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I decided Iâm calling my Sky Dragon Tum Tum
I was pretending that they were trying to steal my ice cream while I wasnât looking
The chafing because of my compression tights is worse than the last few summers
I think itâs infected
happy disability pride month to people who were/are abused because of their disability. my ex abused the fuck out of me specifically because i was too disabled to contribute to our lives the way they wanted. their abuse might even be part of why im so disabled in the first place (got shingles which can kick start chronic illnesses and was triggered by the stress i was under......because of the abuse).
i know so many people who were/are at the mercy of very terrible people because they literally have no other options. it's harrowing especially since ive been there.
if you're in this situation i hope so so dearly that you can get out as soon as possible. you deserve to be taken care of without having to fear the people who help you.
adding to this, happy disability pride month to disabled people with cptsd, regardless of what caused it. experiencing ongoing trauma every single day for weeks, months, years, that takes a massive toll on your body, especially physically disabled ones (ask me how i know). wether it's from abuse, neglect, poverty, being disabled itself and all the trauma that comes from that, anything at all, i hope you can soon be able to leave the situation if ongoing and have the opportunity to heal during and after
pedestrians don't seem to realize how exhausting using a wheelchair is, both manual and powered. i had to wheel around a hospital today with several ramps i had to go up and down multiple times, and even with my smoov i ended up with shoulder and chest pain and deep exhaustion.
people look at wheelchair users and think "well you're sitting down all the time that doesn't take effort" no actually it does. pushing a manual chair takes a lot of fucking effort, especially without a power assist. repetitive stress injuries are a huge problem manual chair users encounter all the time. going up hills and ramps is so deeply fatiguing.
this doesn't just apply to manual chair users btw. power chair usage can also be really exhausting, especially for people with complex seating needs. going over bumps and cracks can trigger many symptoms such as spasticity, pressure sores are common, even just sitting upright can be exhausting for many people.
basically don't assume using a wheelchair takes 0 effort, it really really does. getting to "sit down all the time" doesn't mean it's easy.
im gonna need you able bodied motherfuckers to stop comparing the extreme pain and exhaustion that comes with using a manual chair to being in a car for 8 hours. not even remotely the same thing.
I see a lot of posts around this time of year that talk about getting a mobility aid if you need one and that you aren't "not disabled enough" to get one if it'll help, which is true! But I don't see a lot about making sure you get the right mobility aid. You do need to do some research to make sure it's the correct one for your needs, because using the wrong one long term will hurt you. If you can see a specialist about it that's even better, but that's not accessible to everyone.
One thing I see a lot is people suggesting canes as a catch-all mobility aid for everyone who has mobility issues. Canes are not for weight bearing! If you use a cane for heavy weight bearing long term, you will hurt your wrists and back! Canes are for balance. There are also different types of canes, but someone else can probably explain those better than I can.
A crutch/pair of crutches is better for bearing weight, particularly forearm/support crutches if you're going to be using them a lot and don't want to strain your wrists, or platform crutches if you don't have a lot of arm strength.
Walkers/rollators are good for if you do have arm and hand strength and need a place to sit down or need to carry a lot with you, but very very bad if you can't weight bear well with your arms or pull the brakes easily. You will often need to be able to use your foot to maneuver it over a slight lip, too. If you can't do all of those things you will hurt yourself.
Wheelchairs are a whole lot more complicated and I don't feel qualified to speak on that (I've only ever used improperly fitted chairs, and have suffered permanent damage because of it).
Mobility scooters are great for going outside alone if you don't have the arm strength for a manual chair, as they can handle terrain that an motorised wheelchair often can't, but are harder to maneuver in small spaces (especially bulky class 3 scooters, which aren't designed for indoor use at all) and usually aren't suitable for full time use. If you need more support they most likely won't be suitable either, the seats are usually not designed with support for people who cannot hold themselves upright and generally do not have a seatbelt by default. I'm working on a proper guide for this and will hopefully post it soon!
There's also deconditioning to keep in mind, which is very important to think about if you aren't doing physiotherapy. You also need to consider things like pressure sores, which you will be especially prone to in seated mobility aids if you aren't able to reposition yourself regularly or have loss of sensation in or awareness of any part of your body.
Do your research! Don't just default to a cane!
Is there something I can get if I only need help standing up? I can walk around fine but sometimes its difficult for me to go from sitting to standing.
This is a little more difficult, because most mobility aids that are supposed to bear weight are pretty bulky and can't easily be carried around without being used. I'm thinking this might be one of those situations where a folding cane is actually your best bet, ideally with a tripod attachment if you have space to carry one around so that it can't tip while you're leaning on it. If anyone else has more experience with this and better suggestions feel free to add them!
the "I don't look disabled? you don't look stupid but there you go" slogan you get on stickers or decals or shirts or whatever is genuinely the most ironic and nastiest bit of self-righteous ableism and it's completely unaware. quick, tell me what "looking stupid" actually looks like then.
ableism really feels like the lowest common denominator across all groups regardless of their politics. right wingers will call their opponents the r word, their opponents will call them "brain dead" bc they want to use the r word but they have to reskin the term for optics. anyone on any political or social stance can somehow maintain that stance while being ableist. like homophobes and transphobes can be ableist. lgbtq people can be ableist. both racists and anti-racists can be ableist. even self proclaimed anti-fascists can be ableist despite a hatred of disabled people making up a chunk of the basis of fascist ideology. actually no matter what someone says, if they make their point by being ableist they've failed at confronting the universal myth that some people are inherently superior to other people. they just disagree over which group should be the one considered inferior
the most common side effect of people thinking serious health problems actually get taken seriously. is that at any one point of you having a health condition or concerning symptom, they assume that it was investigated or taken care of as soon as it appeared. so everyone thinks that as long as you know you have a health problem, that problem is being managed. unfortunately ableds also think that managing a health problem means it doesn't impact you anymore, because hey, you know what's wrong right? then fix it. so they expect, as soon as you disclose that you're physically disabled, that you're basically not disabled at all.
i think people really under sell the physical side effects of mental health disorders sometimes. like sure the depression and anxiety may be 'just in your head' but when what's in your head happens to disrupts your sleep schedule and prevent you from going outside regularly and eating consistent meals and exercising and generally taking care of your body. well it sure takes its toll huh.
a lot of disabilities cause pain and pain can be the primary disabling symptom someone has. but please remember that disability is not equivalent to pain. you can be disabled by other things. you can be disabled and not feel any chronic pain at all.
some people - even some wheelchair users - have this false dichotomy (?) in head abt wheelchair & wheelchair users
for example idea that powerchair / their users always worse off disability wise than manual wheelchair / their users. or that powerchair = easy use.
am full time wheelchair user & rn use my custom manual wheelchair with power assist all time. but in past used group 1 / 2 powerchair (a non custom powerchair w big base & big plastic leather seat that technically cushioned. mine be technically group 1 bc need the transportability n take apart (bc know eventually need get it to literal other side of globe) but it closer to group 2 powerchairs than those rly small collapsable 50 lb folding power chairs) & that manual wheelchair at same time. so have enough experience say that idea above, simply not true.
bc of my disability & seating positioning needs, sitting in that kind of powerchair be really uncomfortable n painful n exhausting.
mine have medium height backrest, which be not enough for me. even if it do have higher backrest & headrest would not be able sit in for long because it simply not supportive enough. it not keep body in place. it not designed keep off pressure on my skin n muscles n bony spots.
it also incredibly bumpy, every vibration be transport into feet n leg n rest of body to neck etc.
all these reasons mean actually need spend more energy n effort in those kind of powerchairs to keep body up n sitting, not to mention properly sitting w right posture that not give pain or worsen disability or bad pressure.
because of that, can only tolerate use it for 1-3 hours at time max.
n the collapsing easy transport 50 lb type folding powerchair, which glad help some people, simply would not work for me, even with one with technically backrest that cover entire back + headrest that be going around disability influencer instagram rn. it does not n will not work for same reason - except more intense because it even less supportive on body.
versus. my custom manual wheelchair, which not meet all my disability needs, n give me pain n symptoms, n complain abt it lots, but even with that!! it infinitely better than my powerchair n **is actually usable**.
because it built for me, the backrest high enough to support body + shaped n contoured in way that keep body in better place, including on two sides / left n right. n same for headrest!
my cushion not put as much pressure on my skin, esp bony places am prone getting pressure sores on, n (mine rn not do this well, which be bad on my body, but there options that do) shape in way that keep butt & thighs in place so not slide n friction (which can also create pressure sores) or not need significant energy keep in right place.
my wheels also be designed to keep ride as smooth as possible (sth special abt spokes), so my body not suffer as much from all the vibration.
(n even with these, still exhausted n in pain n need be in bed lots to recover from, yes, âjust sittingâ in wheelchair. my non ambulatory friends w complex disabilities who use custom group 3 powerchairs, aka those fancy complex rehab ones that do tilt n recline n lift etc, say same abt theirs too! being in wheelchair can be very exhausting!! especially because some of our disabilities that make us need wheelchairs.)
n yes, am someone who cant rly push self for much in manual wheelchair. need power assist and/or someone push me (often both!! bc my power assist be exhausting n heavy!) to properly get around or else not able leave house at all (not exaggerate). even with this!!! my manual chair still work better for me than power chair.
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sometimes it not just manual vs power, sometimes it also about (or sometimes more about!) custom vs non custom!
some people functionally cannot use non custom wheelchairs, some people cannot use non custom wheelchairs at! all! (people have literally died directly bc airlines broke their custom group 3 powerchairs n not replaced in time!)
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like, in general, wheelchair users be different, our needs be different, our disabilities be different. for some people it may be more straightforward, but also a lot of us wheelchair users have complex nuanced disability/disabilities that complicate things.
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The first time I was told I was lucky to be a full time wheelchair user was mere months after losing the ability to stand. It was fucked up then and itâs fucked up now.
I donât care what social justice language you wrap it up in, âyouâre so lucky you canât walkâ is an awful thing to say to someone.
"I am not a vessel for your good intent" goes hard as a line from a disabled perspective. Abled people care so much more about being their idea of a good ally than they do actually being a good ally. They shove their good intent right down your throat and then act surprised when you tell them they're suffocating you.
[ID: An image of a sign with a blue background and with a graphic of a stick figure in a wheelchair at the beginning, resembling disabled parking space signs. The text below the stick figure reads "I am not a vessel for your good intent." /ID]
10 reminders for disability pride month.
1. there will always be someone more severely affected by their disability than you are, this does not mean you aren't disabled, or that your struggles aren't real. these disabled people are not your enemy.
2. visibly disabled people are not treated better than invisibly disabled people, there are different struggles to both.
3. visibly & severely disabled people are not lucky for being visibly disabled or severely disabled. this belief is ableist.
4. we all need to keep the more severely disabled people in mind, they are the most vulnerable & this is disability justice 101.
5. there will always be severely disabled people in public, you absolutely need to work on your discomforts about the conditions/aids/symptoms/behaviours they might have; drooling, incontinence, "odd" behaviours, visible differences, use of AAC etc. this is a you problem, not a them problem.
6. there will always be symptoms of disabilities that you don't approve of; zero social awareness, cognitive impairments, violent meltdowns, strong smells & loud noises, being nonverbal/semiverbal etc. no one can force you to like it, but you cannot be cruel to them regardless of your opinions, again, this is a you problem & not a them problem.
7. you can still be ableist even if you yourself are disabled, this isn't always internalised, it can also be outright ableism.
8. caregivers of severely disabled people often play an important role in disability spaces, try not to *immediately* discount their experiences, unless they're truly over stepping, are being factually incorrect/uneducated or ableist. (caregivers can come with unique problems in disability spaces, 100%, but they are not inherently bad)
9. severely disabled people will have experiences you do not have, it is not an attack on you when these experiences are talked about.
10. âpeople wouldnât say [ableist thing] to a wheelchair userâ yes they would and yes they do.
and yes, some of these things that i've mentioned still applies to less severely disabled people, but goes especially for severely disabled people who often experience these things the most. be kind, be compassionate.
having accessible toilets isn't meeting an accessibility goal if those bathrooms are maintained. some people treat those spaces with such disrespect that they are filthy and unusable
Love is in the precut strawberries in my grandparentsâs fridge, they would be difficult for me to cut myself