling.

[starryystark]

YOU  *clap*  DONT  *clap*  HAVE  *clap*  TO  *clap*  DRINK  *clap* 

[angelchangsta]

Alcohol also kills serotonin. As a depressed bitch, the lows of the days after drinking isn’t worth the highs when I drink. My therapist says that as someone that suffers from depression, my serotonin level is already low. So when I do drink, my serotonin level drops dangerously low and it takes 3x longer to recover than a person that doesn’t suffer from depression.

[cartiercocaine-blog]

[moveslikejavertt]

Pick me up like this

[thepupupthere]

“That woman’s tongue can change my credit score.”

[acutelesbian]

Omfg

[feminismandmedia]

[shigure]

literally paramore was right

[nransworld]

about…?

[shigure]

name one thing paramore was wrong about

ill wait

[blackqueerblog]

Now this is the content I like to see .

[old-infatuationdear]

the whole gay cousin thing is outdated. i’m gay and i have a gay cousin. there’s two of us. we’re evolving.

[hey-ooo]

[abstractlesbian]

I hate when straight people talk about how we “should never assume anyone is gay!!” based on appearance/mannerism/behaviour/anything

But they never talk about how assuming everyone is straight is harming people!!!

Not letting us talk about gay aesthetics and traditions and culture is just another way to silence and isolate us :)

[clairesclitpiercing]

It’s so disingenuous, too. Like…I know I look gay, okay? I get called out and harassed by strangers all the time over my appearance. And I do most of it on purpose! This isn’t some high school movie ugly duckling narrative; lesbians aren’t awkward wallflowers wishing desperately that they could look like straight girls, if only they’d ever learned how. As if we could escape being taught! I’m a grown adult and I choose to look this way.

If you really don’t think there’s anything wrong with being gay, why do you think it’s the polite thing to pretend you don’t see it, especially since it’s how I wish to be seen?

[marlowelune]

This is such a good post, my god. Sometimes I feel so guilty for recognizing other queer folks by picking up the signals - aka, “assuming based on stereotypes” - but the reality is that most of us who do have those signs and signals are intentionally coding to find each other and be ourselves visibly and loudly.

[erinhatesthings]

TODAY MY STUDENT WORKER ASSUMED I WAS STRAIGHT AND I HAVE LITERALLY NEVER BEEN SO INSULTED

I DID NOT SHAVE TWO-THIRDS OF MY HEAD AND COME TO WORK IN A MEN’S SWEATER TO BE MISTAKEN FOR HETEROSEXUAL

[keeponshouting]

i remember a bunch of straight girls at work lamenting the fact that the new guy was gay and one of them was all “well, no one could have known until he said something!” and i was just like “yeah no. i knew the first time i interacted with him.” and they got so angry! how dare i make such assumptions! stereotyping is wrong! and just…look. i was the only out, loud, and proud queer person in the entire department when he arrived. we 100% exaggerate whatever personal characteristics match the stereotypes, especially when we’re entering new spaces, in order to send up a flare and draw the attention of our own kind. i saw that flare and sailed toward it ok? jeez. people aren’t just straight until proven gay, susan.

[mythicgeek]

i’m so glad someone put this into words. like, i hate the term gaydar now because it’s now synonymous to me with straights applying harmful stereotypes to non-straights. we don’t have gaydar in that sense. what we actually do is turn up our volume so other non-straights can hear and see us. queer-coding, in a sense. i mean, i can’t speak for everyone but that’s how it feels to me

[bluekhajiit111]

It’s honestly bad when I was waiting on this post to turn into something about how we shouldn’t think or do this and I was shocked when it didn’t.

I walk around looking pretty butch, with a hate that says equality on it with rainbow and an engagement ring from my girl and people still think I’m straight at times. Also I have an undercut for when I’m not wearing the hat, which is a snapback.

[heavensghost]