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[ostpunk]

why is it that i always see the bad side of women and i am getting scared of them? i feel so so so bad about it so so so bad

i don’t want this

i like women

but i am so scared

[ostpunk]

and if you think im misogynistic, i dunno what i should say,

because those bullies were actual WOMEN

i am not misogynistic. i am afraid of women. and i am sorry  for all those kind women whom I can’t trust 100% because of my past!

i’m glad that i can trust my girlfriend, but that’s the only female person i can trust fully!  thank you very much anon. hahaha i feel like crap!!

[theneverlandbear]

://// Why is androphobia seen as a legitimate fear of men But all of the posts I’ve seen for gynophobia seem more misogynistic.. that tag is full of vore and cannibalism as a warning I mean.. men can be pretty fucking terrifying, the media and every day life situations reflect that perfectly well. Especially if someone was made vulnerable or abused by a male. But I think a fear of women is just as justified. Women can be abusers as well. It’s okay to be afraid of them. I know fear can cause hatred, but they’re not the same thing.. I abhor the things done to me, but I’m not afraid. (of men) You can be afraid and not have hatred. Or you can have both. But they’re not interchangeable. Bluh.. I’m just worried that having a fear of women may be treated as a joke, or those with that fear may be branded as misogynists, when they don’t hate women, they’re just freaking terrified.. Your fears are valid, and it’s okay. Adrophobes and gynophobes.

[chrono-boy]

If I may weigh in, I’m someone who’s plagued a lot with sever gynophobia. The general feeling I get is that a lot of women don’t really seems to view themselves as entirely capable of doing bad things (very often when a women does something bad to a man they believe he deserved it somehow, I have examples) or they believe that doing bad things to men is cathartic (I have examples). They’ve also been told from a young age that men are sexist and put to get them and therefore the villains of the world (I have examples) so the idea that men could be afraid of women is completely antithetical to their world view and beliefs system. It’s just not something a lot of women can properly process, even some women I talk to say they understand but in reality they don’t and are generally dismissive while attempting to seem like their care (I can tell the difference).

Also I feel like a lot of women make a joke out of it because many but not all have an internal desire to see men come to harm especially at the hands of women as a form of catharsis in an emotional, social, and to an extent sexual way. I’ve seen many women say they have cathartic fantasies about torturing and killing men so putting a legitimate label that they can’t refute, like gynophobia, forces them to acknowledge their own toxicity and moral failings in a way they aren’t prepared to do so they make an effort to dismiss the consequences of their actions as sexism to dodge responsibility.

As for men making fun of gynophobia, that’s rooted in sexism because they don’t see women as capable of being fearsome or evil.

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[spaceinvaydr]

I’m so hideously exhausted of movies, every movies regardless of quality or budget or actors or success of failure becomes some Byzantine socio-political debate. Movies are good or bad anymore they’re political stages where both sides go to war with each other and it’s every fucking movie.

I grew up loving movies as a kid, new and old. These stories playing out in front of me that I could get lost in. I know it’s my problem but I can’t seem to get away from all the action and reaction from both political sides these days and I can’t take it anymore.

I know this sounds cheesy and whiny but I’m exhausted

[mint-corset]

I just want a kiss

[lullychi]

For you and your internet friends! 💙

Feel free to send these to them but please do not repost

[valtsv]

despite always talking about romance and how much i yearn for it in my life i’m starting to wonder if i’m actually capable of romantic love. it’s not that i don’t want it, i just don’t feel like i could be a good romantic partner to anyone long-term. i like my solitude and independence too much to ever be able to compromise that for someone else, even though i genuinely want to try for someone who i feel is worth it. eventually i’d start chafing and either close myself off from them or start trying to overcompensate out of guilt and hurt them and drive them away as a result. i think everyone will be happier, myself included, if i stay alone my whole life.

[classiclinds-deactivated2024103]

A person with an abusive nature will always register you standing up for yourself as an act of betrayal. Betray them.

[spacejelly710]

This is so important. As a good person, you may choose to stick around to prove to someone that you’re not a bad person. You have nothing to prove to a bad person. You cannot help everyone. You cannot fix everyone. It’s not your fault.

[orwellsunderpants]

^^^ THIS

Because an abusive person isn’t interested in the truth. They’re interested in finding sticks to beat you with. They’re interested in finding rationales that they can use to justify to themselves their right to abuse you.

You owe nothing to an abusive person.

Not one. single. thing.

[necropcy-fairy]

Mood: having the need to ask for your love and attention 24/7 but instead, keep the distance between us so you don’t have to deal with my clingyness and emotional instability. ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ