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[claracedar]

even though I complain about my mom on here (rarely) I can proudly say that she has never been weird about food or weight. She made intentional effort all my life to be normal about food and weight to her daughters. She's really a lovely person .

I am meeting more and more women who are crazyyyy mothers and craaaazy about motherhood/have wild ideas about what womanhood is, and it makes me appreciate my own mom more and more

[claracedar]

"Twentysomethings take these difficult moments particularly hard. Compared to older adults, they find negative information-- the bad news-- more memorable than positive information-- or the good ones. MRI studies show that twentysomething brains simply react more strongly to negative information than do the brains of older adults. There is more activity in the amydalgya-- the seat of the emotional brain. When twentysomethings have their competence criticized, they become anxious and angry. They are tempted to march in and take action. They generate negative feelings towards others and obsess about the why: "Why did my boss say that? Why doesn't my boss like me?" Taking work so intensely personal can make a forty-hour workweek long indeed.

... I told Danielle how the twentysomething brain responds to surprise and criticism, how it makes many twentysomethings feel like, as one colleague says, leaves in the wind. A good day at work lifts us high in the air while a reprimand from a boss whips us down to the ground. As criticism blows us every which way, we feel-- at work and in love-- only as good as the last thing that happened.

"That's exactly how I feel," Danielle said. "Like a leaf. I never realized my boss would have this kind of effect. He's a bigger deal in my life right now than anybody. He's like God. Whatever he says seems like the ultimate judgement about me."

--- from The Defining Decade: why your twenties matter- and how to make the most of them now by Meg Jay, PhD

[anglaised]

every remake or reboot of black childhood stuff i grew up with has just been getting more and more diluted its spoooooooky where my girls at…i remember when i was a kid when they lightened orange blossom i wanted to hurt somebody

[anglaised]

like who the fuck is that on the right that is not orange blossom who tf is she

[claracedar]

"Phineas Gage's post injury life has largely been sensationalized. In textbooks, he is most often painted as a loser or freak who ran off and joined the circus, never regaining any semblance of normal life. Gage did briefly exhibit the tamping rod-- and himself-- at Barnum's American Museum. But more significant, and less widely known, is that before dying after a series of seizures nearly twelve years after the accident, Gage worked for many years as a stagecoach driver, in New Hampshire and Chile. In this work, he rose early and readied himself. He prepared his horses and his coach for four-a.m. daily departures. He drove passengers over rough roads for hours at a time. This is all at odds with the notion that Gage lived out his life as an impulsive slacker.

Historian Malcolm Macmillan suggests that Phineas Gage benefited from a sort of "social recovery." The regular routines of stagecoach driving allowed Gage's frontal lobe to relearn many of the skills compromised in the accident. The experiences he had, day in and day out, allowed Gage to again be personally and socially deliberate, to again be forward-thinking."

-- from The Defining Decade: Why your twenties matter- and how to make the most of them now by Meg Jay, PhD

[olden-towne]

[claracedar]

“Psychopaths have appeared in stories from all cultures: from Shakespeare… to the villain Ximen Qing in the seventeenth-century Chinese epic Jin Ping Mei (The Plum in the Golden Vase)…

Psychopaths also appear in existing preindustrial societies, suggesting they are not a cultural artifact of the demands of advancing civilization but have been with us since our emergence as a species. The Yorubas, a tribe indigenous to southwest Nigeria, call their psychopaths arana-kan, which they describe as meaning “a person who always goes his own way regardless of others, who is uncooperative, full of malice, and bullheaded. Inuits have a word, kunlangeta, that they use to describe someone whose “mind knows what to do but he does not do it,” and who repeatedly lies, steals, cheats, and rapes.

Psychopaths are typically described in historical contexts as monsters, evildoers, people who lack the emotional connections that bind the majority of us, as well as the inhibitions that those connections engage… Clinicians have written about psychopaths since the birth of psychiatry in the early 1800s.”

— from The Psychopath Whisperer by Dr. Kent Kiehl

[claracedar]

"Not surprisingly, psychopaths are overrepresented in prisons; studies indicate that about 25 percent of inmates meet diagnostic criteria for psychopathy. Nevertheless, research also suggests that a sizable number of psychopaths may be walking among us in everyday life. Some investigators have even speculated that “successful psychopaths”—those who attain prominent positions in society—may be overrepresented in certain occupations, such as politics, business and entertainment. Yet the scientific evidence for this intriguing conjecture is preliminary.

Most psychopaths are male, although the reasons for this sex difference are unknown. Psychopathy seems to be present in both Western and non-Western cultures, including those that have had minimal exposure to media portrayals of the condition. In a 1976 study anthropologist Jane M. Murphy, then at Harvard University, found that an isolated group of Yupik-speaking Inuits near the Bering Strait had a term (kunlangeta) they used to describe “a man who … repeatedly lies and cheats and steals things and … takes sexual advantage of many women—someone who does not pay attention to reprimands and who is always being brought to the elders for punishment.” When Murphy asked an Inuit what the group would typically do with a kunlangeta, he replied, “Somebody would have pushed him off the ice when nobody else was looking.”

-- from "What "Psychopath" Means" by Scott O. Lilienfeld and Hal Arkowitz

[treecitysessions]

Sometimes it makes me crazy when I remember how Dylan Sprouse said he was encouraged by Disney producers/execs to start having a restrictive eating disorder as a child because his body was too different from his brother’s and they wanted to him to try to look as identical to him as possible even though they had very different body types due to various health factors .

[treecitysessions]

And that story Kim Rhodes (the actress who played their mom) told about how she was getting bodyshamed on set when she was pregnant and he went off on the grown adults present in her defense at like 12 years old bc they tried to get him to do a fat joke about her on camera and it’s like well no wonder that shit was so disheartening for the kid to hear aimed towards someone he loved and respected instead of at himself like it usually was…

[twistedwings]

[innerchildabortionclinic]

also I don't think parents "these days" are uniquely terrible, I just think neglect is showing up in new ways as technology progresses. today's ipad kid would've been wandering around in a ditch alone all day and night before. parents not wanting to have to deal with children is not a new phenomenon.

[jackerknack]

toby's first tumblr unsexyman

[claracedar]

”Writing a book has come up a few times over the years, but it never felt right and, quite frankly, it didn’t feel possible. I could barely sit down, let alone be still long enough to complete such a task. My brain’s energy was being wasted, a ceaseless drip attempting to conceal and control my discomfort. But now is different. New. At last, I can sit with myself, in this body, present— typing for hours, my dog, Mo, lounging in the sun, my back straighter, my mind quieter. This previously unimaginable contentment wouldn’t have arrived without the health care I’ve received, and as attacks against gender-affirming care increase, along with efforts to silence us, it feels like the right time to put words on a page.”

— from Pageboy by Elliot Page

[littlehorrorshop]

Anna May Wong in Show Life (1928)

[claracedar]

I like the little part in Obsession where the father says “we’ll do that to keep the Karens out of the store” and Sarah says “thats not what that means don’t say that” he says “isn’t a Karen a person who says no” omggggg bringing attention to the misogyny of calling someone a “Karen” and how it was originally a term to call entitled or violent middle aged white women customers but then during COVID it quickly morphed into a way to call women annoying for doing anything and, post George Floyd, for white men to act like white women are uniquely more racist than them… because they are women?

[lovestereo]

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[sluttynurse]

obsession being added to the canon of popular movies where the public reaction to it is arguably just as if not more important than the movie itself

[zero-skies]

you wished for this.

[claracedar]

woah im reading comments underneath clips from the movie Obsession (2025) and Gen Z men are literally getting the whole movie so completely wrong that it’s actually scary. Why are they saying stuff like “Nikki was sending mixed signals to Bear to manipulate him, he should have gone for Sarah who was honest” and “if he had just told Nikki he had a crush on her, everything would have been fine because Nikki would have just started dating him then! He just needed to have the balls to tell her!” WOAAAAAAH BRO. YOU DID NOT WATCH THE MOVIE .

This is why even though I heard good reviews, I put off seeing the movie cuz I just knew Gen Z men would interpret it wrong and demonize Nikki. seeing her demonized by these men, and seeing them completely miss the point, that is just too sensitive for me too hard for me it is too close to home . Nikki in the beginning of the movie is just a normal person. She asked Bear if he liked her, because she didn’t love him back and he was making her uncomfortable with his dithering crush so she wanted to honestly tell him that he had no chance, to clear the air. She is literally talking to him man-to-man, and you accuse her of being manipulative?