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[deianaracrush]

TW: twitter TW: right wingers homophobia etc,

That is THE MARINER MOOSE. THE MASCOT OF THE SEATTLE MARINERS BASEBALL TEAM.

[draconym]

I'm eternally grateful that polyamorists have created or popularized a lot of terms to describe common experiences such as feeling joy at seeing your partner happy in another relationship (compersion), societal pressure to follow a specific progression or series of milestones for a relationship to be considered Serious (the relationship escalator), and a partner of your partner (metamour).

But I think that, much like Therapy Speak and its cutesy friends neurospicy and neurosparkly, words that might be useful for describing your own life can become cliché annoying jargon when someone else starts applying them to your experiences for you.

anyway. this post brought to you by the acquaintance who asked if I was "fluid bonded to both my nesting partners." next time just ask who I'm fucking.

[hotboxlesbo]

sorry i have to get on my soapbox bc the term fluid bonding is so regressive & conservative i actually hate that it has gotten literally any traction

there is no inherent “bond” that is created between people from having unprotected sex

anyone who uses this term has got to stop saying that. PLEASE. for me 🥺

[draconym]

I agree and it especially rubs me the wrong way when it's used like a euphemism for "having sex." Just say sex. If you mean unprotected sex specifically then say unprotected sex.

[thetrashiestoftrash]

I could be wrong, but I suspect "fluid bonded" SPECIFICALLY came out of gay male culture in the wake of the AIDS epidemic. But given the awkward steps queer vocabulary has been making lately, I would not be surprised if the polyam crowd picked it up as a cute way to say "fucking" and not, like, "we have made specific informed decisions about our shared sexual health."

[draconym]

It's definitely existed as a term for a while now, so I wouldn't be surprised, but weird stuff happens when one community's slang escapes containment and loses its context.

[grison-in-space]

It absolutely came out of AIDS-era safe sex culture and it does have a specific meaning beyond simply "fucking". fucking doesn't mean fluid bonded: you can be fucking through barrier methods, for example. you can also be fluid bonded with someone you aren't fucking, for example by sharing sex toys. It's an infectious disease harm reduction term intended to clarify levels of risk sharing between people, rather like "quarantine bubble" was.

Genuinely, fluid bonded is just a quarantine bubble for your genitalia. Totally cromulent term that has its own specific meaning, and anyone using it just to mean "fucking" is betraying that they don't know what they're talking about with this terminology.

[bucketofdeltav]

I (too young to remember the AIDS crisis firsthand) did absolutely know and use the proper meaning of fluid-bonded and it's very annoying to me if people are widening it to just mean 'fucking'.

They mean different things! It's a useful term when you use it to mean what it actually means!

e.g. below the cut.

"How many people are you fluid-bonded with" - if you say a number higher than zero, then regardless of the negative STD results we've just swapped, I'm grabbing a condom. Because I don't know your other partners, and they don't know me, and I do know how long some stuff takes to show up on a test, and there is plenty we can do without widening that bubble to include me.

[kittenwriter]

Based on the stated verbiage of the question asked, I suspect it's the OP who doesn't understand the language. I come to all of the words being used entirely through polyamory and I assure you it means the same thing there. The question being asked as I (someone with no subculture context for these words outside polyamory) would translate it is "are you sharing unprotected sex-based bodily fluids with both of the people you're living with?"

Which is a very rude question to ask an acquaintance no matter how you're wording it, and to my mind actually significantly more invasive than straight-up "are you fucking?"

[draconym]

I think people are missing my point by getting hung up on the term "fluid bonding." I don't actually have beef with this term or its purpose. I am, however, weirded out by the heavy use of cliqueish jargon in discussions surrounding polyamory, because I think it creates confusion and alienates people in favor of some weird in-group shibboleth.

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[considered-the-tetrapod]

Omg Solidworks on my Tumblr dot com?

[pmamtraveller]

Fish-shaped interlocking paving stones.

[thethirdromana]

The worst types of cookbook:

The Ottolenghi - it is vital that you use 1g of this very expensive ingredient. It comes from a 500g bag with a one-week shelf life.

The time machine - 15-minute recipe! First, leave to marinate overnight...

The dishwasher - one-pot recipe! Now decant your ingredients and wipe out your pot. And again. And again. And again.

The optimist - cook the onions until caramelised (2 minutes).

The kindergarten teacher - get one nommable little tree of broccoli and bosh that into boiling water. Delish!

The brand names only - ingredients: Ritz crackers, Philadelphia cheese, Cool Whip, orange Jell-o...

The 1950s palate - use one (1) clove of garlic and a small pinch of chili flakes (omit if preferred).

The why bother with a cookbook - to make beans on toast, gently heat a tin of beans and put on top of freshly buttered toast.

[thethirdromana]

#the overachiever: make this very time consuming ingredient from scratch even though it'll end up tasting worse than store bought

Amen to this @akasanata. "Now make your puff pastry from scratch". How about no❤️

[mapsontheweb]

US climate with equivalent cities from around the world.

Keep reading

[shabbytigers]

This is the greatest map I have ever seen. I want an interactive version where you can click on any city in the world and get a pop-up list of all the climate-equivalent cities.

[shabbytigers]

so it turns out this exists and it makes a fine rabbit hole for passing the time during a conference call

[queenbookwench]

OK, this is super neat and also a great tool for writers’

[mapsontheweb]

US climate with equivalent cities from around the world.

Keep reading

[shabbytigers]

This is the greatest map I have ever seen. I want an interactive version where you can click on any city in the world and get a pop-up list of all the climate-equivalent cities.

[shabbytigers]

so it turns out this exists and it makes a fine rabbit hole for passing the time during a conference call

[queenbookwench]

OK, this is super neat and also a great tool for writers’

[gaybichon]

i think i found my new favorite artist on twitter

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[heskynn]

“We decided to make the most of a quiet afternoon by ringing some Manx Shearwater chicks. With over 15,000 pairs on the island, most with a single chick down a single burrow, you’d be forgiven for thinking this was an easy, straightforward task. But the burrows which the Manxies excavate can be deep and awkward, and a few inconsiderately placed rocks and right angle bends in the tunnels made finding the chicks an epic task. Some of them are becoming quite fat but still have another 25 or so days left in their burrows before they make their first flight. The grey down which covers their body like a giant fleece insulates them well from the damp conditions in their burrow. We take wing length measurements as well as weights and this allows us to calculate their age and how well they are being fed. This particular chick is around 50 days old, and weighed over half a kilogram!” © Richard Brown

http://bardsey.blogspot.co.uk/2011/07/couple-of-grasshopper-warblers-blackcap.html

[charl0ttan]

whats everyones favorite cocktails. i totally adore a sex on the beach. no rum and coke okay i want your favorite gay ass colorful fruity tasting type of drink okay? okay. i trust you. i love you

[ozempicofficial]

[thisishowyoumakemovies]

That comment is spot on AND sciatica stretches are legit. The best treatment for sciatica is get stretchy.

Signed: Willem Defoe fan with sciatica

[wethekeegsta]

For anyone who doesn’t know, Sciatica is pain due to compression of the sciatic nerve, which runs from your buttocks down the back of your leg. The reason this stretch is helpful is because the sciatic nerve, after leaving your spinal cord, immediately runs just underneath - and may get compressed by - the Piriformis muscle deep in your buttcheek, which helps you externally rotate your hip. (If the muscle is super tight, your toes on that side might actually point further out when you lie down compared to the toes on your other foot, jsyk).

If the above stretch ain’t compatible with you for reasons like having bitch ass knees, here are some alternative and amazing stretches for the muscle in order of easiest to hardest (but imo least to most helpful) to perform:

However, just keep in mind that none of these stretches will help you if you have a herniated disc, which compresses the nerve roots that protrude from the spine itself! For that you’ll for sure need some different medical intervention.

Have fun!

[electricswamp]

[im-secretly-a-frog]

IF YOU DISLOCATE JOINTS EASILY PLEASE DON'T DO THE TOP ONE GANG you will dislocate your hip or knee, and be careful with the alternative one as hip dislocation is still possible with that

[backofthebookshelf]

If you're hypermobile/inclined to dislocation, what you want to do instead is get a massage gun and massage 1) the front of your hip where your jeans pockets are and 2) the top & side of your butt cheek for two minutes at a time when it hurts. You can also go all the way down the outside of your thigh if it doesn't hurt too bad. This will help release the muscles that are pinching or stretching that nerve without risking dislocation.

[draconym]

[professional-egg-layer]

They should make it easier for trans women

[maureen2musings]

Spangle-cheeked Tanager

javier.chaves.photography

[ninanation]

Come to think of it, it really is insane that my entire country is burning alive and literally no one in the rest of the world cares. Thousands of Indians are dying every day from the heat, it's 45+ degrees in multiple areas, the government couldn't give two fucks, we're getting severe warnings and red alerts, and not a soul outside of South Asia is speaking about it because why would you ever care about brown people

[ninanation]

please keep talking about how Becky from Maryland doesn't like the rising gas prices. It's clearly the more pressing issue.

[creacher-art]

USA folks, that is a consistent temperature range hitting 113°. Death Valley temperatures. In Banda, it hovered between 116°-118° (47°-48° C) for a week straight.

This has been happening all month with little to no international media attention. Here are a few organizations you can check out for resources or to support:

ActionAid India

SEEDS India

GlobalGiving

Raise India (Project Tapan)

[considered-the-tetrapod]

Wait can you tell me about the seattle city council and corner store regulations? What’s up with that

Yeah! Ok so after some brief research, it turns out I was a little wrong but had the gist.

From 1923 until last December (over one HUNDRED years) Seattle zoning laws have really limited new commercial businesses, including corner stores, in residential zones. I was under the impression that Seattle city council had continuously voted down changes to these zoning laws, but it was actually the Local Government Committee of the Washington State Senate. Most recently (says the Urbanist) we can blame the chair of that committee, who is a guy from Shoreline.

So this committee has killed legislation that would promote more bodega-type establishments three (3) years in a row, despite the people being pretty consistently in favor. This year it stalled out because Jesse thought there were too many mandates. Last time it was gutted on its way to the Senate in such a way that it would have outlawed several existing corner stores state-wide that sell alcohol. RIP bodega bill.

So that's what I was thinking of originally. BUT. It turns out that last December, the Seattle City Council independently loosened its restrictions. I had totally missed this! It's very exciting! It expands regulations proposed by the last mayor that would have only let them operate on literal corner blocks (lol Bruce. Lmao) and now allows retail establishments smaller than 2500sqft in residential blocks. They can only be open until 6pm, which is lame as hell, but it's a start.

That's what's up!

https://www.theurbanist.org/neighborhood-cafe-and-corner-store-bill-fails-for-third-straight-year/

https://www.garfieldmessenger.org/11558/uncategorized/just-around-the-corner/

https://secretseattle.co/seattle-zoning-rules-neighborhood-corner-stores/

[deianaracrush]

Seattle one-year large data center moratorium fucking rocks. An actual governance win in this city for once.

[considered-the-tetrapod]

RARE SEATTLE CITY COUNCIL W