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Hello, I'm Nina/Lucy (she/her) and I LOVE LES MIS SO FUC KIN G MUCH. aroace, Japanese-American, living in the Jacksonville Florida area. Musicals are my passion

[lolittlered]

A "Rap Battle" Between Angelica and Jefferson About Women's Suffrage

Angelica- Thomas can we talk?

Jefferson- Ms. Schuyler! For you, anytime.

Angelica- It’s Church. Look, about what I said in my letter last time-

Jefferson- Oh, Angelica, please. I know you know better.

Angelica- Excuse me? What’s that meant to mean? You won’t even consider and you treat woman as if they’re weak, but who was asking for me to travel with him last week? You can’t have both Call me brilliant for flattery and naive when you disagree You can’t have both Think you somehow are we’re unequal by being Then turn around and act like I’m something you need Mr. Jefferson it’s lovely to make your acquaintance, How’s your wife? She must be so low maintenance Is she content without a say? I suppose you’d not hear it if not Maybe I should send a letter her way? I could ask her her opinion And I’m sure tell her an awful lot

Jefferson- Ms. Schuyler stop-

Angelica- Church!

Jefferson- Angelica, please-

Angelica- Don’t deny me rights and then try to flirt with me.

Jefferson- I get it, you don’t get it, But let me explain You’ll see I insist for the moment you listen, not speak

Angelica- Oh good, again, taking my voice If you meant a moment When you said a moment Rather than meaning a life of letting you speak over me Give you an inch, You take a mile Maybe otherwise I’d give you a little Let you off awhile

Jefferson- Listen. It’s a matter of what’s fickle And what’s delicate You’re not even a deligate If you understood the world you’d not even be arguing Angelica it’s a game of bargaining See, There are things women Are too soft to get Like how hard it is to meet European threat Or yet How difficult a debate you may face When trying and fighting to have things your way! I’m not stealing off with your words Just granting you salvation From the trails and struggles of forming a new nation

Angelica- How can you expect use to be passive and tell us in the same breath it’s our place to clean? My house isn’t what’s dirty The dirt is in the politics And the dirt is in our streets Mr. Jefferson you’re so blind you think I’m the one who can’t see So you want me to be quiet? Don’t write me Don’t bother Don’t waste your time Months of choking back what I’d like to say Every time you ask me to come your way Has been waste of mine So next time I need something I’ll just drop my brother in-law a line At least he does something to stimulate my … mind.

[neurotypicalsuggestions]

when people think they’re an exception to the “don’t touch me without my explicit permission” rule

[wetwareproblem]

Queer is not a slur.

Not when used as a self-identification, and not when used as an umbrella term within the community, at least.

See, here’s the thing: The most common identifier used by bi, pan, and trans people to describe their sexuality? Queer.

Given that multiple studies have shown that bi people alone comprise about half the community, that makes it by far the most common term we use to describe ourselves.

What’s more, it’s not just an identifier: it’s a rallying cry. It’s a banner the whole community has assembled under forever. “We’re here, we’re queer” is a cliché for a reason. It’s a statement of power, and of pride - yes, we’re weird. We don’t fit into the “acceptable” categories cisheteronormative society gives us. And that’s a good thing. It’s a call to demolish those “acceptable” boxes, to build a world we’re all part of.

Its rejection is a relatively recent move by the same homonationalism that brought us “Bi people don’t belong,” the thrilling sequel “Trans people don’t belong,” and the stunning conclusion “Ace people don’t belong.” It’s a deliberate strategy employed by respectability politicians seeking a seat at the table - taking the work we’ve put in and distancing themselves from us so they can tell the straights “We deserve your respect because we’re just like you! We even hate queers!”

(And don’t think it’s a coincidence that the community suddenly forgot the massive, massive overlap between “queer” and “poly” when building the very self-conscious image of two clean-cut upper-middle-class smiling young professional men or women either. Anything that wasn’t “respectable” enough had to go. My deepest thanks to the person who pointed this out.)

In the rush for our place in an oppressive hell, we’ve lost our revolutionary edge, lost our fire, and lost a lot of what drove us in the first place. Fuck. That.

I’m queer, and you will never take that away from me.

[oudeteron]

It’s nice being Tumblr Old and having some recollection of the self-identifiers we used before this website. The slogans alone should tell you the motivators behind using “queer” as opposed to other terms. There was “we’re here, we’re queer, get used to it!” There was “queer rage”. There was “not gay as in happy, but queer as in fuck you.” That last one especially shows rejection of any neat essentialist boxes – go away with your binaries, your easy categorization, and last but not least your respectability politics.

I’ve never seen “q slur” used before Tumblr, and even that only in the last maybe two years. I’m not playing the whole “you kids turn everything into a trigger” game, that’s not the point. My point is that almost uniformly older LGBTQ+ people on this website associate “queer” with empowerment, and it’s teenagers and early 20-somethings (who are almost the same age group as me, I’m 27) constructing this idea that it has always only been a slur, that it’s more prevalent than any other slurs still in use, and that this is somehow the “historically correct” view of the term and everyone using queer is ignorant of history. Which is just not true.

So anyway, here are some great functions of “queer” that aren’t replicated by any other term:

1) Wide relevance. Queer can be related to gender, sexuality, or both.

2) Opacity. It can be a stand-in for some other term (gay, bisexual, trans, etc), or it can actually mean something else altogether! Something that isn’t fully covered by any of those categories!

3) Queer could, therefore, actually function as an umbrella term (yeah, I know I can’t get away with that in the present climate, thanks for that). Calling everything gay, as has become the norm on Tumblr, isn’t only sticking it to The Straights ™; it’s also sticking it to all the LGBTQ+ people who don’t identify as gay specifically (not to mention straight trans people), and who never see ourselves brought up in casual conversation anymore. It’s back to “gay rights” style language.

And you know what, of course it is, because “LGBTQ+” and other versions of the abbreviation aren’t catchy. “Gay” is catchy. “Queer” is catchy. But for some reason, gee I wonder why it could be, “the community” has decided to eliminate precisely the term that does actually by default encompass a wide range of identities. And replace it with one that again gives primacy to “gay” as the default descriptor, as if the rest of us just don’t matter or should be happy with being “obliquely included” (that is to say, erased). We’ve come up with all this specialized terminology for gender and sexuality, but when it comes to being actually talked about aside from specifically describing yourself in an intro to your blog, it’s underused.

I could go on about how targeting “queer” disproportionately affects MGA and trans/nb people, including people with multiple marginalizations, who especially are likely to have a problem with all these discrete one-dimensional categories and feel that “queer” expresses something the other terms can’t. But that’s already covered in the OP under good old respectability politics.

TL;DR: You can’t just take away a term that many, many people in the community have been actively using for decades before your latest iteration of SGA discourse and expect no meaning to be lost or broken.

[gynoidgearhead]

@outderon

I think, in part, the notion of “queer is a slur” comes from the comparative rarity of encountering it as far as younger people are concerned. Which, of course, makes it sound much more punchy on occasions when it is used. But you’re absolutely right about all of this.

[the-supreme-dromaeosaurid]

queer is a slur. this isn’t up for debate. the whole point of queer nation and groups like it was that the word queer has a history of violence, and that’s why they chose it. it was meant to shock. it was meant to turn cishets’ weapons against them - but the word is still a weapon, and people who aren’t comfortable with it shouldn’t have it applied to them

yes, queer was central to anti-assimilationist groups like queer nation and act up, and yes, fighting against respectability politics is really important. but like, none of this negates queer’s history. its recent history was empowerment and reclamation in the late 80s/early 90s, but before that it was exclusively a slur, and it’s still used (particularly by and against older people) to dehumanise lgbt+ people.

there’s nothing wrong with using it as a self-identification (provided you’re not cishet), but using it as an umbrella term is shit because it forces a slur onto people who aren’t necessarily comfortable with it. for so many lgbt+ people the word is primarily associated with violence and hatred, and I shouldn’t need to say that referring to people by a slur without their permission is just downright terrible

[wetwareproblem]

Okay, I have several huge problems with this.

Who exactly made you the Grand Arbiter of our language? Why do you get to tell people who were in the community before you were born that they can no longer use their language?

Can you tell me another term that can be used in informal day-to-day speech that has never been a slur? Can you show me an “umbrella” term that hasn’t been used by people telling half the community they’re “not gay enough” or “too extreme”  or otherwise not worthy of being One Of Us? (In informal speech, I hear a lot of reversion to “gay” or “gay and lesbian;” hopefully I don’t have to explain what’s wrong here?) Can you show me a term that I can use to include all of us, as a person whose disability includes memory issues that make it very difficult to keep track of the ever-increasing alphabet soup?

A large part of this post is a response to people telling others who are self-identifying as queer “um sweaty :)))) that’s a slur :)))” – the same people who made “LGBT” into a warning sign – coming to tell us that we can’t use that word either, in any capacity.

You say “was” like anti-assimilationism is a footnote in a dusty history volume - to someone who is pushing back against assimilationism and the very real harm it is doing to a lot of the community.

“queer as an umbrella term is ahistorical” Oh, my sweet summer child. The first use of “queer” by people in the community as a broad descriptor was a century ago. The first use of it in the sense that I’m using it here - as a deliberately radical (both “radical politics” and “radically inclusive”) umbrella term applied to the whole community - predates the last major battle of the “who’s queer enough to count?” war and the use of LGBT, let alone the rest of the alphabet soup. I can show you formal scholarly articles about as old as you are that uncontroversially use it. Has it ever been used by the entire community to refer to the entire community? No. But neither has anything else that even pretends to include us all, and it definitely does have a storied history.

I wrote that post in response to a movement I’ve seen a fair amount of lately - the use of “queer is a slur” against people who are using it in a sense it’s had for over a quarter of a century in a deliberate bid to silence those of us who are hurt by supercessionist, assimilationist policies and tactics.

You want ahistorical? There are a lot of people right now trying to redefine the boundaries of the “LGBT” community to exclude folks who have been there all along, and to silence the voices of anybody who isn’t gay enough for their liking. 

You know what else is still used as a slur? Gay. Yet somehow, it’s completely uncontroversial. When people talk about how gay they are* or “gay rights” or “gay marriage,” nobody bats an eye. Nobody gives them the “um sweaty, that’s a slur” speech. Even if they’re straight.

Active slurs are apparently perfectly fine for straight people to use to discuss things that affect all of us. So you’ll pardon me for being extremely fucking skeptical of the singling out of this term, one that sees extremely strong usage by the segments of the community keep being marginalized within the community, as unacceptable or a step too far. I’ve heard “That’s a step too far” way too many times from “LGBT” people and organizations - usually when I, as a trans person, ask them to fight for my rights too, or when I, as a bi person, ask for a face and a voice and maybe some resources.

The only thing that makes “queer” unacceptable where “gay” is uncontroversial is who’s using it.

Am I going to call specific, individual people queer? Not unless I’ve seen them actively claim it. Am I going to talk about the queer community, queer issues, queer rights? Hell yes I am - because the community that wants me as a member, the community I want to be a member of, is queer.

“Queer is a slur” is doing damage to me. Queer community, queer politics, and being queer are liberating me.

[sinidentidades-blog]

People starving when tons of unsold food is thrown away globally because people couldn’t afford to purchase the food, that’s violence. 

People dying and going bankrupt to pay for their healthcare, that’s violence. 

People being evicted from their homes when there are more houses than there are houseless people, that’s violence.

[sleepyowlet]

And people fighting back against a system that hurts them isn’t vandalism or rioting - it’s self defence.

[cumulusdream]

the signs as café drinks!!

[thefatbottomgal-deactivated2019]

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO I HATE ICED TEA

[its-a-story-of-love]

To all the Americans who don’t understand Eurovision.

I don’t understand why Donald Trump is an American presidential candidate.

[princessnijireiki]

I don’t understand why y'all imported white supremacy, literal Naziism, the Trans-Atlantic slave trade, smallpox, and syphilis into the Western hemisphere, either, but I don’t bring that shit up every time y'all don’t understand our reality TV.

[parentheticalaside]

The only acceptable reason for this is if this character is actually a demon who seduces men and then eats them. [source]

[blacklaceandcombatboots-deactiv]

who wrote this, expose him

[ofools]

my breasts are nicely separated. Completely divided, every year they move apart by half an inch.

[tobjoernebaer]

My breasts are nicely separated though they still fight for custody of the children.

[tyradicalsaurusreg-deactivated2]

I,,a woman,,,am WiDeR LOweR dOwN

[lesbian-lizards]

That was difficult to read.

[didi-is-spiffy-deactivated20190]

So ugly

[beforeliteracytherewasdeez]

My name is Ebony D'arkness Dementia Raven Way, and my breasts are nicely separated

[sunnysrecovery]

OH MY GOD WHAT IS THAT AND HOW ON EARTH DID IT GET PUBLISHED

[bonitabreezy]

You can always tell when it’s a man writing a description because they focus oddly on the breasts. There will always be something about breasts and I can’t tell you how many times I’ve read historical or fantasy fiction and they talk about “her breasts hanging freely under her tunic” or what the fuck ever and it’s like…women don’t do that? We don’t describe ourselves by saying “I have blonde hair and blue eyes and my breasts hang freely under my tunic”. I kind of feel like we should counter by awkwardly mentioning all male character’s balls in their description. It’s kind of in the same vein.

[imoldbutimstillintothat]

“I have auburn hair and hazel eyes and my copious nicely separated balls hangs freely under my breeches”

[aestheticminyard]

idk if you remember me I gave the andreil+too short+books prompt a while back anyway I want you to consider: andreil+"saying I love you by accident because I was about to hang up and then it sorta slipped out oops" (it came to me while I was studying)

ok so while i stand by what nora said that andrew and neil don’t really say “i love you”—like they can convey the meaning other ways, through other phrases, and through touches and looks—but i do like this prompt

(also that library au, too short to reach the top shelf one was great. thanks!)

so andrew and neil don’t always get what they want

(clearly)

so, even though neil wants to be signed to andrew’s team right out of college, it doesn’t happen

they end up practically across the country from one another (neither is in california, though, for obvious reasons)

time zones are different, practice schedules collide, they’re at the end of their respective ropes

they just want to fucking see each other

they do, when it’s on a court, facing each other with smirks and deadly promises

(they do, in andrew’s car after the game, on each other with teeth and hands and bruising lips)

though andrew would never admit it, he still craves more

Keep reading

[the-perks-of-being-black]

[amandaseales]

It wasn’t.

[okcupidescapades]

one time when i was a little drunk and laying in bed with a guy, i kissed his neck and mumbled “i could beat the shit out of you” in his ear.

he said “i know”

[firstjumperonfire]

imagine your otp

[texasgunnersmate-deactivated201]

[pearswhy]

i came home from college and my cat is pissed

[pearswhy]

remember that time my cat yelled at me when i came home for winter break

[darkseid-deactivated20190806]

THIS IS SO CUTE.

[thefingerfuckingfemalefury]

They look so offended like ‘YOU WERE GONE FOR FOREVER

WHY DID YOU NOT BRING ME WITH YOU I NEEDED PETTINGS AND ATTENTION’

[princessofbadassery]

DON’T TRY TO PET ME WHILE I’M YELLING AT YOU

[thefingerfuckingfemalefury]

YOU CAN’T PET AWAY MY ANGER

[malkavianacts]

THAT IS A LEGIT LECTURE OMG

[pun--candy]

@gottahaveguts

[depndent-deactivated20161012]

how to be a good cis ally

DO NOT:

force yourself into the trans community

expect praise for treating someone properly

argue with trans people over their identities

argue with trans people over their oppression or experience with such

act as if you have any authority in the trans community

argue with trans people over intra-community issues

expect your opinion to be held over that of a trans persons

expect all of us to be the same

expect all of us to agree with you

use your trans friends to excuse your own actions

believe that just because one trans person agrees with you that you are right

disrespect a trans person because you dont agree with them

misgender a trans person because you dont agree with them

stop supporting trans people just because one trans person disagreed with you

DO:

respect the trans people you know

meet different trans people, not just certain offsets of the community

remain as a supportive force outside of the community

remember who is being oppressed and who isnt

remember that trans experiences come before yours as far as defining transness goes

use the right pronouns (even if someone isnt “nice”)

leave intra-community issues to us, we will handle them

do what you can to make your trans friends feel comfortable in their skin and validated

[factualpon3]

How to get more cis allies: -Stop saying down “with the cis.”

Originally posted by travcity

[depndent-deactivated20161012]

binch this post didnt even mention dwc but if you wanna play that game lmao cool

a cis person who chooses not to side with the oppressed because they disagree with how the oppressed display their exasperation is not someone who id want to be an ally regardless, because im not going to pander to anyone just for basic respect uwu

[cumaeansibyl]

people talking about “forced diversity” like characters being PoC or LGBT or disabled “for no reason” like

are people in real life PoC or LGBT or disabled for a reason

do these critics run up to people on the street like WHY ARE YOU BLACK

[bittersuggestion]

Reinvent yourself as many times as you want

[greelin]

i have no concept of what is too much affection or too little affection like it constantly feels like i’m somehow simultaneously doing both too much and not enough with every single person i come into contact with and that’s a real party

[weallheartonedirection]

All these years I’ve been looking at the wrong side.

[power-goku-deactivated20221118]

dark fda show me the illegal foods