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Margaret | March 25 | She/Her Writer | Artist | Fangirl INFJ | Aries/Pisces Cusp Please feel free to message me! I promise I don't bite! Links: ao3 | twitter | instagram | ko-fi

[libraford]

Legit starting to wonder if like... i come across as less calm/neutral than I do on my head because I feel like im saying normal things but some people are having weird reactions to stuff i say.

So like... i have that psychosis thing sometimes and I wonder if like... in my head everything is calm and rational but maybe im actually screaming obscenities or something.

Like yesterday a lady complained that the bridge needed services and I told her that that was the services department and she should submit a complaint to the website and she got mad at me because she thought since it was a bike trail it was parks and like...

... what if I accidentally screamed 'thats not my fucking job' or something.

[akinmytua2]

I mean you can record yourself? I know that helps people who have visual hallucinations. Like they hold up a phone to see if the thing they see us actually there

[libraford]

I could start doing that. I mean, I thought i was really calm in the video I recorded of that one heckler at pride, but i also didnt show it to anyone.

But it also happens in written stuff too like... i feel like my tone is getting interpreted as insulting a lot and it could be that people are just haters, but sometimes I wonder, you know?

[leojulius13]

A friend of mine told me the other day that they’ve started doing “tone checks” with their partner, like if you aren’t sure if your partner is Using A Tone you can ask for a tone check and they can clarify if they meant for there to be a tone, or if they thought they were coming off as neutral. It’s helped them reduce tone-based misunderstandings by a lot!

They didn’t mention if they used it for texting or not, but it seems like it could be useful there as well.

Alas that doesn’t help with people complaining to you at work, or strangers online, but may be helpful with personal relationships! And possibly over time it can give you data points on how people are hearing your tone.

[libraford]

I do have tone checks when im writing like... important emails. I dunno. I think i just end up talking to a bunch of entitled people or something

[ineffectualdemon]

Ok so I have been told that I sound super angry and pissed off all my life. I have also been told by mental health professionals that I have a naturally flat affect in speaking

I do on a daily basis modulate my tone to be more "energetic" and "upbeat" because I get better reactions when I do. It's also fucking exhausting

So I reach points where I just can't do that anymore and revert to my normal tone. And even my husband tenses up when I start until I say "I'm not mad, I'm just not masking"

So I actually recorded just the audio of myself speaking. Just speaking to myself and I finally heard it

When I am flat affect I sound so very angry and fed up with everything

And now that I can hear it I can account for it when speaking and either mask (with strangers) or just say "I'm flat affect not angry"

I call it resting bitch voice

So I don't know if that's your issue but that's what I got going on and it may be relevant

[bannertanks]

[yellydany]

Suicune taking a nap in the forest💧🌾

[aropride]

why is there an upgrade button on gmail. why does twitter want me to scan my palm to get into my account. why is google a chatbot. why does the transit app make a transit app wrapped for me. why does youtube keep shoving its infinitely scrollable shortform content down my throat. why do my doctor and psychiatrist and therapist want to use an ai notetaker during our appointments. why do free trials want my credit card number. why are most scholarship websites just data brokers. how do i make capitalone stop sending me mail. why is my school making its own special chat gpt powered chatbot. why is every third video on instagram an undisclosed ad. why is nothing online real anymore. why is everything so FUCKING STUPID

[muqington]

You can force CapitalOne to stop sending you credit card offers by putting yourself on the opt-out list. It is ridiculous that we have to do this, but I highly recommend doing so. I haven't received a single offer since a week after opting out.

You can opt-out for 5 years or forever.

Here's a government website article about it that has other opt-out options for things like the do-not-call list and other kinds of mail listed at the bottom. But here's the direct link to the opt-out website for pre-approved credit card offers.

Fuck CapitalOne. It should be illegal to send mail that looks like official government documents to try and get you to sign up for their credit cards.

[mysterycat-official]

I lowkey hate when programs talk to me in a friendly way. "don't worry, nearly there!" Shut up. It should say "loading 64.3% completed. Do not turn off device" and absolutely nothing else. You arent my friend you are computer. Act like it

[eliounora]

most surprising things I've ended up doing ever since moving into my apartment with a little yard:

- digging out a small drain so that the water coming out of the gutter flows further into the yard and not directly onto my lawn, turning it into a green, stinky moss field

- stabbing the ground with a pitchfork and spreading sand into the little holes so that the dirt absorbs water better and allows my plants and grass to grow

- i don't mow the lawn myself (housing management pays for it) but since it's such a small area I've crawled on the ground with long gardening scissors and cut the overgrown grass

- understanding why dads care so much about their lawns

[eliounora]

- I don't mind other plants growing among the lawn but I don't like fleaworts. I've, again, crawled on my hands and knees digging them out

- another weed I have a problem with is raspberry that keeps trying to grow absolutely everywhere. its roots have taken over the yard. I did not think a plant could make me this angry

- the yard has shrubs for fencing and within the shrubs lives a nasty-looking phallic-shaped mushroom that smells horrible. research has proven it to be a species of stinkhorn that is rare in finland. I did not think a mushroom could make me this angry

[iwannabeaswampwitch]

Lots of drama in our household

[melveevoicestudios]

Gotta love some out of context @therealjacksepticeye meme formats.

Trees Hate You

[peachfromcmbyn]

People on Tumblr love sharing information about themselves no matter how asinine it is. And I'm the same way. Everybody tell me what the last thing you drank was.

[inbabylontheywept]

so i made a potpourri with cinnamon and nutmeg and ginger and cloves and orange peel and anise and i have boiled it all day and it smelled so nice i took a sip and the sip was actually wonderful so now i have drunk four cups of potpourri juice and i am only now going to the internet to ask if i am going to Experience The Torments. or if i may have a fifth.

(i cannot quite explain it, but it’s like my entire low i have had a low grade stomachache, and normally i just deal but This Juice helps a little. i am unreasonably fond of it.)

[a-purely-objective-frog]

"I just made herbal tea is it safe to drink" is the most mormon-raised shit I have ever seen.

Fr tho u should be fine, it's normal to enjoy tea, and it doesn't generally lead to The Torments, barring some kind of allergy

[inbabylontheywept]

😔 highly specific and accurate roast

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Left for a week and almost missed the historic event of the Tumblr Sexyman Final Vote.

[clingyduoapologist]

The tragedy of Marinette Dupain Cheng is that being ladybug is extremely bad for her precisely because she’s so good at it

[chibiosaka]

Miraculous Ladybug is about what if you gave a girl with extreme anxiety the superhuman capability to actually prepare for every scenario of What Could Go Wrong

[ampervadasz]

[artsekey]

As a reminder, if you're At Your Desk a lot (for 6+ hour sessions), you need to get an ergonomic chair.

But Artsekey, what is an ergonomic chair?

They're chairs designed and tested to support the user during prolonged use. This means they minimize strain on certain areas of the body and can significantly minimize the risk of injury.

Oh, so like a gamer chair?

A lot of "gamer" brand chairs aren't actually ergonomic-- buyer beware. They look cool, but they charge a premium and don't do anything for your spine.

I just looked it up, and most of them are over $1000. No thanks!

I know, I know. They're expensive. But:

'm so serious when I say that if you are a professional working at your computer for long hours, this is not optional. It's a matter of your health and wellbeing. Source: my physical therapist after I tore a muscle in my back (agonizing!!! put me ON THE FLOOR!!!!) because I sat in the wrong chair too long.

2. They don't have to be that expensive!

If you have a Best Buy or (even better) an Office Depot in your area, pop in. They have a ton of ergonomic chairs on the floor and each has a tag that lists it's rating. I got my dinky chair for (that's rated for 12 hours of use!!!) for about $170, which would be about $220 today. That is a steal for a chair that has this rating.

You can also keep an eye out for them at garage sales + hang around universities during move-out.

If they don't have a tag, what should I look for?

Five points of articulation:

elbow height

chair height

back depth

lumbar support

backrest angle.

Mesh backing or high-quality cushion.

To be fair, my chair (that I love) does not have many of those points of articulation (which is probably why it was cheaper). However, I had access to the rating report and it has proved to be a great purchase.

You seem weirdly passionate about this...?

I don't want anyone else to wind up writing in agony on the floor because they were shrimpin'.

[the-lemonaut]

Solarpunk, realism, dystopia: a rant

Hopefully this is helpful to someone out there 🌸

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[dorothygale]

pop health science is so annoying bc it'll be like "did you know? eating strawberries will give you mega cancer" and you're like pfft whatever begone influencer. but sometimes then you'll see a reasonably credible article like "Study Shows Possible Link Between Strawberries and Mega Cancer" and you're not usually the type to follow that kind of thing religiously but idk maybe you should consider not eating strawberries? but then there's another article saying "Strawberry/Mega Cancer Study Debunked" and it turns out the original study had a sample size of 3 and was funded by Big Blueberry, and strawberries may have a small connection to mega cancer but only if you are genetically predisposed to mega cancer and eat 50 strawberries every day. so you return to your strawberry eating life. but whenever you eat strawberries in public someone tells you about the mega cancer.

[sphyrne]

she

[kactusnz]

#oh SO true#discworld#you've nailed it op that's it exactly#she is a prophet of retribution set aglow from within by the fury of her righteousness#and he's in the dictionary next to the word 'scrungly'

[maryellencarter]

this captures their kermit and miss piggy energy better than anything else i've ever seen