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bonded with ✨ and an from @the-starry-cove-of-an

[corrupt-skittle]

i am loved i am loved i am loved

i owe no one anything of me

i am allowed to ask for support

i am worth it no matter what

my worth is priceless, and it is not based on anything i do, just my existence

i deserve to enjoy my favorite things

i deserve to be respected

i am worthy of being loved

i am smart

i am a person

i deserve to take up space and exist

i am loved as i exist in every moment

i deserve love and to be loved

i deserve good things

i deserve to feel safe

i deserve things and experiences that have no purpose other than making me happy

if nothing matters than we might as well make everything matter. if nothing is worth it and the world is collapsing and sinking and dying i’m making things worth it for myself

i want to touch people i want to make a difference i want to see things and touch and taste and create

and we’ll get what we want because we’re very determined

in this world, at this time, there is nothing wrong with being a little selfish

start putting to much love into everything. including yourself.

there is no time to make the most of it you have to start it now

[existennialmemes]

Hey!

[Kicks down your door]

[Grabs you by the shirt collar]

You better be holding space for yourself and giving yourself grace! Living in this world is so hard, and you're doing what you can with the resources at your disposal.

And maybe you don't love or even like yourself, but you're gonna take care of yourself anyway, and give yourself some water and sunlight and nutrients like the despondent, little house plant that you are.

[Kisses you gently on the forehead]

[Puts your door back on its hinges]

[mournfulroses]

Mu Xin, from a poem titled "After The Sleigh Incident," featured in A century of modern Chinese poetry : an anthology

[mournfulroses]

Rati Saxena, from a poem titled "Mountain Nights," featured in Not a muse : the inner lives of women : a world poetry anthology

[zoestorm]

The worst thing you can do, as someone who has recently realised they are transfem, is to let terves and transphobes convince you cis women will never accept you.

I was told that when I came out everyone would reject me. That I would find myself isolated from the world, and from other women especially, who would react to me with horror and revulsion.

In reality, within the first months of coming out, in no particular order:

My sister's reaction on my coming out was, "Right, so I have a sister instead of a brother. Cool. I'm taking you clothes shopping tomorrow."

A friend, when she learned I am a woman, immediately invited me to her women-only, girls-night-out birthday party the following week.

Another friend, when a friend of hers expressed doubts about my gender, immediately shut them down and reaffirmed I am a woman.

I went camping with a group of friends, and we had two tents, one for the boys and one for the girls; I was unsure as to which I should enter, to which a girl friend responded by grabbing me and physically dragging me inside the women's tent.

In the women's bathroom at a movie theatre a random woman, whom I'd never seen before and haven't seen since, stopped me as I was going into a stall, to warn me there was no toilet paper in there, because she'd just used the last of it.

All of these, and more, some from friends, some from complete strangers. All within a few months, as a trans woman who hadn't started medical transition yet, and was very visible as being a trans woman.

I've had some people reject me, true, but the vast majority, including almost all cis women, accepted me as a sister with open arms.

Cis women are cool. It's terves who are bigots.

[evil-wild-lesbian-wizard]

I needed to see this today

[thishasalwaysbeenmyname]

@this-is-trans-joy

[this-is-trans-joy]

This is trans joy!!!

[kaiserouo]

pov you see something alive after being alone for 40 years

[corrupt-skittle]

Random picture of my adorable floof for no reason

having a very bad day so this helps, thank you

[thecraftgremlin]

Where’s that one post that’s like Reasons Why My Wife Cried This Week and when are we gonna get a fanfic of that but Ryland Grace.

[stargirl-and-potts]

Reasons my human has cried:

* New student, very small. Grace said it was pebble. Pebble is small Earth rock. Pebble likes name.

* He found out Eridians have no gender rules.

* Students brought him mineral sample. After he stopped crying he said he loves show-and-tell game. Human naming conventions oddly literal.

* I told him Earthsun grew bright.

* I took him up atop atmosphere bypass elevator to look at stars.

* He woke up from nap and found me still with him. I did not wait on his chest; he says I am heavy like “elephant” and he “couldn’t breathe.” I laid my arm over him instead, kept him close, feeling safe. He said “cuddle” was warm.

* Before class he heard younglings singing.

* He has plants in house from sprouts on ship. Plant grew “bud.”

* Engineers got seawater temperature right. He took off shoes and stood in water, sighing. He didn’t care about pants getting damp. Cried until shirt was also damp. Humans very endlessly wet.

* He missed “Doritos.”

* Adrian helped food scientists make taumoeba dried paste. Made it crunchy after heating. We fused it into triangle form. Told him it was Tauritos. That made him laugh-cry. Laugh-cry is rare and precious.

* He remembered Eridians have no gender rules.

* We made him celebration outfit. Used metals he calls pretty. He can see frequencies named “colorful” and “shiny.” These make humans happiest.

* I gave him hug when he wasn’t expecting it. Easier to hug close now with exosuit. Hug when Grace sitting down so he does not fall over.

* Told him to think long time, stay with me as long as he can.

[mournfulroses]

Albert Camus, from a letter to María Casares featured in Correspondance, 1944-1959

[spacewonder19]

A Celestial Bauble: Supernova Remnant 0509-67.5 © ©

[memewhore]

[spleenyz]

[fallout-lou-begas]

[kermittingacrime]

ask and you shall receive.

[gayvampyr]

[jovishark]

some advice for people entering their 20s:

-dont go to the emergency room with dental problems. go to the dentist

-bagged greens are cheaper than pre-made salads

-taco bell is NOT worth the money anymore. 1/4 cup mayo, 1/4 cup sour cream, 3 tblspoons pickled jalapenos+2tblspoons of the jar liquid, 2 tsp paprika 1 tsp cumin 1 tsp garlic powder 1 tsp onion powder salt+pepper. all in your blender. creamy jalapeno sauce

-dont quit your job unless you have a bunch of job interviews lined up immediately after

-use resources. food bank, unemployment, housing assistance, financial aid, etc. yes there will be paperwork. but Do It

-dont stay awake longer than 20 hours. you Will start to become impulsive and cranky. resting for 20 minutes is better than trying to stay awake

-for every 2 hours you spend looking up close at screens, spend 20 minutes looking at something far away from you. stretch your wrists a lot

-dont do that yoga stretch where you roll your head around your shoulders. youre grinding down the joints in your neck

-be nice to your friends, bullying them as a joke gets old. if you need a ride somewhere at least offer them gas money

-brush your teeth at any time of the day but especially before you sleep. dont snack in bed if you can help it. make your bed the Clean Teeth Zone. keep floss picks by your bed

-dont tell your boss youre adhd/autism/depression/suicidal. dont trust your coworkers with that. you NEVER know how people will take it and its none of their business

-train your pets to go to the front door when they hear a fire alarm

-get regular oil changes

[type-blaze0]

No seriously, get regular oil changes. Learned in shop class that about half of the people that come to us don't change their oil until it gets chunky. Chunky oil is really bad. Chunky oil is only marginally better than no oil. In some cases, it might actually be worse.

[abby-howard]

Spoons is 15 today, happy sweet fifteenth spoons!!

[fandomsandfeminism]

What Happens When A Country Bans Spanking?

Researchers look at countries that have prohibited corporal punishment for kids and their rate of youth violence.

Now a new study looking at 400,000 youths from 88 countries around the world suggests such bans are making a difference in reducing youth violence. It marks the first systematic assessment of whether an association exists between a ban on corporal punishment and the frequency in which adolescents get into fights. 

[puolikarhu]

[F]or both boys and girls, [prof. Elizabeth Gershoff] said, “We found [spanking] linked to more aggression, more delinquent behavior, more mental health problems, worse relationships with parents, and putting the children at higher risk for physical abuse from their parents.”

“People often ask: Why didn’t you look for positive aspects?” she continued. “My answer is: We did, and there were none. We see consistently that the more children are spanked, the more behavioral problems they have in the years ahead.”

[quasi-normalcy]

Once again worth emphasizing that this is pretty much the exact opposite of what authoritarians said would happen

[moniquill]

This is an important study in the same way that many ‘water is wet’ studies are; it provides hard data that can be referred back to.

But yeah, startlingly enough if you don’t use violence to control children, they’re less likely to try to use violence to control others.

[cloudabserk]

that damn quilt is so cool i want one so bad

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

after all the hype for project hail mary i was pretty bummed they immediately defaulted to male language for the alien character of unknown biology. sir that is not a he/him it is a SENTIENT ROCK

[youhqveamazingart]

im not woke enough for this app

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

after all the hype for project hail mary i was pretty bummed they immediately defaulted to male language for the alien character of unknown biology. sir that is not a he/him it is a SENTIENT ROCK

[youhqveamazingart]

im not woke enough for this app

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]