hella

+i’m a freak that lives in the rocky mountains+

[orcboxer]

got a crick in my neck and a frog in my throat and a chip on my shoulder and a stick up my ass and now you're gonna stand there puttin words in my mouth? haven't I been through enough?

[ismenes]

you know those studies showing that cursing helps with pain tolerance or whatever. that’s how i feel about making my weird little noises to get through my basic daily activities. sometimes you just have to go hggblaaaah for a minute so you can find the strength within yourself to get up or wash the dishes or send an email. mmmnneh. urgh. the torments are unending but you can always make some little sounds about it.

[jetix]

2012-04-04

[dogpuppy]

[effinbirds]

[effinbirds]

[power-handmaiden]

when I was in high school I had a literature teacher who had a policy of unlimited extra credit. All you had to do was read a book by a notable author (his discretion) and have a little chat with him after school to prove that you read it. No limits, no need for variety (one month I decided I really loved Kurt Vonnegut and just read everything of his I could get my hands on).

Yes, I was tearing through books constantly, and talking to this teacher at least weekly. Because even though I always loved reading as a kid, literature was always a very weak subject for me in terms of a teaching-to-standardized-test school setting (I just do awful on "what color were the curtains" type multiple choice questions. Those details don't stick in my memory THEY JUST DON'T). But that didn't matter for this class. I could just read my way out of any bad test score. I have always had fond memories of how I "fudged" my way through that class and "abused' the extra credit policy.

I was thinking about it again today, and only just now realized that he absolutely tricked me into being well-read, while my teenage self thought I was totally getting away with something. THAT MOTHERFUCKER. I hope he's doing well.

[innerchildabortionclinic]

also I don't think parents "these days" are uniquely terrible, I just think neglect is showing up in new ways as technology progresses. today's ipad kid would've been wandering around in a ditch alone all day and night before. parents not wanting to have to deal with children is not a new phenomenon.

[64mpg]

[tekunoraizu]

Unfortunately it’s very easy to lure me places because I like to go somewhere

[20thcenturystarlet]

New York City ballet production of Midsummer Nights Dream

[thepeelingrenoir]

The fact this isn't a painting is a testament to one of the greatest feats of set design and production I've ever seen.

[thepeelingrenoir]

My god just look at this! The lighting, set design, photography... I've just never seen anything like it.

[jammerific]

I think this is the first time I've ever been wowed by "this ISN'T a painting"!

[timemachineyeah]

Didn’t anticipate one of the bonuses of going to a drag show in a smaller more conservative town would be getting to see a bro who clearly wandered into the wrong part of the bar by mistake experience what looked to be a transcendent awakening upon seeing his first drag show.

[timemachineyeah]

On of the queens halfway through the show, “Honey, are you straight?”

This man, in a strangled voice, “I don’t know”

[tooaceforthisspace]

We love the character development

[thethirdromana]

Putting the term "Catholic guilt" on a high shelf where fandom can't reach it until everyone learns how to identify characters who are very very clearly coded as Protestant.

[vampfuneralpyre]

[outaspaceman]

Hi Kids.!!!

Did y’miss me..?

[mylittleredgirl]

Do you have any advice for someone who is 16?

Watch Star Trek.

[mylittleredgirl]

I’m sorry anon. I realized belatedly that I basically just told you “turn to Jesus!” and walked away without explanation. I’m absolutely not kidding, though: Star Trek. Especially in times of difficulty and change: watch Star Trek. 

I was sixteen in the 90s, which was a much more hopeful time than now in most ways, but was also a far more isolating time for anyone atypical. I had no idea where to go to get information about what was wrong with me, or reassurance that I wasn’t alone. Without the internet, alone is pretty damn lonely. 

So I found myself turning to Star Trek captains to hear the messages I knew I needed to hear from an authority figure, but couldn’t find around me. Anon, I don’t know your situation or whether you’re among my Trek followers, so let me offer you a variety of options:

Keep reading

[dogpuppy]

[shubbabang]

its not funny but i do think about it a lot

[cranberrybogmummy]

Yeah I don’t get this.. glad I don’t have kids. I mean what are you supposed to say?

[chrismerle]

it’s about the context. if a kid feels bad about doing something, they are unlikely to do it again unless they feel like they have to or if they don’t know another way to get it done. children are just small humans; they don’t like feeling bad/guilty/etc. any more than anyone else does. so if a kid comes forward and says ‘I did this bad thing and I feel bad about it’ and you scold them for doing that thing that they already feel bad about, then you are effectively just scolding them for coming forward. if the kid already feels bad, they don’t need an adult to tell them they should feel bad. in reality, the kid was probably coming forward about it because they wanted the adult to explain how to make it right, or how to do it properly.

[cranberrybogmummy]

Thank you, this helps. I like kids but being autistic sometimes it’s confusing because here in don’t know what the script is.

[queeranarchism]

An appropriate script could be:

Telling the kid that it is very brave of them to come forward and admit that they did something wrong.

Having a conversation to find out why they did the bad thing. Sometimes there’s an underlying reason that needs to be addressed like ‘I’m worried the other kids think I’m not cool enough so I broke a rule’ or ‘I was mad at my sister because she called me fat so I broke her toy’, etc. These conversations might be more important than the bad thing.

Telling the kid that we all make bad decisions sometimes and while we should try not to do that again, making a bad decision doesn’t mean we’re bad forever.

Telling the kid that the best way to feel less bad about it is to try to make things right. Did they secretly take mom’s piece of cake? Maybe we can go bake a new piece of cake together and give it to mom. (The point here is not to make the kid really produce something of equal value to what they stole/broke/etc. A child often can not do that. The point is to practice what fixing the damage you have done looks like).

Finishing the conversation with supportive words and maybe a hug, depending on the child and your relationship to that child. Above all the goal is making sure the child leaves the conversation feeling happy that they chose to come forward and committed to doing so again if they mess up in the future.

[quasi-normalcy]