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basic tucked t-shirts // T.O.U.

five simple tucked t-shirts for your toddlers~ i highlighted the key points of each top to show you the differences!

info under the cut!

📁 download (public release: Jul 20, 2021 at 9:16 PM)

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Gangnam Beauty Earring (set of 3!)

This little set of earrings were inspired by the korean drama Gangnam Beauty and are also a little way of celebrating me being promoted to a Select Artist on TSR! So this set will be a part Early Access as my first May post, and part TSR exclusive. You can find the Moon Line earring available exclusively on TSR and the To The Moon and Pearl Scale earrings will be EA and available for public when EA expires as per usual. ♥ Hope you will like them!

Base Game Compatible

3 earrings

6 metal swatches

All LODs

👉 Download on my Patreon (Early Access!) 👉 (Public Access on 24 May)

👉 Moon Line Earring on TSR!

Your pledge as my patreon helps me so much as I’m currently unemployed and every single penny goes to rent and food. Thank you so very much for your support, truly, and I wish you a lovely day!

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hyemi hair // T.O.U.

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wardrobe essentials pack // T.O.U.

here’s the female cc pack i talked about a few weeks ago. just some items i thought wouldn’t be worth releasing separately, so now they’re in this pack~ hope you find some use to them!

i put the details of each item on the pictures this time, since it would’ve been too crowded if i wrote everything down here. if you can’t read something lmk please.

📁 download (public release: May 9, 2021 at 9:07 PM)

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It’s time to bring an end to the Rape Anthem Masquerading As Christmas Carol

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Hi there! Former English nerd/teacher here. Also a big fan of jazz of the 30s and 40s.

So. Here’s the thing. Given a cursory glance and applying today’s worldview to the song, yes, you’re right, it absolutely *sounds* like a rape anthem.

BUT! Let’s look closer!

“Hey what’s in this drink” was a stock joke at the time, and the punchline was invariably that there’s actually pretty much nothing in the drink, not even a significant amount of alcohol.

See, this woman is staying late, unchaperoned, at a dude’s house. In the 1940’s, that’s the kind of thing Good Girls aren’t supposed to do — and she wants people to think she’s a good girl. The woman in the song says outright, multiple times, that what other people will think of her staying is what she’s really concerned about: “the neighbors might think,” “my maiden aunt’s mind is vicious,” “there’s bound to be talk tomorrow.” But she’s having a really good time, and she wants to stay, and so she is excusing her uncharacteristically bold behavior (either to the guy or to herself) by blaming it on the drink — unaware that the drink is actually really weak, maybe not even alcoholic at all. That’s the joke. That is the standard joke that’s going on when a woman in media from the early-to-mid 20th century says “hey, what’s in this drink?” It is not a joke about how she’s drunk and about to be raped. It’s a joke about how she’s perfectly sober and about to have awesome consensual sex and use the drink for plausible deniability because she’s living in a society where women aren’t supposed to have sexual agency.

Basically, the song only makes sense in the context of a society in which women are expected to reject men’s advances whether they actually want to or not, and therefore it’s normal and expected for a lady’s gentleman companion to pressure her despite her protests, because he knows she would have to say that whether or not she meant it, and if she really wants to stay she won’t be able to justify doing so unless he offers her an excuse other than “I’m staying because I want to.” (That’s the main theme of the man’s lines in the song, suggesting excuses she can use when people ask later why she spent the night at his house: it was so cold out, there were no cabs available, he simply insisted because he was concerned about my safety in such awful weather, it was perfectly innocent and definitely not about sex at all!) In this particular case, he’s pretty clearly right, because the woman has a voice, and she’s using it to give all the culturally-understood signals that she actually does want to stay but can’t say so. She states explicitly that she’s resisting because she’s supposed to, not because she wants to: “I ought to say no no no…” She states explicitly that she’s just putting up a token resistance so she’ll be able to claim later that she did what’s expected of a decent woman in this situation: “at least I’m gonna say that I tried.” And at the end of the song they’re singing together, in harmony, because they’re both on the same page and they have been all along.

So it’s not actually a song about rape - in fact it’s a song about a woman finding a way to exercise sexual agency in a patriarchal society designed to stop her from doing so. But it’s also, at the same time, one of the best illustrations of rape culture that pop culture has ever produced. It’s a song about a society where women aren’t allowed to say yes…which happens to mean it’s also a society where women don’t have a clear and unambiguous way to say no.

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remember loves: context is everything. and personal opinion matters. If you still find this song to be a problem, that’s fine. But please don’t make it into something it’s not because it’s been stripped of cultural context.

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This is actually really interesting. I’ve never known a lot of the background to this song.

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Remember the last time the FCC nearly killed net neutrality?

Tumblr had this nice big banner at the top of your dashboard alerting any active user about the problem. Guess what has changed since then? Verizon, one of the companies gunning for the death of net neutrality owns yahoo who in turn own Tumblr. Spread the word, tell everyone you can: battleforthenet.com tag posts you see about net neutrality with popular tags so the news spreads.

When your story does what it wants

Currently participating in #NaNoWriMo and am writing a contemporary Christmas romance, originally very cliché with a girl falling for a boy etc... but I accidentally wrote a best girl-friend that my female character is falling for so I guess this is gonna be LGBTQ+. Problem: declaring it an “LGBTQ+ novel” would be a total spoiler at this point...

#writing #nanowrimo #contemporary romance #lgbtq+#novel #writer #sort of