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TRANS GUY / BINDER-WEARING FRIENDS: PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE BIND SAFELY. don’t wear it for longer than 8 hours. drink so much water and eat so much salt. you are going to sweat yourself to heatstroke in this weather. 95+ fahrenheit and 40+ celsius is weather they stop outside work for. please keep yourself cool and hydrate!!

islandmusic

deathcastlvr2

interacting with the cool mutual while full of fear and anxiety

ratsetflummi

one trick to learn (and this is easier when you're older) is that absolutely no one is cool. there is no such thing as a cool person. anyone you think is cool is just anxious about things you haven't learned about them yet

humans-of-seoul

“아빠가 엄하셔서 많이 맞고 자랐어요. 뜻에 거스르는 일은 거의 못하고 컸죠. 근데 스무살 때 수능을 망쳐서 원하지 않던 대학에 가게 된 거예요. 집에서 재수는 절대 안 된다고 해서 애써 다니려고 해봤는데 도저히 못 참겠더라고요. 결국 부모님 몰래 자퇴를 했어요. 보호자 확인이 필요해서 할머니한테 슬쩍 가서 받았죠. 그 사실을 안 아빠가 화를 내면서 ‘이제부턴 아무 도움도 줄 수 없으니 너 알아서 해라’라고 했어요. 그 말을 듣고 짐을 쌌어요. 집을 나와 낮에는 카페 알바를 하고 저녁엔 공부를 했죠. 부모님이 원망스러웠어요. 친구들은 지원받아서 다 좋은 재수학원 다니는데, 저는 응원만 바랐는데도 그마저 안 해주셨으니까요. 결국 재수는 실패했어요. 그 뒤로 긴 시간동안 부모님 얼굴을 안 보고 지냈어요. 생일 마다 짧은 통화 외에는 아무 교류가 없었죠. 엄마 아빠와 다시 식사 자리를 갖게 된 건 거의 7년이 지나서였어요. 대화를 나누는데, 두 분이 엄청 애를 쓰신다는 게 느껴졌어요. 밉기만 했던 모습이 달리 보이더라고요. 얼마 전엔 아빠한테 편지도 받았는데, 아빠가 편지를 썼다는 사실 자체가 놀라워서 마음이 저릿했어요.” “편지에 뭐라고 써 있던가요?” “‘너에게 상처를 준 것 같아 미안하다. 내가 너에게 좋은 아빠는 돼주지 못했지만, 손주에게 좋은 할아버지는 되고 싶다’라고요. 아빠도 딸을 키우는 건 처음이었다는 걸 조금씩 이해해가고 있어요.”

“My dad was strict, so I was beaten a lot growing up. I could almost never go against his wishes. When I was 20, I bombed my college entrance exams, so I ended up going to a school that I didn’t particularly want to go to. My parents told me I was absolutely not allowed to wait a year to take the test again, so I tried my best at that college. But I just couldn’t take it. In the end, I dropped out of school without my parents knowing. I needed to get confirmation from a guardian, so I secretly had my grandma do it. When my dad found out, he was furious and said, ‘I’m done helping you. From now on, you're on your own.’ So, I packed my bags and left, working part time at a cafe during the day and studying at night. I resented my parents. My friends all went to nice prep schools to retake the exam, supported by their families, while all I wanted was for my parents to cheer me on, and they wouldn't even do that. Ultimately, I did poorly on the test the second time around too. After that, I didn’t see my parents for a long time. I had practically no interactions with them besides a short phone call on my birthdays. It took nearly seven years before I met my mom and dad for dinner. While we were talking, I could feel that they were really trying hard. While I had totally detested them before, it was only then that I started seeing them differently. I recently even got a letter from my dad. The fact that my dad even wrote to me caught me off guard and hit me right in the chest.” “What did he write in the letter?” “‘I am sorry that I hurt you so much. Though I was not able to be a good dad for you, I want to be a good grandpa for my grandchild.’ I am slowly starting to realize that it was also my dad’s first time raising a daughter, so it wouldn’t have been easy for him either.”

snoopylovessoup

dailybridgerton

Masali Baduza via dionnesmithhair

bold-baddie

thanager

being 24 is really not It.

thanager

mid 20s moodboard

loveridden1999

ooppo

"He has a 12 inch cock" well my pussy ain't a fucking magicians hat bitch where is all that supposed to go

ooppo

ihysmbily

I LOVE READING “X READER” SO MUCH.

miniangel

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rowlfthedog

chambaeli

I feel like contouring is lowkey racist

heartof-au79-deactivated2024090

Is this a joke?

chambaeli

Noo lol I knew I’d regret phrasing it that way. This is tumblr, after all…

It’s not “people who contour are themselves automatically racist” but that the desired face shape created by contouring is one that, at the end of the day, pretty much reflects existing white standards of beauty. A thinner, pointier nose, smaller chin, high angled cheekbones and (on occasion) smaller lips. Also if you’re darker skinned you have to use a much lighter shade of foundation thus ending up with an overall lighter face.

I probably could have phrased that better.

burmeseauntie

No, you are absolutely correct. In fact it is not even lowkey in the performance arts/entertainment world. I’ve known how to contour since I was 9, because I was in ballet. I was taught by an older Asian dancer who told me that I was already darker than everyone else, my face couldn’t look different too. So she showed me the basics, then left me with a picture of a white person as the goal to emulate.

It’s always been explicit and intentionally racist in terms of what is considered correct contouring technique is to emulate white associated features. Which is not to say that contouring is bad, but it is good to ask ourselves why we do not contour to make our noses look wider and more distinguished. Or why we don’t shadow and highlight to make the face look perfectly round? While contouring is not bad ( and is actually very cool to literally be able to control the way people perceive your face, it’s like magic) it’s good to ask ourselves why we contour the way we do.