[coldsponge]

Update about me and the future of this blog!

Hey everyone! I wanted to update everyone about the future of this blog, as well as about my personal life. Everything is doing fantastic on my end, but life is about to become a lot busier. I am in the process of moving, taking up a new job opportunity, etc. This leaves me with a very small amount of time to work on this blog and continue making posts. I am doing fantastic mentally and physically, but i will just be very busy. I will be unable to work on this blog as often as I have been-- and it will either be active a little bit every few months, or it will be inactive and remain up as an "Archive". Since I won't be active as much, i want you all to do something very important for me, okay? If you are running a blog similar to mine, please keep going! Keep making important posts, and never let important information be removed from the internet. Keep important posts alive. Keep being an activist. Keep empowering women. Be the best version of yourself that you can be! I will lurk on Tumblr from time to time, but I doubt I'll reblog posts or make posts of my own. Maybe I will come back someday when things become less hectic in my life. See you later! I love you all very much.

[twoxliberation]

trans women claiming they “think like women” and “act like women” and “live like women” is so blatantly misogynistic i almost can’t believe how libfems don’t see it.

how do women think? what are these supposed womanly thoughts, and how are they different from supposedly manly thoughts? how do women act? what makes these behaviors unique to women? how do women live? what about our lives makes these males think that they’re living like us as opposed to living like men? what exactly are they feeling that makes them think they’re women?

[wavybbqlays]

I know I’ll never get through to TERFS, they hate me to my core. But as a trans woman I just wanted to chime in and give me two cents about why I use the vocabulary that I do.

When I say I “think like a woman” I’m talking about the way that my brain feels on female hormones, they help me think more critically and they make my emotions (good, bad, and everywhere in-between) feel less dull. I’m not saying that women have to have estrogen in their system to be women, or that estrogen makes you some emotional mess, but female hormones genuinely feel different. I can say without a doubt that I don’t think the same way that I did when I had male testosterone levels.

I don’t say that I “act like a woman” because that’s blatantly misogynistic, women are individuals and there shouldn’t be any pre conceived ideas of what that means to be a woman.

When I say I “live like a woman” I’m referring to the fact that the second I started socially transitioning, I started dealing with the toxic misogynistic behavior that women deal with. I get the creepy tit stares, the extremely uncomfortable “flirting” without being promoted, the being followed to your car, the cat calling, the being talked over because they see me as a woman and therefore think I’m clueless, the unsolicited dick pics, the fear to walk alone at night because men can be so unpredictable and disgusting, the decision between getting called a nun if I wear modest clothes or a whore if I was revealing ones, the fact that I have to carry pepper spray now out of fear for my own safety. Women are still so often treated like second class citizens in our society, it’s wrong and disgusting. Having been on both sides, I say that I “live life as a woman” because society treats me as such.

[twoxliberation]

it’s amazing how literally everything you said just reaffirmed my belief that you’re a blatant misogynist lmfaoooooooo. “i think like a woman because my fake lady hormones changed my brain and i live like a woman because men treat me badly” is what you just said.

you are not a woman. you do not experience womanhood. i don’t care what excuses you come up with to justify why you think it’s okay for you, as a fucking male, to say that you think like a woman and live like a woman. you are a misogynist.

[radkindoffeminist]

Sharing for the trans woman who think he did something other than prove OP’s point exactly and spread more misogyny

[radfemsafe-deactivated20220201]

First of all, I want to address that I do not hate you. There are men I do hate, and I save that hate for them. I do not hate you.

What insulted me about your post, is that implication that the suffering I experience for my sex is tantamount to being the definition of a woman.

The only thing that makes me a woman is my woman body, my xx chromosomes, my ovaries, my uterus, my fallopian tubes, etc. if I had a disorder where there was an issue or the absence of any of those things, I would still be a woman because the absence of those things causes my body to work inefficiently, and sometimes dangerously. 

The hate directed at me for my body by society does not make me a woman, it’s something I experience as a woman, but that is not what makes me woman.

You may take the same estrogen pills as your mother, but the fact that you’re taking them to try and be like your mother, where as your mother has to take them for a medical reason, does not make you a woman. Your mother is a woman because she was born a woman, but her need to take estrogen and the hostility she has experienced in her lifetime because of her woman body do not make her a woman. She is a woman because she is a woman.

Imagine if I told a black woman that because I am getting surgery to make my skin darker, and to have surgeries that give me African-American facial features, that I am African-American because now people will hate me for being African-American, and treat me as such.

No marginalized or oppressed group should be forced to be defined by their oppression. A woman is a human female. That is it. EVERYTHING else is something else contributed by culture/socialization.

All of the things you described are social symptoms of being perceived as a woman, not the act of being a woman itself. This is an important distinction, because women cannot opt out of this without expensive surgeries and pretending to be a man. I would have to change fundamentally the way my body looks and works to NOT face the oppression that you’ve just described, which you opted into by trying to look like me. A key difference between us is that you choose to present this way. I was born, and had no choice. Whether I have small tits or large tits, flat ass or a wide ass, large or small, conventionally beautiful or considered unattractive, I am still a woman. 

Radical feminists do not wish for anybody to be sexually harassed. In my ideal world, gender would be completely abolished.

[womens-priorities]

[coldsponge]

I'm still alive! Things have just been super busy on my end. Hope you all are doing well, too!

[coldsponge]

No offense but my sisters Keto Diet food tastes like ass.

I mistakenly ate her “keto diet” hamburger buns and I’d rather eat the bag it comes in.

[tofufem-deactivated20230127]

FEMINISM IS FOR WOMEN

💜 ♀ 💜

[npr]

Last winter, when Chung Soo-young saw a man rushing out of the women’s restroom at a chain coffee shop in downtown Seoul, the first thing she did was to scan all stalls in search of a hidden camera. Like many other South Korean women, Chung, 26, constantly worries that she could be secretly filmed in private moments. Her fear spiked, she says, when she saw the intruder and “realized I can actually be a victim.”

In South Korea, microcameras installed in public bathrooms for surreptitious filming are an everyday concern. Police data show that the number of “illegal filming” crimes sharply increased from 1,353 in 2011 to 6,470 in 2017.

The fear of digital peeping Toms has led women to stuff tiny balls of toilet paper into holes they find in public bathroom stalls or cover the holes with tape. Six months after her bathroom incident, Chung decided to act and put together her own “emergency kit” to thwart molka, or hidden cameras.

She started a crowdfunding project for the kit, and the response was greater than she had expected. More than 600 people bought the kit, which costs about $12 (14,000 Korean won) and includes a tube of silicone sealant to fill up holes, an ice pick to break tiny camera lenses and stickers to patch up holes.

Thinking of her kits as a “stopgap,” Chung also started building an archive of illicitly recorded videos and pictures she found online to demonstrate how serious the problem is. In September, during a search, she stumbled on a video of herself from that December day.

Once filmed, molka videos are quickly shared online. With the right search words in Korean, it is not difficult to find pictures and videos of women in bathrooms and changing rooms on file-sharing platforms and social networks such as Tumblr and Twitter. Thumbnails of such videos, tagged with an estimated age of the filmed women or the filming location, are posted with a messenger ID. Anyone can contact the seller, who is often the one who shot the film, and get gigabytes of voyeuristic videos for pennies.

South Korean Women Fight Back Against Spy Cams In Public Bathrooms

Photo credits in captions

[coldsponge]

Ice Breakers Sours my beloved.

[gothicroses]

This is really gross.

[coldsponge]

You have to learn how to “save” yourself and learn to be independent from other people. You cannot go through life searching for the perfect person. You cannot look for a hero.

Truly perfect relationships only exist in fiction. You cannot imagine someone to be different than they truly are, and you cannot wish for them to change into what you want them to be. You cannot change someone’s nature.

Learn to be your own best friend. Your own parental figure. Your own everything. Friendships and romantic relationships are great; but it can be easy to use them as a crutch or a “free therapist” opportunity.

Please fix what’s hurting you before you seek romantic relationships. Don’t search for a hero, or a parent, or anything like that. Only you can give you what you need.

I’m typing all of this because of my sister. I love her with my whole heart, but she keeps getting in relationships with horrible men because she wants them to be something they’re not, and/or imagines them to be what they aren’t. She wants to be taken care of like a child. She wants a hero. Nothing can convince her that only she can do that for herself. She’s been hurt too much to believe she can be her own hero and best friend. She feels as if she NEEDS a man in her life, and she told me that herself.

It breaks my heart. Recently was the 5th time she got out of an abusive relationship. She gives so much of herself to men who don’t deserve her, and it makes me angry. I firmly believe that some men seek her out because she’s vulnerable and makes it known through her behavior. She doesn’t deserve the treatment she gets.

She needs help, but I don’t know where to start. Any advice is appreciated, if you have it.

[gimme-da-memes-b0ss]

[aletheyass]

some of those ‘body positive’ people really are like ‘oh wow it’s so brave of you to exist with that ugly ass nose on you face! 🤗 like it takes so much confidence to exist for people who unfortunately look like you 😢❣️ but you’re an actual QUEEN 👑 and you should never be ashamed of how ugly you actually are ✊ honestly power to you for not letting society pressure you into removing all of these ugly features that you do have 😭❤️’

[coldsponge]

RA RA RASPUTIN RUSSIAS GREATEST LOVE MACHINE

STOP TAUNTING ME

[missouriangothic]

It's crazy how sanitized the history surrounding women's suffrage is now. Your average person's knowledge of it is generally something like "a lot of women in the 1910s decided to stand in places with signs, and then (a vague, unspecified) 'men' decided to give them what they wanted out of the goodness of their hearts." You know suffragettes were beaten on the streets by police and tortured in jail, right? And that the first attempt to organize the women's suffrage movement on a national level took place in the 1840s? There were suffragettes who died decades before votes for women was a reality.

[moonpriestes]

You can't just say that and not talk about how badass UK suffragettes were!

If women knew just how far suffragettes had to go to get the vote, would stop believing in men's generosity. Suffragettes protested peacefully for decades and got nowhere.

So they changed tactics. They decided to stop trying to appeal to men... obviously men weren't going to give them jack. So instead they made the men in power fear for their lives.

They assaulted politicians, destroyed public property. They invented the letter bomb.

They targeted sports stadiums, racetracks, churches, trains, dockyards. Politicians and their relatives had their houses set on fire. Suffragettes started getting gun licenses.

They would have continued if it hadn't been for WW1 starting in 1914.

But of course men will say that the campaign wasn't effective. They'll claim that it didn't influence their decision to give some women the vote in 1918... as soon as the war ended.

[coldsponge]

Real talk though, who would trust any medication that could be sent through the mail without doctors approval or knowledge of you and your family’s medical history? There’s no one-size-fits-all treatment for ANY condition.

[coldsponge]

Someone sent me an anon in All Caps.

Literally shaking and crying right now.

I’m going to deactivate my account. 😔

[aristocat98-deactivated20220407]

idk which woman needs to hear it tonight but you don’t need a man

you may want a man - I don’t get it but I wouldn’t blame a straight woman for not deciding to give up romance and sex because I myself, as a gay person can’t really imagine living without it (regardless, chances are you would be happier single, given the quality of men). you may want one and it’s ok, but you don’t need one. you never needed one.

men love to tell women that they “need a man in their life”, who will carry their cupboard to the 8th floor, who will fix their shit yadda dadda. “men and women need each other” is standard patriarchal propaganda. the truth is, women who don’t marry tend to report higher satisfaction with life than married women and live longer, while men in marriage are statistically happier than bachelors, despite the “good ol’ ball and chain” narrative, having someone who provides for all of their needs (cooking, cleaning, managing the household, regular sex, emotional support which sometimes extents into serving as an emotional receptacle and free therapist since men like to play tough with their friends and dump all their vulnerability onto one single person who is their partner…) impacts them positively. for women, it’s draining.

tell me now, how often do you have to move cupboards? once a year tops. you can get the two local butch lesbians to carry your damn cupboard, or you can pay someone for it - most men can’t afford a maid and cook to do their upkeeping work regularly, so they expect a partner to do it for free. you can learn to fix stuff yourself, it’s not rocket science. you can have close, satisfying relations with other women and aid each other in childcare. separatism is viable for most straight women even. there’s few things in which men can’t be replaced for you, and for bi women and lesbians, there’s none. 

you don’t need a man, it’s them who need you. 

[coldsponge]

I love your new profile picture

Thanks! Cool username btw!