The Cinnamon Spyder

[ardri-na-bpiteog]

Double Income No Kids used to be seen as a kind of lavish lifestyle, now it’s like…a requirement to have any remote chance at financial stability

[ardri-na-bpiteog]

This post is getting notes again so I see we’re all handling the cost of living crisis well 🙃

[lucy-harker]

PAN'S LABYRINTH (2006) dir. Guillermo del Toro

[seasonofhorror]

CANDYMAN

1992, dir. Bernard Rose

[lucy-harker]

DONNIE DARKO (2001) dir. Richard Kelly

[emziess]

Mia Goth as Lady Elizabeth Harlander FRANKENSTEIN (2025) dir. Guillermo del Toro

[tiktoks-i-enjoyed]

[multiverse-of-multifandoms]

Frankenstein (2025) Dir. Guillermo del Toro

[dankmemesreasonforliving]

[pixxystycks]

and here is perhaps the most niche fanart ive EVER drawn

click for better quality, theyre transparent 👼🤠👼

[calder]

vegans make peace with honey

no shut up do it

[calder]

vegans will pretend not to hear when natives tell them their agave products are unsustainable because they have whimsical feelings about, and i cannot stress this enough, the freedom of hive insects

[ofcoursethatsathing]

Wearing programmable clothes

[great-daze]

this is the best and most chaotic scene of the entire series and nobody can convince me otherwise

[currentswim]

ADHD brain during all hours of sunlight: our body will never leave this bed so help me god

ADHD brain at 3 in the morning: if we don’t master the art of ballet Right This Fucking Instant we are going to die

[expelliarmus]

[faboratory]

or maybe just..„,

you know„,..

check if you have a child.,????

[elitelifekd]

[paper-mario-wiki]

i can assure you i do not

[flyingpurplepizzaeater]

when you go from a bad situation into a better one you may collapse exhausted and unsure what to do and full of grief, you may need time to regain the ability to do things as yourself or motivated by anything other than terror, you may need time to process or mourn or fall apart in ways you could not before,

and people may use this as proof that the old situation was better for you, proof that you need to go back, and it is not proof that it was better for you or proof that you need to go back

[thatdiabolicalfeminist]

!!!

It’s so incredibly common to “fall apart” when you’re finally safe. You no longer need to stay so tightly coiled in on yourself, you can finally leave survival mode and process your trauma. You’re not holding yourself up by sheer terror anymore and suddenly the damage that terror has done to you becomes immediate and obvious. 

[kipplekipple]

This is so important. Don’t go back. Things are already getting better, even if it doesn’t feel that way.

[lilbittydragon-deactivated20241]

This is a documented phenomenon with abuse in particular. I’ve had a number of people ask me why they’re falling apart now after they’ve moved into a safer home, or they’re in a less dangerous area, or they’ve left an exploitative job, or they’re in a healthy relationship for the first time. Generally, it’s because they made that positive change. 

When we’re still in the midst of crisis, we’re often too overloaded and physically/emotionally unsafe to really feel or process anything. So for most of us, everything gets pushed down/repressed/dissociated until later, when we’re safe and supported. The threshold of safety at which processing begins to occur varies from person to person. And the mental calculations used to determine “safety” usually happen on an unconscious level. Very few of us have the conscious thought “I’m safe now, so I can process what happened to me.” Instead, the subconscious realizes some level of safety has been achieved, and so it just dumps a load of suppressed stuff. 

Sometimes, it’s contrast to past experiences that makes us realize something was traumatic at all. In such cases, it’s not that we’ve reached a level of safety and can thus begin to process, it’s that we finally have a basis for comparison to know that what went before was unacceptable.