A Mess™

how much longer, Frances?

[cendaya]

LV Cruise 2017

[savcreeps-deactivated20190505]

Bite me💀

[pluckyparrots]

[coinfarts]

This bird looks like a good listener & a compassionate friend 

[vinesnow]

[eroscestlavie]

this week on "do not let them thrive"

• art men getting their mfa who dress just weird enough and are just soft enough in their masculinity to come off as sortta queer but who only sleep with skinny cis women and, beyond that, definitely use their softness as a ploy to draw women to them, AND, beyond that, definitely also sleep with a lot of women artists and quietly devalue their work whenever possible, writing it off as “about feminism” or “pretty good formally but not very conceptual”

[adrianainla]

[livefromthe714]

who is this?

[beyonseh]

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Barriers to Success

1. Seeing success as being determined by external factors. (So if I fail it’s circumstances or someone else’s fault.) This takes away my sense of power and keeps me stuck in failure and helplessness.

2. Personal blind spots. Sometimes we keep failing but we’re blind to the fact that there’s something we’re doing that is causing us to fail. That could be related to our communication style, our attitudes, lack of knowledge and ability, pursuing something that doesn’t suit our gifts and talents, and so on.

3. Self sabotage. Sometimes we don’t feel we deserve to succeed so unconsciously we do something that causes us to fail. This includes meditating on self-limiting thoughts (Eg, “I could never …; I don’t deserve …”).

4. Feeling ambivalent about the goals you’ve set. We often set a goal that is someone else’s goal so we’re not really sure if it’s what we want ourselves. That affects our motivation, and our will to succeed.

5. Fear of change. All successes bring some change – and that can feel quite threatening. And we’re often comfortable with our life as it is now – and so we wonder if success will really make us happier.

6. Pressure from others who don’t want you to succeed. It’s very common for our peers to be threatened by success, and we know they’ll be sarcastic or mean if we succeed. Hence, we don’t try our hardest as we recognise the cost will be social isolation, or rejection by our friends.

[pettylifepresident]

[captioned-miscellaneous-videos]

1: “I’m just gonna get one large dark roast.”

2: “Boi! You no good, ugly-ass, worthless piece of shit, Dave Mathews Band looking motherfu- “

[brownskinhoe-blog]

[observando]

[babycrawlingveryfast-deactivate]

there is a common thread that I’ve noticed among women wherein many of us (rightfully) believe ourselves to be good girlfriends and wives. and this isn’t without reason. entering into a romantic relationship and we naturally mold ourselves to our partners wants and needs. we think, I’m going to throw the shirt they left here in the wash so they don’t have to worry about cleaning it later. I’m going to pick up ingredients at the market for their favorite meal and make it for them. I’m going to leave a glass of water on their nightstand for when they wake up. I’m going to inconvenience myself in this small way in order to make their life marginally easier. these sacrifices hardly even feel like sacrifices. if anything they’re pleasurable: their happiness is your happiness. and yet it’s clear to me that this is a particularly deeply entrenched tendril of socialization. men rarely think like this, rarely reorient their thinking so radically when in a relationship. it presents a dilemma for women. you can either continue being overtly caring and nurturing, even if it’s not reciprocated or even necessarily appreciated, or you can actively become more withholding, which is emotionally taxing in its own right. what can you do. womanhood is synonymous with dissatisfaction and disillusionment

[selene-the-dragon-princess-deac]

Remember that movie in which Jack Black was a teacher and building a rock band and when a little black chubby girl asked to be a singer he only said “sure! let me hear you” and the moment she started using her beautiful voice his lit up like all of his dreams came true, PLUS the same little girl was scared that people would make fun of her because she was fat and he started listing awesome singers with some weight on and included himself and told her that people wouldn’t laugh because she is awesome at what she does and that is all that matters PLUS that it’s ok to enjoy food?

Also, when a little boy asked to be the band’s stylist he just said “sure, go ahead fancy pants” like, there wasn’t a single second of questioning it, he went into “ok, that will be your position then” right away

That fucking movie is an hour and a half of Jack Black teaching kids to love themselves disregarding all of the stereotypes

[bobateaotaku-deactivated2016010]

School of Rock is the movie title I love that movie

[darkseid-deactivated20190806]

the speech he gave that girl about it being okay to be fat was and is so important to me

[gasp0ne]

[themusicismymasterr]

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Maneater - Hall & Oates (H2O, 1982)

[blueklectic]

I am no longer campaigning for me. Either you see how awe inspiring i am or you don’t. I am no longer begging for someone to see me. I’m here. Your fault if you miss me. No more asking. I’m tired.

[rutadelagastritis]