kingdom values.

4w5 // ENFJ // I fell in love with an INTP and it seems like it's gonna be for a long while.

[holl0w-existence-deactivated201]

If we date I’m going to always want to hear about your day and kiss you on you forehead

[kara-lesbihonest]

Send me a color

red: how was your first kiss? what do you love about yourself? when’s the last time you warmed your hands in front of a fire? would you rather watch a sunrise or sunset? what’s the best thing about summer?

orange: what makes you feel warm inside? what’s your favorite halloween tradition? what’s the last thing you learned? when’s the last time you felt obsessed? what’s your favorite article of clothing?

yellow: if you could have any view from your bedroom window what would you choose? what’s your favorite thing to do on a sunny day? what do you consider lucky? what made you smile today? what makes you happy?

green: what’s your favorite thing to do outside? do you like camping? what would you spend $1,000 on? what’s your job, or what do you want to do as your job? what’s your favorite article of clothing?

blue: what do you do when you’re sad? what are some things you do when you can’t sleep? what was the best (non-romantic) night you’ve had? what kind of covers do you have on your bed? who is the last person you told a secret to?

purple: what’s your astrological sign? what’s the best piece of advice you ever received? when’s the last time you followed your instincts? what’s your favorite food? what’s your secret dream?

[kawaii-mbti]

ENFJs be like

[chengfuy1]

Go away porn accounts. Honestly just leave me alone. When I see one I'm gonna block one ok?

[notanotherinfjblog]

The types as strangers I wish I had known

People are so beautiful in every way. I can’t help but love every single one of them. 

INTJ: She is a girl in one of my classes. I hardly ever talked to her, but she is an extremely interesting person. I can’t say what it is exactly, but she has this quiet self-confidence shining from within. It’s not this overbearing kind of confidence that some people rub into other people’s faces. Instead, she is confident in herself, in her own capabilities, and in the person that she is. She doesn’t seem to feel the need to look down on anyone. But despite this shining confidence, I noticed her insecurity and nervousness when she gave a presentation which happened to be about feminism and that made me like her even more. Yet these insecurities of other people’s judgements didn’t make her look fragile or vulnerable. Not at all. It was endearing in a way. Also, she is insanely beautiful and doesn’t seem to care about that at all. She’s like a quiet Arab princess that could totally kick your ass, both intellectually and physically. 

INTP: Over the last semesters, I attended some of the same classes as he did, but I’ve never talked to him. At the very beginning, I remember him sitting in the lecture halls watching animes on his laptop instead of paying attention. But over time, he became this nerd that raises his hand every few minutes to ask about something, starting with: “Concerning what you just said, I just thought about it and isn’t it possible that…” going into deep analyses. He drives some professors mad with his constant questioning of everything they say, but I also overheard some say that their seminars wouldn’t even work out without him. He’s also not afraid to burst out laughing in a quiet room or to tell a joke to a friend with shining eyes and such excitement (funny thing is, he is usually the one laughing harder about his own jokes than anyone else). He doesn’t seem to care at all what other people think of him, and that’s quite admirable. Generally, he’s like a Hermione Granger that isn’t driven at all, but rather studies just for his own entertainment. He’s probably one of the most intelligent people I’ve ever met.

ENTJ: I couldn’t figure him out. I don’t understand his reasons and it confuses me. He sat across from me on the train. And for twenty minutes, he sat there stiffly with his arms crossed and his head slightly tilted down. But whenever someone passed him, he closely watched them, followed them with his eyes without even raising his head. You could have mistaken his body language as submissive, but it really wasn’t. It was powerful. He was more of a rebel in disguise, waiting for his moment to shine while quietly judging people without being seen. But I don’t understand why anyone would cross their arms and bow their head like that on a normal train. People don’t do that. He must’ve had a reason. I spent way too much time already on finding that reason, but I’ll probably never know.

ENTP: I used to attend the same lecture he did and he was interesting from the minute he walked into the lecture hall. I usually sit in the last row where I can watch people without being seen like the creep that I am. He entered the lecture hall with this wild book-Harry-Potter-hair and with his hands on the straps of his backpack. He stood there for a bit gazing around, deciding where he should sit instead of just rushing in like everyone else. He had a constant grin on his face and laughing eyes even when he wasn’t laughing. There was always this little spark of amusement and quiet intelligence in his eyes. Sometimes he sat with friends. Then he would be the one joking around with this unusually expressive face of his. I don’t know, he just seemed like a genuinely nice guy with whom you could have the wildest and most interesting of conversations and always a good laugh.

INFJ: She is the girl in the mirror that doesn’t look like me. The image on the wall that is so familiar yet so strange, it knows about you. She knows who you are. She knows who you think you are, who you are trying to be, who you might be one day. She knows. She has always known. And that scares the hell out of you. She smiles at you, trying to ease the discomfort she’s causing you. She tries to make you laugh. She tries to make you smile, to make you happy. She tries to protect you. But who is she? Who is this strange girl in the mirror with the long wild hair and cheekbones as sharp as her tongue? What’s behind the smiling eyes, what’s going on inside this head of hers? Will I ever know?

INFP: We were on a ship, headed to a little island in the North Sea. He was travelling with his wife and his two daughters. His blonde hair was slowly turning grey and the smile wrinkles around his eyes were deep. In the two hours that I saw him, he hardly said a word, but he was always present. He paid attention to the harmless fights his teenage daughters had. He listened to his wife talking to some strangers about how great the holiday will be. And I’ve never seen a more endearing laughter than the quiet one that made his shoulders shake up and down while having his eyes closed, deepening the already deep wrinkles around his eyes. His laughter didn’t make a sound, but it was like the whole ship stopped and noticed his calm little joy. I’ve never looked into kinder eyes than his.

ENFJ: He is the greatest mystery of all. He is a walking contradiction. Both confident and shy, both intimidating and approachable, both extroverted and reserved. But how does that make sense? His eyes are like X-rays. He looks you in the eye and it’s like he can see right through every wall you ever built around yourself, like he has figured you out in a second, and he seems intrigued. When around other people, he is the one trying everything to keep the conversation going, trying to make the other smile, to make them laugh. He tends to be the centre of attention and he appears to like that, but only for a short while until he withdraws and stares intensely into space. He is the kind of guy that is liked by everyone and still is an enigma that no one really knows anything about. His presence is calm, like snow quieting down the world, and then he looks at you and you feel like you are the only person in the room. And if you look into his eyes, eyes that look so much older than the body they belong to, if you look past the kindness and self-doubt in them, you see a shy little muffin that just wants to love and be loved. We never spoke a word, but I love him more than I can say.

ENFP: We were on a ship, headed back from this holiday island that I love so much. I was travelling alone and the ship was overcrowded, so this woman asked if she and her daughter could sit at my table. Her daughter was about twelve, maybe thirteen years old and such a free spirit that it made me laugh inside because it kept annoying her mother so much. “Do you have your shirt on back to front?” “I don’t know.” “Yes, you do. You can’t walk around like that. Go and put it on properly.” “Why? I don’t care.” “But everyone’s staring at you! What will they think of us?” “No one’s looking, mum, because no one cares. I think I’m gonna go outside and look at the waves for a bit. See you later.” She then stood up and loped out of the room with her wildly swinging ponytail while I was left with her baffled mother.

ISTJ: I see her twice a week on the train early in the morning when she is probably on her way to work. She is always neatly dressed and her short hair looks on point every time. I’m not quite sure what it is about her that makes her so interesting. It’s her whole demeanor. How she walks upright with her head held high. How she looks at all kinds of people in an interested way. How she always keeps a straight face. She seems so pragmatic, down to earth, and smart. She kind of radiates a No-shit-Sherlock-vibe that makes her seem like a tough boss that is respected by everyone and that is, deep down, actually really good at heart.

ESTJ: She was a lioness. She was strong and she was kind. I left the bus at the same station as she and her disabled daughter did, and I walked behind them for a minute or two. And I saw nothing but love. They seemed very close and they were both laughing about something. Her daughter was all grown up and didn’t really need any help with anything, but her mother was always there, just in case. Not in a condescending way, not at all. It was more like her daughter was her world and everything she saw, everything she wanted to see. But at the same time, she respected her enough to suppress her motherly instincts and let her daughter go her own way. She decided to be on the sidelines of her daughter’s life and to be there for her when she needs her. And I think that’s beautiful. 

ISFJ: Every time I happened to see them, I’ve never seen them apart from each other. When I watch a couple interact, I can usually immediately tell how the relationship is going and if it is going to last. Often, I can say that two people may love each other, and that they might stay together for a few months or for a year or two, but in the end, they won’t work out. Then, occasionally, very rarely so, there are these two people and it’s so obvious that these two are good. That they found the one and that they are so perfect together that you just want to cry looking at them because they are so beautiful together. This is the kind of couple I’m talking about here. They are still very young, maybe twenty or twenty-one, I don’t know. But that doesn’t matter, that doesn’t mean anything. Even if they are just silently standing next to one another, they are like the same person in two bodies. They are inseparable. When they are on the bus and she’s looking out of the window with these curious, shining eyes while he is only looking at her and smiles, when they are standing at the train station and make each other laugh so hard that both of them have to lean onto each other, I see that their love for each other is so pure and infinite, that it’s unconditional and omnipresent. They look so genuinely happy just to be with the other that it makes me happier than anything else. 

ESFJ: Every other morning I see him drive his wife to the train station where he waits with her until the train arrives and she has to leave. They hold hands and laugh together about something while they wait. They try to spend every bit of the day possible with each other and they look so happy together. But then the train rolls in and she kisses him goodbye and she smiles at him and he smiles back. While I get on the train after his wife, I see him standing at the station until the train finally leaves. He waves at her one last time through the window until he turns and goes back to his car with a sad smile on his face. You know, I like to compare his love for his wife to a dog. Imagine a fluffy Golden Retriever that whimpers when he realises that you have to leave, and that jumps into your face out of joy as soon as you come back to him. That’s exactly what he is. He’s a Golden Retriever.

ISTP: I saw her on the train. She sat there all alone with a bottle of Vodka and a notebook peeking out from her backpack. She had wild curly hair, a nose ring and lots of freckles. During the twenty minutes she sat across from me, she was staring into space and was lost in thought. She was intense in every way. She was an incredibly strong lone wolf that reminded me so much of Sarah Manning, for those great people of you who have seen Orphan Black. I felt like, in a book, she’d be the underdog that needs to be reckoned with if you want to survive her once you angered her or laid hand on someone she cares about. 

ESTP: He sat across from me on the train. I didn’t dare to really observe him as he was so present and observing himself that I didn’t want to give the wrong impression and creep him out. Because his constantly smirking eyes were all over the place. He looked out of the window, he watched people in their seats, he looked at me, he looked at the floor, he pensively stared at nothing. I could see that he was lost in thought, yet he was never absent-minded, and that was confusing. Absent-minded people are easy to watch and to analyse, but not him. He was thinking, but he still noticed. He noticed every little thing that happened around him and it was fascinating and intimidating at the same time.

ISFP: I was on a long-distance train at night on the way home from Paris, and for most of the time, I only saw him as a reflection on the windows. He was travelling alone with nothing but a backpack, slouching in his seat and half asleep. I don’t know, he just seemed like this kind of lone wolf who goes where the wind blows and doesn’t care what other people think about him, if his beard is getting too long, if he is drooling in his sleep, if people judge him for being who he is. He did his own thing and lived the life he wanted to. I hope he does.

ESFP: It was 7:30am when I saw her crying on the train. She wasn’t a mess. She just sat there in the train packed full of people and cried shamelessly and with dignity. I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone look so sad, and I wish there was anything I could have done, but she didn’t seem to need any comfort. She sat there and accepted the fact that the was crying in front of lots of strangers. She had tears streaming down her face, but she held her head up high and didn’t care. There was a quiet strength behind her eyes that I admired so much.

(I’m very sorry if you got the impression that I might live on a train. Feels like it sometimes, though.)

[chengfuy1]

Rant:

At this moment, I'm pretty much pissed off. I believe the reason injustice is still around is because people dwindle their fingers and pretend nothing ever happened. Today has basically just justified my beliefs. Longline summary is basically a heavily drunk man fucking around on a train messing with everyone while thinking it as a funny joke. Nice. Second point, police was involved. Third point, people around me don't care someone's about to have their boobs grasped, albeit I wasn't touched there. I was about to punch a cunt. But here's the thing. The train's packed with people and you expect people to help. But no. People be sitting down pretending nothing ever happened while the guy was harassing me. Even more infuriating is they allowed it to happen, twice. Whatever you're gonna say, that I was overreacting or I should have taken it like a civil-- okay, look. That same guy harassed my mate too, pushed him to the door in the train compartment. It's hard to not be red in the face with anger at this point. I told myself if it happened a third time, cunt can touch my fist and fuck my boot. No seriously. Welp, time to take self-defense classes. I'm not letting some random drunken motherfucker wipe his shitty hands on me ever fucking again and think he can get away with his pettiness. But yet again, I'm not going to rely on anyone for my safety.

[jspark3000]

I Believe It Is Enough.

[jspark3000]

I believe it is enough to know that God loves you.

Right where you are.

Before you got there.

And after you leave.

The simple truth: I am loved, no matter what, and that’s enough.

Jesus tells us that the itchy, pervasive, persistent gap of “never-enough” is probably true, because we’ll never be enough on our own.

But I believe He’s enough for me, so I don’t have to be.

I believe, yet again and again, that He loves you. He loves me. That is enough, for another day. It is enough for today.

— J.S.

[nauticalneurotic]

Stay away from people who make you feel like you are hard to love.

(via nauticalneurotic)

[bpdlavender]

someone: speaks louder than normal with a slightly aggressive tone me: here come the tears

[mbtilluminati]

me: you should look into mbti!

my friend, a clear ENFJ: I took the test, and I’m INFP! haha it’s so accurate

me:

[chengfuy1]

Me initially

[foreveranevilregal]

Your ENFJ Care and Handling User Guide and Manual

Part of a series by @intpboard

Congratulations! You have been chosen by an ENFJ to be an important person in their life. Your ENFJ comes in color coordinated and aesthetically pleasing packaging perfectly suited to both your and their needs. Although your ENFJ does not need to be cared for in the traditional sense, here are a few tips to ensure the most harmonious interactions with your newfound extroverted idealist.

Your ENFJ comes with:

Ten (10) color coordinated outfits

 Twelve (12) small fluffy animals of your ENFJ’s preference

One (1) large box tea assortment

 One (1) soapbox for speechmaking purposes

One (1) electronic device for constant communication with others

One (1) newspaper subscription (most likely electronic) for staying up-to-date on current events and world affairs

Two (2) bookshelves filled with various types of literature

One (1) etiquette manual. Your ENFJ has never read it, nor have they ever felt the need to, but it has been included for your benefit.

One (1) burning life purpose that will Make the World a Better Place.

Custom upgrades: Your ENFJ will have some sort of creative hobby. Musical instruments, microphones, art implements, writing implements, and/or athletic equipment may also be included.

Software

Your ENFJ comes preprogrammed with the following traits;

Fe: Your ENFJ has an innate sense of how interpersonal affairs function and how one should navigate them. Keenly concerned with the state of others, both loved ones and humanity as a whole, your ENFJ strives to do what is best for others and maintain peace in their relationships. Your ENFJ will motivate, encourage, compliment, support, and comfort other people. Open communication is very important to your ENFJ, and trust is paramount.

Ni: Not only does your ENFJ care immensely about others, but they know exactly how to improve their lives. ENFJ units come with a preinstalled “life purpose” program that presses upon them a deep burden to improve the state of the world in some way that is uniquely suited to their individual talents and abilities. Usually, this improvement can be directly connected to other people in some way. Do not try to argue the life purpose with your ENFJ. They have reflected upon it deeply and are certain that this is in fact what they want to do with their lives.

Se: Your ENFJ is aware of the world around them and its various sensory details. They are action-oriented and will take initiative to implement their plans for a better future. Generally, they will have good reflexes and appreciate pleasant and organizes surroundings. Decent at multitasking. Sometimes they will take too much upon themselves, which can lead to burnout.

Ti: This function acts as a filter for Fe and ensures that your ENFJ’s words and actions are logically consistent, accurate, and appropriate. Depending on the particular ENFJ that has chosen you, the Ti filter may function properly to balance Fe, or it may malfunction and either be overly manifested in critical attitudes or be entirely absent and lead to irrational behavior.

Getting Started

1. Activate electronic device and place in your ENFJ’s hand.

2. Make your ENFJ a cup of tea (preferably herbal).

3. Wait for the electronic device to register attempted communication from others.

4. Allow your ENFJ to drink tea and communicate with others until fully charged.

5. If step 4 does not work, initiate a form of physical contact, such as hugging or cuddling, with your ENFJ.

6. If for some reason your ENFJ is averse to physical contact, repeat step 4 but with the small fluffy animals arranged around them.

Modes

Friend Mode (default): Your ENFJ will want to befriend everyone they encounter. They will ask thoughtful and personalized questions to get to know the other person and want to establish a positive relationship with them.

Mom Mode (default): Your ENFJ is very concerned about others and whether or not they are taking care of themselves. Can often be found inquiring whether others have eaten, hydrated, slept enough, finished that thing they were procrastinating, are wearing weather appropriate clothing, have taken relevant medications, etc. Your ENFJ will do this regardless of whether the other person is younger or old enough to be their own mother.

Teacher Mode (default): Your ENFJ enjoys learning about the world, and sharing that knowledge even more so. They can often be found recounting an interesting article they read the other day or a cool discovery in a field that they like. Can be triggered by the phrase “I don’t understand…”. Your ENFJ will explain things in a way that you will understand. ENFJs are also prone to turning a difficult situation into a Teaching Moment.

Counselor Mode: Activated when someone is going through a difficult situation. Self-taught psychologists, ENFJ units innately understand how people work and will generally know how to be more helpful. Your ENFJ will validate and affirm the hurting individual and usually leave them feeling better. Warning: your ENFJ may give advice more than is necessary if relying too heavily on Fe and not enough on Ni.

Superhero Mode: Activated under stress. ENFJs have a habit of taking on more than they can carry, and it eventually takes a toll. Your ENFJ will insist that they are fine. Their eyes will glaze over and twitch if you question them about their activities. Asking them how they plan to sustain this schedule will probably induce tears. Beware. Your ENFJ has entered full delusion.

Pseudo-Introvert Mode: Activated under severe stress. Your ENFJ has become so overwhelmed that they are shutting down. Characterized by refusal to socialize, a marked reduction in activities, and unusual silence in their presence. Symptoms also include grumpiness, calmness, an insistence that they are “just tired” or that “it’s been a long week”, and increased need for sleep. Seek help for your ENFJ if they start to claim that they don’t need others.

Manipulative Dictator Mode: If your ENFJ gains pleasure from controlling others or getting them to do things according to their will which others may not have chosen on their own, they are unhealthy. Perform a diagnostic check to ensure that all functions are in working order. Detoxification of Fe or Ni may be necessary.

Relationships with Other Units

NF: The easiest for your ENFJ to communicate with due to their naturally flowing and symbol-laden speech. Your ENFJ will appreciate their idealism and encourage them to follow their dreams.

NT: Slightly more challenging due to the strict rationalism present in NTs, but can get along on a conceptual basis if their ideas are complementary. Your ENFJ secretly admires NTs but knows that they can never admit it to one.

SJ: Can be somewhat difficult to communicate with due to the concrete and direct style these types employ, but your ENFJ will love them all the same and appreciate their loyalty.

SP: Your ENFJ will be fascinated by SPs and how they can do things so easily, and will want to hang out with them all the time. Do not let the SPs talk your ENFJ into skydiving. They’ll claim they can handle it until they start screaming halfway out of the plane.

Feeding

Your ENFJ will claim that they have transcended basic human needs such as food. Your ENFJ is a liar who will get very cranky if they forget to eat. A glazed over expression, extended silence, or general withdrawnness can often be attributed to hunger. Feed regularly. Chocolate non-optional.

Grooming

ENFJs are generally fastidious about personal hygiene and have established a personal style of clothing/accessories/makeup. May occasionally leave the house without an accessory or mismatched shoes. If they are busy, help them by organizing the outfit they have chosen and ensuring that every component is there.

Sleeping

Your ENFJ will eschew sleep, as it limits time that could be spent socializing and doing things. Remind your ENFJ what happened the last time they slept less than 6 hours and that sleeping now will help them function better tomorrow.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is my ENFJ really that excited?

Generally, yes. ENFJs look for the bright side in every situation, and tend to genuinely enjoy the things they claim to enjoy. Lack of affinity for something will be signaled by a neutral yet diplomatic statement.

Does my ENFJ actually like me if they claim to love everyone?

You bet. ENFJs are very particular about being authentic in their remarks, and will tend to give praise specifically tailored to an individual. They will not tell you you’re a great athlete if you’re not. That being said, ENFJs look for the good in everyone and usually manage to find it. So yes, they do love everyone.

But if my ENFJ lives to care for others, they surely must not need care?

That’s where you’re wrong. Although ENFJs derive the most pleasure from caring for others, they need affirmation and appreciation to keep going and feel like their efforts aren’t in vain. Be sure to regularly tell your ENFJ how much you appreciate what they do for you. You might find yourself with a pleasant surprise if you do.

My ENFJ isn’t being very nice.

ENFJs are emotional, caring beings. They are not always nice. They try to be, but sometimes they snap. It’s only because they’ve been trying to keep it inside. Encourage your ENFJ to talk about negative feelings openly (this may take some persuasion, as ENFJs like to ignore negative feelings and pretend they don’t exist) to prevent such an explosion.

[chengfuy1]

ENFJ Loops:

Ni: Okay, time to study. Our objective is to learn the material, understand it, and do well on the exam so you get a high GPA and solid foundation for the future.

Fe: And then we'll be able to help people!

Ni: Exactly. Go get Se.

Se: *crashes in on a motorcycle* Someone call me?

Ni: Yeah, the plan is to study and we need you to retain this information here.

Se: That sounds boring. I think I'm gonna watch TV. Or exercise. Or reorganize the apartment. Or cook. Or take a shower. Or-

Ni: We get it, just do the thing.

Se: *sneaky look* Hey Fe, you know what's a lot more fun than memorizing signal transduction pathways? Talking to that friend you haven't talked to in 5 months.

Fe: *uneasily* I don't know, Se...that only makes me happy, whereas my studying would make me happy and my parents happy and maybe even other people...

Se: But studying sucks NOW. Let's do something that is fun NOW. Oh look, your favorite person messaged you. Reply.

Fe: Favorite person! *heart eyes* HI FAVORITE PERSON!

Ni: Guys-

Fe/Se: *carry out a 2 hour long conversation with favorite person*

Ni: We should really stu-

Fe/Se: *have struck up 3 more conversations and are riding the merry-go-round of socialization addiction and burnout*

Ni: Desperate times call for desperate measures. *clears throat* YOU'RE GONNA FAIL AND NOT GET INTO GRAD SCHOOL AND THEN YOU WON'T HAVE A FUTURE AND THEN, FE, NO ONE WILL LOVE YOU, AND YOU, SE, WILL ALL THE TV HAVE BEEN WORTH IT THEN, HMM? *stomps away, muttering under breath* No one ever listens to me, I swear to God...

Fe: Panic mode?

Se: Panic mode. *runs around screaming*

Ti: If I may offer a suggestion as to how to best solve this problem- *sees chaos* Never mind. *falls back asleep*

[atimelyflipper]

I has a theory

Summary of common attitudes towards one’s function stack -

Dom function: Want to use it reasonably

Aux function: Want to show it off

Tert function: Don’t want to use it badly

Inf function: Try to use it lots

[ill-be-istj-if-no-one-else-is]

This is pretty accurate for me

[enfjmusings]

Interesting take

[the-anomalous-infj]

ENFJs I’ve Met (by an INFJ)

What I noticed and observed about them: (3 FEMALES & 3 MALES)

Almost all of the ENFJs I know are extremely approachable and friendly. They’re like a breath of fresh air. Their vibes are just so nice and infectious. 

However, two of the ENFJ females I know may seem snobbish at first–probably due to their second dominant function; Ni (which causes them to overthink and not be aware of their face). I highly doubt they mean it though–their caring actions say otherwise, anyway. 

When you converse with them, you’ll notice that they have this glow in their face that just makes you want to keep talking. They have the ability to make people feel comfortable and special.

They mold themselves as they talk to people. They know what the other person is into or what the other person is going through–and they will use their interpersonal skills to know exactly what to talk about. And how to act. They are the ultimate chameleons.

They hold onto what they feel is right and wrong, and will feel insulted/disgusted if they see other people not behaving in a way that they don’t believe in–but will keep it to themselves to avoid conflict (unless they are the more assertive ENFJs).

Almost all of the ones I know are musically-inclined and love using their music abilities to gather people together and jam with them; or well, to impress their crushes. 

 The ENFJ guys I know are the “larger-than-life” type of guys. They really stand out because of their lively, childish, yet determined personality.

Most of the ENFJs I know are charismatic. When they talk, people quiet down because they know that they have something meaningful to say. Or derpy. There is no in-between.

These are the peacemakers. Sure, they have strong opinions– but they’re mostly focused on what’s good for everyone. They don’t like taking sides because they want to be fair; and want to take the time to understand both.

Some of the ENFJs I know don’t really know themselves. They aren’t the most introspective individuals since they focus more on others–so sometimes this may lead to them not knowing much about what they truly like. I remember one of my ENFJ friends was asked what her favorite music genre was by an acquaintance– and she didn’t know how to answer; like she was afraid that she’d end up saying the wrong genre.

They actually rant a lot to their close friends about how they truly feel about certain people–but when they are faced with the people they were ranting about–they act as if they hadn’t said anything bad about them behind their back…and what more is that they act like they’re best friends with them. Their chameleon skills are impressive.

They aren’t as organized as ESFJs, but they have their own way of being organized. They’re just much more chill than ESFJs. And forgetful.

Seeing them in action is so entertaining. Organizing events, talking to people, helping people, reciting in class. It’s like they were born to make the world a much easier place.

Some of the ENFJs I know had a difficult time getting out of toxic relationships. They wouldn’t give up on their significant other even if the bad outweighed the good in the relationship. They really do focus on the good of people.

Some of the ENFJs I know could be mistaken for being flirty because they don’t ever turn off their charm (even when they’re uninterested). And this could lead the trouble if they aren’t single.

ENFJs are softies at heart. I swear, they have a lot of love to share. Even if they don’t show it–you’ll notice it eventually. They love romantic movies! (Even the guys) Such a giveaway. 

Well, what do you guys think? Agree or disagree? :)

P.S. I created an “About Me” page on my blog so check it out if you’d like to know a bit more about the girl behind this blog :) http://the-anomalous-infj.tumblr.com/aboutme

[chengfuy1]

The cores of the extraverted types

ENFJ: Self-control

ENFP: Self-contentment

ENTJ: Self-awareness

ENTP: Self-confidence

ESFJ: Self-esteem

ESTJ: Self-respect

ESFP: Self-expression

ESTP: Self-mastery

[estpadventures]

Tertiary Fe

tertiary Fe is the worst and must be stopped seriously my logical analysis of things is fine but noooooooo we have to be nice to people

[enfjmusings]

I LOVE THIS

[chengfuy1]

"I WANT TO PUNCH YOU IN THE GUTS BUT I CAN'T BECAUSE I'M WAY TOO FUCKING NICE AND I HATE IT AND I HATE IT EVEN MORE AFTER I PUNCH YOU AND I START CRYING ON THE FLOOR THEN THE DAY AFTER I SEND YOU CHOCOLATE AND A GET WELL CARD AT THE HOSPITAL AND I ABSOLUTELY HATE THAT IT'S REALITY."

[jspark3000]

The truth is: Doubt is not a “sin.” It’s great to have a vibrant, robust, thriving sort of faith, and God wants that for you. But our deepest roots are born out of the winter nights when we’ve had to dig into the shallow dirt of our infant beliefs and reach into the soil of our most core foundations.True faith, the kind that perseveres through pain and trials and urgency, takes a surgical navigation through all the very difficult questions of life. Only doubts will ever get you to ask them.When pain hits home and you’re walking through that cancer or car accident or earthquake, you want the kind of faith that can face death. In the end, I want a faith that doesn’t just tickle my inspiration or gives me cute slogans, but a faith that can get beat up by suffering and scholars and satanic evil, and will keep on standing.There are too many Christians who don’t really dig to the bottom of what they believe, so that when tragedy comes, they wonder how their concept of God could ever allow such misery. This quickly turns into a toxic disillusionment because their faith was never nuanced enough to deal with the gray-space struggle of real life. It’s not that their God was not big enough, but rather much too small.

J.S. Park (via jspark3000)