Comfortably dominant

Male, 50 critical, confident, comfortable believer in traditional gender roles Minors keep away

[comfortablydominant]

Why?

Why do I believe that men should be in charge and women should be taken charge (and care) of?

Exhibit 1:

All the major world religions do not agree about the existence of gods, their number, their names, their laws, their activities and so on, and have also never been shy about going to war to strengthen their own ideas in this area. But there is one point they all virtually agree on: The submission of the woman to her man. Sure, there are differences in how this is handled, but this seems to be a universal truth, that has been known since the beginnings of mankind and carried via religion ans myths right into our present. Regardless where you live or what you think today: If you told your great-great-great-grandfather (or -mother, BTW) that women should be equal to men, chances are high that he would call you al lunatic.

Exhibit 2:

Whenever there is direct competition between the sexes, men in general tend to be better than women in general. Sports, chess, Nobel-prizes, whatever. In sports you even need separate competitions for men and women to allow women to win medals.

I strongly believe that wanting to create equality between men and women is a severe mistake. It makes both men and women worse off and causes anxiety and all sorts of psychological problems.

Men and women were created (or selected, for the Darwinists) for different purposes. A woman's biological purpose is procreation, it is her womb that alone allows the next generation of humans to come into existence. Even her biological clock is adapted to this, it runs in monthly cycles, that decide how she feels, acts and even thinks. Man on the other hand has the job to create the structure and material conditions for the continuation of the species, while his actual part in procreation is just the short time of intercourse (and technology has made even this optional). Mankind has bred both dogs and horses for millennia, with astonishing outcomes. Nonetheless it would be stupid to try to ride a dog or to let a horse guard your property. Biology is king.

I think both sexes can achieve the pinnacle of happiness and fulfill their purpose, when each follows the traditional way: A man by pursuing truth and his purpose, and leading his woman along with compassion, gentleness and wisdom. A woman by following his lead in love, submission and devotion.

[ck1957]

[comfortablydominant]

When will ball gags become a simple and ubiquitous fashion accessory, that is worn routinely by women of all backgrounds and agrs?

Few things enhance a girl's beauty more effectively with so little effort.

[margi-again]

[comfortablydominant]

Goals for girls

Casual submission.

She kneels at his feet, not in a formal position, presenting herself, but completely relaxed and at ease.

She's comfortable being close to him, yet below him. It's her natural state.

[7151915]

[comfortablydominant]

Slapping the bitch A slap in the face doesn't need to be particularly strong. Let your fingers make contact with her cheek instead of your wrist. The pain of the sting and the humiliation of getting slapped in the face will make her mind malleable and docile. Slaps are also a good tool to train away her resistance. A well trained girl should be able to accept them without resistance. A bit of flinching can be accepted, but keep an open eye for any bit of anger/aggression - these emotions must be dealt with swiftly and harshly.

[comfortablydominant]

Hello sir, i need your opinion on something.

How do i actually get a husband? I believe in traditional roles, and I'm very obedient, but most men i met are just interested in me sexually and they don't want anything more to do with me

Yes, in a time when short-term satisfaction is enough for many, finding a partner willing to commit long-term is a hard problem.

I cannot offer you a solution that will work 100% in all cases, but there are ways to increase the probability of finding what you desire.

First of all, I assume that you already dress and act femininely. If you do, there are 2 main archetypes you can follow: the slut/whore and the mother. The former certainly grants you more male attention than the latter, much of which is undesired by you. Presenting yourself in a modest or even frumpy, but still uncompromisingly traditional and feminine way may act as a filter.

Also do not submit to men or offer them sex as long as they are not 100% committed to a long-term relationship if that is what you desire. Be respectful, but keep your distance. You can and must not be obedient to all men, but only to the special one that you belong to.

[patriarchalsoul55]

He controls everything

As a female, you are completely powerless.

He controls and should control everything in your life.

How you behave, how you dress, where you go.... What, where, when, how and why you do what you do while there.

He controls what you say or if you even speak at all.

He controls when or if you see your friends and family.

He controls your finances, determining what, if any any out of your own pay check that you will or should receive.

He controls what you eat and how much.

He controls when and where you sleep as well as the duration.

He controls whether you sit, stand or crawl.

He determines if you are permitted on the furniture.

He controls when you use the bathroom and whether you do so inside or outside.

He controls what you do in His absence.

Naturally, you have daily chores that are monitored for time and efficiency.

He determines your weight and the exercise needed to keep it set.

He determines the size of your tits.

He determines whether to mark your body and to what degree.

He controls how, when and where He fucks you.

He determines who else fucks you.

He chooses which hole or holes He uses.

He chooses where He cums.

He determines when or if you cum.

He chooses if you get pregnant.

in short, His control, like your submission, is absolute.

[seekingobeisance]

[comfortablydominant]

A vanilla couple might hold hands to show that they belong together in public. When I hold you by your wrists, I do the same, but with the little twist that I am in control and you are not. You are being led - gently, but firmly.

[feminine-obedient-alexandra]

Golden Rules for the Wife Part 6

Dear men,

Let your wives sign this:

Draft: “Why I Spank My Wife”

I spank my wife because I can. Because I must. A wife without discipline grows careless. A smack keeps her in line.

I spank her when she talks back. A sharp hand across her backside reminds her that my word is final.

I spank her when she refuses me. If she turns her body away, I turn her over my knee and teach her that no is not an answer.

I spank her when she grows lazy. If she lies in bed without spirit, I slap her until she wakes to her duty.

I spank her when I want to see her bend. To see her kneel, to see her submit. The sound of my palm on her skin is the sound of my authority.

I spank her before I take her, to weaken her will. A reddened backside makes her easier to enter.

I spank her during, to remind her that her body is mine. Each strike drives the lesson deeper.

I spank her after, so she does not forget who gave her release and who allowed it.

Her pain is not the point. My control is the point. Her tears are not weakness. They are proof that she understands.

A red, burning backside is not shame. It is order. It is discipline. It is love on my terms.

[bimbokitti]

Why I think blowjob is the most submissive act

So, I love giving blowjobs. I really think they’re really the greatest act of adoration you can give a man and if you really mean it, the greatest act of submission and here is why.

1. First, a proper blowjob should be given on your knees. Kneeling is a a natural sign of submission. You are putting the person you are kneeling in front of higher up than you, you kneeling towards your betters. People kneel for kings and gods, not just anyone.

2. You are using your mouth on someone’s cock. The thing you use to express your ideas and thoughts is used on someone'special genitals. You can be a genius but unless you can express your ideas you are just another dummy, and cock sucking restricts your ability to express yourself.

3. In the end you are marked. I firmly believe all blowjobs end in facial and or swallowing. How do animals mark their territory? By putting their scent (usually urine) on something. Well seen is the same, it’s a way to show ownership.

4. This comes back to number 2. You are using stating I don’t need constant air to live, I am okay with choking to suck your cock. I can a bit without a necessity of life as long as cock in mouth.

5. Finally, coming into vulnerable position. Like mentioned in number one, you are on your knees. A guy can do anything to you, he can grab your head and use your face as cunt, or he can he can smack you very easily. It’s a very vulnerable position.

So, this is why I think blowjob is most submissive act. (The same applies to eating out as well)

[comfortablydominant]

6. You are giving pleasure to your superior while not receiving pleasure in return. Well, at least unless serving others selflessly gives you pleasure as well, which should be the goal of a good sub.

[comfortablydominant]

Men and women had different roles years ago because the world was different then. Physical work had more value, which men are admittedly more capable of by nature/by biology, so it makes sense men were the dominant sex.

The world has changed though and the contemporary world has proven females can compete and succeed over men in many fields. We're coming off the backfoot and still progressing ahead of you. In another 100 years, it may even be men that are seen as the weaker sex.

Respectfully, Im afraid your views are outdated and do not reflect the current world.

I think it is a bit preposterous to discount 5000 years of written history and 1.5 Million years of unwritten history by looking at a few, recent decades in a few select, wealthy countries.

Studies show that men and women allegedly possess the same average intelligence, but that the standard deviation among men is much higher. This means that there are more male imbeciles (who tend to remove themselves from the gene pool or at least society through crime or similar activities), but also many more male geniuses than female ones. And those are the people who drive technological and societal progress. The areas where women have gained are mostly highly socialized and regulated fields like academia or the rank and file of multinational corporations.

There is a tendency to overestimate the stability of societal norms and taboos: The society that arguably accomplished the greatest visible technological achievement of the last century and landed men on the moon, still used the trope of men spanking their wives in mass entertainment comedies. So what can move in one direction, can move in the opposite direction, as well.

And then there is demography: The raw birthrates show that feminism isn't sustainable. When a society virtually ceases to have children, it is going to die. And another society that still produces enough humans will take over, regardless of their values or average intelligence. When we think about zoo animals, we automatically assume that reluctance to procreate points to problems in their environment, but with humans we see it as a sign of societal progress. Could it be that our vision of societal progress is fundamentally flawed?

[comfortablydominant]

Permission

I expect you to ask for permission for everything:

to go out

to talk to people

to spend money

to have a treat

to sit on the couch

to start a diet or to end it

to wear pants

to do anything out of the ordinary

This is not because I don't trust you to (generally) make the right choice, but to remind you that you have no choice in these matters. You don't get to make decisions, you get to obey - plain and simple.

[comfortablydominant]

Soft girls

If you asked me to define everything a girl ought to be in one word, it wouldn't be "submissive", "docile" or "obedient" - it would instead be "soft".

"Soft" is the core principle of femininity - if a girl is soft, she is feminine. Softness and femininity touches all aspects of a girl's life:

Soft clothing Always go for the soft option when choosing your clothes for the day. Fur, wool, fleece - or something like silk in hot climates. Don't imitate male clothing styles, stay 100% feminine. A cardigan and a skirt look much better on you than a business suit and are at least as modest and respectable.

Soft movements Practice moving about smoothly and with grace. Getting up or sitting down should be one continuous movement. Take small, measured steps - together with soft, flowing clothing this makes your movements almost look like floating on air.

Soft talk Always keep a sweet and quiet tone. Raising your voice is unfeminine. Also using a sarcastic or mocking tone is not becoming of a woman. The tone of your voice should be pleasant to hear at all times.

Soft thoughts Train your mind to reflect your softness. Avoid harsh and rigid thoughts. Reason and logic are less important to you than feelings. Don't argue, yield. Use simple, repetitive chores and tasks to keep your mind busy and prevent it from wandering to places it shouldn't go.

[f4c4r-deactivated20241125]

Patriarchy =/= misogyny

Misogyny can be part of patriarchy and can be fun at times, but it's not essential if you want to support patriarchy.

Patriarchy is the natural order of relationship between men and women, supporting it is supporting women. Being pro-patriarchy is being pro-women in the most basic way. What could be more natural and loving than supporting a man leads - woman obeys dynamic?

Wanting your woman to stay at home looking after the house and children is not misogyny

Wanting the head of the house to lead and make the decisions for his family is not misgyny

Obeying his orders because you know he has his family's best interests at heart and trust him, is not misogyny

Giving a woman discipline to help keep her focused and punishing her when she does wrong is keeping the family stable and is not misogyny

Expecting your woman to listen to your guidance and follow your instructions for the optimal running of your home is not misogyny

A woman surrendering her own needs and wants for the betterment of the family and to better focus on his satisfaction is not misogyny

They are all the most loving and supportive things that can happen in a relationship.

Misogyny is hating women, it can be fun to roleplay, but it is not patriarchy.

[submissivewives]

[comfortablydominant]

A woman has no name and place in the world outside except through her husband. For others it is more important to know whom she belongs to (her man) than to know how to address her casually (by fist name).

[dedalus999]

Ladies, please remember the first thing you should buy your daughter, is an apron!

You have much work to do in life and this is part of your essential uniform, and it places you very much at the heart of family life. In the kitchen!

[stillvathek]

Docile

Docile is a good word.

Her owner says she’s docile. It makes her feel fuzzy.

She can’t always remember what it means though, because words can be so hard sometimes. Her owner always helps her remember. Every time she forgets he reminds her.

She gets onto her knees, she looks up with those big, dumb eyes, and she listens.

Docile means being soft.

Docile means giggling because you don’t understand the question.

Docile means nodding because you were told to.

Docile means only thinking what you’re allowed to think.

Docile means your mind never wanders from your owner.

Docile means you don’t have enough of a mind to wander at all.

And she listens, and he explains, and she nods when he tells her to, and she really tries to let it sink in but there’s so many words and the sound of his voice just makes her so wet and it all stops making sense and she just waits for a command so she can serve and obey and please him because that’s all she ever wants to do.

And he sees how her eyes have glazed over again, and he smiles and gives her a little pat on the head and enjoys how she shivers all over at the contact. Just a touch does that.

Docile.

Docile is a good way for a girl to be.

[comfortablydominant]

This. Girls should be soft, docile and yielding. Eager to please and eager to be happy.

[comfortablydominant]

Rape in the patriarchy

In a partriarchal society (or any working society, for that matter) women can not geberally be "free-use", just like any oter valuable and scarce ressource, simply because they usually belong to a man.

Prohibiting rape in most circumstances does not protect women's freedom to chose a partner and have consensual sex, but men's ownership rights over them.

If we look at biblical rape laws - not because they are something special, but simply because they are one of the few examples of ancient partiarchal rape laws we still know about - we see the following patterns:

Rape of a married (or engaged) woman is to be punished by death

If it happens in the countryside, and there was no one around but the perpetrator and the woman, only the man shall die, if it happened in a village, where people could have heard screams for help, both the man and the woman shall die.

If an unmarried virgin is raped, the perpetrator has to marry her and pay her father the bride price.

The last example shows that the good protected by the law is not the woman's sexual self-determination, but her man's (in the last case her father's) ownership of her.

To a father ownership of his daughters means the ability to sell them off for a bride price - this can easily be rectified by paying him an equivalent sum of money.

To a husband ownership of his wife means the ability to use her for procreation. This can not be easily rectified, as getting her pregnant by rape means that the husband would be forced to raise another man's child. So the consequences for the perpetrator are much harder in that case, just like the consequences of the crime for the woman's owner.

Another interesting point is the relevance of the site of the crime: The law assumes that a woman is unable to fend off a determined attacker, so if there was no help available, she bears no guilt.

But if help was theoretically available, the law assumes that it wasn't what we call "rape" at all, but consensual sex - in that case adultery, as the woman was owned by another man. And he punishment for adultery is death.

So rape laws in a future patriarchal society will probably be very strict and based on the provable fact of sexual intercourse and not on the often debatable agreement of consent or not.